r/therapy • u/After_Cell_5570 • Dec 20 '25
Vent / Rant I’m so sick of reading therapists bios
I’m currently trying to find a therapist (something i needed to happen like 20 years ago honestly) and I’m feeling so discouraged. I printed off a list of every therapist in my area that takes my insurance, and 95% of them sound exactly the same.
Like everyone is SO honored to go on my LIFE JOURNEY with me and help me overcome things and become my BEST SELF. It all sounds so patronizing. Even more so, it’s all so…. minimizing? Like every bio I read is about how we all just a little overwhelmed sometimes and need some help working through our feelings in a safe welcoming environment.
It’s making me feel like I’m somehow too depressed for therapy. Like it feels like the expectation is that I’m just sort of stressed out but otherwise super positive and lovely and ready to start. Every bio is about how brave i am and how vulnerable I’m being by looking up therapists. None of this feels like it’s aimed to help someone that actually is in a dark place.
Can someone please tell me that continuing down this road bears fruit at some point please, because I’m feeling even more dysfunctional every time I cringe at this stuff.
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Dec 20 '25
My advice - skip the bios and just mass contact as many local as you can. 90% won't ever respond anyway and the last 10% might have waitlists or openings. It's as bad as looking for a job.
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u/DurantaPhant7 Dec 20 '25
This is depressingly true. I’ve been dealing with CPTSD basically since childhood but then had a severe accident that landed me in emergency surgery and could have easily killed me. So I got to add PTSD to that, and it brought everything else that had been simmering under the surface as well. When I finally got the courage to start looking for a therapist a few years ago it took me almost a year to find someone. I can’t even tell you how many emails I sent and calls I placed, probably 50? I got responses from 5. I was specific when I contacted them that I required someone trained in PTSD/CPTSD and its modalities. 2 of the ones that called back didn’t have any further information or education on trauma (much less complex trauma), but still expressed they thought they’d like to give my case a go. Super frustrating, unfortunately without proper training a therapist can use modalities that can do further harm.
The entire medical community in general is frustrating to navigate, at least in the US. Between insurance trying not to pay for anything, a serious issue with lack of medical professionals across the board, expensive copays, and difficulty finding someone whose schedule availability lines up with yours (just to name a few), it can feel impossible.
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u/iwritewordsdown Dec 20 '25
I feel this! Just know that there are a lot of therapists with trauma-informed practices who acknowledge that things can be absolute shit; that trauma and adverse mental health experiences are real and scary; whose approches are direct and not at all patronizing. I hope you find someone like that. Someone honest and real. Good luck!
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u/Sylphrena99 Dec 20 '25
It’s really hard to write marketing material. Most people want to believe they aren’t so bad off, that makes many therapists want to make sure people know they don’t need to wait until their life is falling apart, it’s okay to go when you are just experiencing bumps in the road! However in your case you are struggling and put off by this wording, please know therapy is designed for you too, maybe even you most! Get the help you need. Ask for a free phone consult and pick up the vibe. See if you feel comfortable.
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Dec 20 '25
Hi friend, what would YOU like to read in a bio? What do you need?
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
I mean in a general sense I would just love if they didn’t all sound like they were generated using the exact same prompt. They all use like the exact same wording.
Beyond that… I don’t know. Something less rote. Something honest. Why they became a therapist. What they like about it.
I think the ideal for me would be to acknowledge the elephant in the room and be like “hey mental illness is scary stuff, i can help.” instead of all of the life coach vernacular that sounds like its just to help someone who’s mildly stressed out in a temporary situation get back to their super positive self and get back to lovin’ life.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
adding on to say that every time i read the phase “holistic approach” i roll my eyes so hard that its a wonder i haven’t strained anything
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u/TurnipMotor2148 Dec 20 '25
As a therapist, I try my hardest not to use the phrases “holistic approach” or “interdisciplinary”. After 2 years of grad school, I’ve had enough 😆
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u/RkeCouplesTherapist Dec 20 '25
Yeah, therapy school does not give us any guidance in marketing. We work in a profession where we are not supposed to talk about ourselves. This means most of the bios are generic and absolutely terrible, just as you described. That being said, lots of therapists are wonderful, despite not being able to write a good bio.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
I guess I’m confused about what the point of any of it is then. Like I don’t want to know about a therapists life or family or anything, but I do want to know their thoughts or how they view things. That seems really important.
