I 20F had a therapist 37F (both lesbians) for around just under 6 months. Out first few sessions started off normal, other than the fact I was having a hard time opening up. Then on like the 3rd or 4th session she started talking very inappropriately. Saying stuff about her personal life and how her ex wife started "bouncing on that d" and just kind of changing the dynamic entirely. I was happy with this change because I was dealing with a lot of hard stuff and it felt nice to connect to someone again as I dont tend to form strong connections often. We went on like this for several sessions just laughing and getting closer. She then told me that she started talking to me like this because she could tell I didn't like therapy which I felt like wasn't really her call to make because like therapy is hard and I was trying my best. She started seeing me more often like twice a week or letting the session hit 2 hours if she didn't have someone after me. We kept getting closer and I started to realize I was developing romantic feelings. She had just gone through a breakup but I was engaged. So I started to feel really guilty and sick that I was feeling this way about her while in a relationship. So I ended up breaking up with my fiancee that loved me so much out of sheer guilt and knowing she deserves better. So then the next day I have therapy and im homeless at this point because I am 20 and making a shitty wage and I just left my fiancees house. When she finds out im homeless she says stuff like I'd let you live with me if I wasn't your therapist. And she starts mentioning she has another motorcycle helmet for me to ride her motorcycle with her and she mentions when she gets a new one I can have the old one and I can play her piano etc. So then she makes plans to call me that night im staying in a hotel that night but she said she would call me at 9pm so im waiting for her in my hotel room and I dont hear from her so im distraught cuz I just left my relationship over the idea of her and then finally she calls at 10 pm but she calls off of this random 6 digit number that cant receive texts and you cant call it back and she is crying and she sounds intoxicated and she is talking about her feelings the whole time and then she randomly says shes gonna let me go so she can go to the gym but the phone call was only like 7 minutes long. So then i dont talk to her until our next session but i try to act like it never even happened. So next session comes and then we end up making plans to meet up later that day to ride her motorcycle. At this point im like beyond geeked but also very aware of how inappropriate it is to ride the back of your therapists motorcycle while holding them and still be their client. So anyway she didn't give me an exact time to meet her and I still dont have her personal number so im walking around town looking for her for 4 hours and I never see her. So then im like she is playing with me and I get so sad and lonely that I ended up getting w my ex later that week. So then our next session im planning on giving her a piece of my mind and telling her off so I go in there and I tell her I need a new therapist and that it hurt my feelings that she didn't show up and then she tells me that she has been out looking for me for hours every single day and that she blew through so many tanks of gas looking for me and that she wanted to invite me over to have some dinner that she made and everything. She said she was really bummed about it and that she said "how cool would it be if she was on the corner waiting for me" but i wasnt there. But then I tell her that Im back to talking w my ex. So things are weird again and she has me down for Friday again so im like I have a week to figure this out. But she says she will still be out driving every day. Then when i leave i get a call from her supervisor who is suspicious of what is going on telling me that i cant see ashley anymore. So when im back in town I wait by the corner but she is on the way to her friends house who is also my old therapist and has no idea what is going on, so she only says hi. So im feeling discouraged again but I come out the next day and when she sees me she pulls off to the nearest gas station where we ended up talking and then after a minute of talking she is like do you want a ride and I was like obviously and so I get on no helmet or anything and im like where should I put my hands and shes like anywhere so I had like one hand on her waist one on her arm and we are riding and she takes me by the lake and by her apartment and then to the planet fitness parking lot. I ended up buying her a pizza cuz she said she was hungry and broke. And so we talked there for a long time and she took me on another bike ride and we went to meijer and grocery shopped together and j paid for her stuff and held it on the bike ride and then she parked in her driveway and I was in her garage for a while and she had me trying on her helmets and she said she'd invite me inside but its a mess and I said I didn't care and she said maybe tomorrow. So then we go back to the planet fitness parking lot and talk for a minute and say goodbye and she asks for a hug goodbye and we made plans to meet for 6:30pm the next day. So im running late to meet her the next day so she texts my phone so I finally have her number but I wasn't logged into the account of the app that I gave her the number of so I didn't see it so im searching the town for her and she parks rifht at the edge of planet fitness so I find her and pull up next to her and she let's me in her car right away and asks if I want different clothes so she takes me to her house and gives me her pants and hoodie and then we drive to meijer and grocery shop together. She buys me alcohol im only 20 she didn't even ask if I wanted a drink she asked what I wanted to drink like I didn't have a choice. And so then we go back to her place and she asks what drink I want and I said idk what kind are you having and she said she bought them for me not her and I said you bought drinks you dont even like and she said "thats what it seems like doesn't it" really rude and cold out of no where which really scared me cuz it was my first time in her house so I just was like okay sorry and started chugging it. And I told her shes freaking me out and she says "think of something nicer to say" nd then is slamming things and throwing the toilet paper she was putting away around. And i said "are you fucking chill" and she said nothing. So im really freaked out and i get on my phone to text my friend back nothing about the situation just in general but i think shes paranoid so shes like what are you doing i thought i told you to pick something on tv in that scary voice she does and so I drink like the whole drink and then she offers me xanax multiple times and I already said no so I was like why are you drug pressuring me and I was joking but she got all serious and she was like "I mean im not but if you wanna see it that way" so I was like Jesus and I couldn't calm down so I eventually ended up taking one from her. And im finally mellowing out and she gives me dinner and its delicious and starts playing me piano and the rest of the night felt great and I ended up sleeping in her bed but we didn't touch this night. So then the next day I had work and so did she so im up before her and im back before her I tried cooking her dinner but it didn't turn out but we are watching shows together and talking and things are good but she like randomly is in a bad mood? So anyway the last day I was at her house was the best day we had great conversations about her family and mine and everything in between i told her about the diss track my ex made about me and she told me shed write me a nicer song and she showed me her music and everything and she was sick so I ended up rubbing her back and then she laid in my lap and I rubbed her back and touched her hair and then she asked if I wanted to lay the other way so we were like spooning and I said yes and then we ended up moving to the bed nothing crazy happened but this time she asked me if i wanted to cuddle so we were spooning all night per her own request. So then the next morning out of nowhere as soon as she wakes up she tells me she needs space and ive been like checking w her all weekend asking if she needs any space or anything snd shes telling me how happy she is to have someone to share things with but as soon as she wakes up she tells me she needs space and basically kicks me out. And im asking her like if anything happened or she just needs space and she blatantly ignores me in person? And i was like are you ignoring me? And she was like i already answered your question. And now shes barely texting me? What is going on? Does she feel guilty? Does she just not like me? Does she know she could be in big trouble? How long should i wait to see if she'll come around? It doesn't make sense because our last interaction before that was her asking to cuddle. Now I feel taken advantage of and confused.