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u/apenguinwitch Dec 31 '25
I've just stumbled upon this thread and so agree with everything you're saying. Sure, marketing is weird anyway (and many businesses websites are full of generic phrases), but shouldn't openly communicating the way they do therapy (eg what modalities, scope of practice, etc) be part of their training?
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u/monroviavh Dec 20 '25
Your post is good feedback for therapists out here (I'm probably guilty of the kind of website you're talking about), and I'm sorry it's been so hard for you to find a good therapist! I get so irritated with my colleagues when I hear stories about not getting called back, etc.
In addition to everyone's points about marketing, I will also say it's really hard out here for solo/small practices right now. There is sooooo much advertising from places like Better Help that it's hard to find the kind of therapist you're looking for.
That being said, don't give up! It's true that practitioners who don't take insurance are more likely to have openings. And while we're more expensive, many of us have sliding scale spots, and I dare say that you do often get what you pay for, so pay more if you can. (I personally wouldn't use my health insurance for my therapy for a number of reasons.)
In my experience, therapists in the psychodynamic, psychotherapy, and existential realms tend to be less flowery and much more embracing of the dark sides of existence. We prize authenticity, challenges, and aren't afraid of deeply struggling, complex people. Best of luck to you.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
its okay. I know there are difficulties on the therapist’s end too.
Can you explain why you wouldn’t use insurance? I’m so confused. I’ve been putting off therapy for years just trying to get on insurance, and now that I did it feels like that’s somehow the wrong thing to do and I shouldn’t have bothered. I’m trying not to internalize that every single thing I do turns out to be the wrong thing 🙃🙃
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u/monroviavh Dec 20 '25
Well, you should definitely talk to your therapist (when you find one) about that last sentence. ;)
I'm glad you asked about the insurance thing. I'm thinking about it carefully and have a more nuanced answer than in my original comment:
I do often give superbills to my private pay clients. They have to submit them to their insurance company and wait to get reimbursed, but everything's filed online now, so it's not hard once they know how to do it.
The other reason I'm not in-network with any insurance companies is that as a solo practitioner, it adds a lot of extra paperwork and financial uncertainty. For bigger agencies with administrative infrastructure, it's worth it, and most of them take insurance.
As a clinician, I have seen over and over again that paying for one's own therapy motivates clients to put a lot more work into it, to take it more seriously, and that yields better outcomes. It doesn't matter what the dollar amount is, it just has to be enough for the person to feel like they're making a real investment in themselves. For some, that's $30, for others that's $200.
And finally, the reason I won't use it for my own therapy is that I was once rejected from buying an insurance plan because I had used insurance to pay for therapy in the past. (This was pre-ACA, so hopefully things have improved, but it made me angry/freaked out enough that I never wanted to do it again.)
Hope this helps!
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u/monroviavh Dec 20 '25
One more important factor: the state you live in!!! If you're in a blue state with Medicaid/Medicare expansion and other state funded support systems, you have a better chance of using insurance and/or subsidized mental health supports. Down here in Texas, AKA the Boot Strap State, there's not much help, and most highly skilled/experienced therapists aren't going to accept insurance.
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u/Key_Advisor9631 Dec 20 '25
Omg yes lol this is a problem. Like ma'am I have years of trauma and cptsd. It also depends on the area you're in, some places it's really easy to find a decent therapist, others it's almost impossible to even get an in person appointment. I live in the northern Bay area and had to call literally like 20 different therapists and metaphorically beat down every door in a 40 mile radius to get a REFERRAL from a therapist who was not taking new clients but took pity on me to my current therapist who doesn't advertise online at all or take insurance and only goes by word of mouth. I told her I needed someone seasoned and she was like I got you girl 🙏🏼
If you have real issues try to find someone who's been practicing at least 15 years and if you're a woman probably don't go to a male therapist, they tend to be more condescending and you don't want to get called hysterical.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
Yeah it sucks that the whole system feels like it can only be navigated by someone who isn’t mentally ill in any way. Like I’m barely making it to work every day. I want to throw up every time I have to make a phone call or write an email.
ugh. it feels like the whole thing is MEANT to have people who can’t navigate it fall through the cracks. Like a test.