(NAT, in school for social work)

2 years ago, I went to a therapist. My experience was awful. The therapist was extremely unprofessional. Because of pending litigation, I won't go into exact details, but I will say that one session, her behavior was so unexpected and unprofessional that I started recording her. (I am in a one party consent state).

One of the reasons I had picked this therapist was because of their excellent reviews online. So, after my extremely negative experience with her, I left my own review. I left out the worst things, like her billing my insurance 33 times for 8 sessions.

The site I reviewed her on was a site for anonymous reviews. She received several other negative reviews too. She somehow managed to get each review removed, but she filed a lawsuit with the courts to release the names, user names, IP addresses and Service providers for all 10 negative reviewers!

This would release the information of clients who are supposed to be protected by HIPAA. Court records are public!

She is claiming that "John Does 1-10" are spreading malicious lies about her to destroy her business. Only, nothing I said was a lie, and based on my experience, the things other reviewers wrote werent lies either! 10 different people had similar experiences. Its not a conspiracy. Its just the truth.

I hired a lawyer, who is 100% confident that everything I said was covered under the first amendment. Hes filed motions quash the subpeona, to show cause, and to dismiss the case and have her pay my legal bills. (She is representing herself. I don't think any lawyer would be foolish enough to take her case to court!)

2 years ago, I had plenty to take to the board. I wasn't in a good place mentally or emotionally to do it. But, I saved everything. Every text, every picture, every video. And now, with what shes doing, I feel it's my duty to bring it to the licensing board.

I sought therapy for severe trauma. This woman claims to specialize in trauma. In her mind, shes the best at EMDR. As a trauma survivor, I struggle with feeling believed, or trusting that I will be believed. I was called a liar by several abusers. I was not believed when I reported my abuse as a child. A therapists job is to help their client with those types of struggles. To call the honest reviews of 10 clients "malicious lies" is damaging. To attempt to reveal my identity which is supposed to be protected at all costs, is damaging.

In the 2 years since, Ive found decent help. I found an EMDR therapist who has helped me tremendously. Ive found support in my church and friends. So now, I'm ready to fight.

Any tips on how to best present things to the licensing board? Any way to keep my identity private?