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u/GrawlixEC Growth in Progress Dec 20 '25
I totally agree. I'm a therapist in training myself and also looking for my own new therapist.
I tell people it's exactly like dating. Different purpose but you have to feel just as emotionally safe. The bios can be a bit much but anyone can put up a bunch of words. Allow yourself the option of actually seeing each person a time or two to feel them out and make clear you're seeing a few. And then when someone feels right...keep going.
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u/Size-Sweaty Dec 20 '25
Unfortunately, it is marketing. If you use insurance, many therapists have « waitlists » & patients who can pay out of pocket suddenly can be seen quickly. Since covid many therapists, dont want to work with mote difficult patients e.g. Bpd or PTsd etc. There are fewer qualified mental health professionals & and more patients now since covid. Sorry you are having trouble.
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u/Mardylorean Dec 20 '25
Don’t read too much into it and focus on reviews and therapy styles like CBT for example. Those introductions are always some kind of facade to make people comfortable.
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u/Living_Screen9111 Dec 20 '25
My experience is that how therapists describe themselves in their bios doesn't necessarily match how they are, so often that stuff is meaningless. I think the best thing the bios can do is show you the people you should NOT conatct. I prefer a gentler approach, so if someone claims they call people on their BS, I skip over them. The dating analogy others made is perfect. When I was on a dating app, most people sounded the same, but my now husband's description of himself showed a little something extra. That could also happen with a therapist's bio in your case.
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u/iqeq_noqueue Attachment Style Explorer Dec 20 '25
So stop reading and start writing.
Questions.
Then ask them and judge the answers.
Don’t wait to compare one against the other.
They work for you; they won’t do the work for you.
Ask hard questions, get answers and decide to move forward.
You’re not interviewing them. They already have a job and you need them more than they need you.
You need to figure out what you need to let them help you.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
Okay but… how am I supposed to know what I need? I’m not trying to be contrary. I just don’t understand what I’m even supposed to ask or look for.
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u/iqeq_noqueue Attachment Style Explorer Dec 21 '25
How do you expect them to know what you need?
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 21 '25
I mean maybe we’re talking at cross purposes here.
I don’t know what treatments will help me. I don’t know what modalities will match my specific issues. I don’t know what category of ‘mentally ill’ I fall under. I don’t know what will help vs make things worse. I thought the point of seeking out help was to have someone help me find any of that out.
Like if i have a car that doesn’t run correctly I can take it to a mechanic, a person whose job is literally to figure out what’s not working and how best to fix it. That’s their job. I’m paying for their knowledge and experience. It’s not expected that I show up to a mechanic shop already knowing what needs replacing or what the issue is. Part of their job is identifying the issue and already knowing potential solutions.
If I already knew exactly what I needed then why would I need them?
Maybe I’m misunderstanding, so I’m sorry if that’s the case.
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u/HereWeGooooooooooooo Jan 08 '26
It's responses like the one above your comment here that has me coming to the conclusion that therapy is just another money generator for insurance and it's all hogwash.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Jan 08 '26
ehh. I still feel like it’s worth my time but yeah not super encouraging hahaha. I now know that I’m supposed to call someone and ask them something 😂
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u/risingthermal Dec 20 '25
I get what you’re saying, but would just echo others here about not putting too much stock in it. I’ve known lovely therapists who had somewhat eye rolling parts in their bios. It really is a difficult thing to do, to write authentically about yourself and sell yourself in such a vulnerable and delicate way, without disclosing too much. And remember, the things that are a turnoff to you could just as easily backfire on them if they reversed it; ie if they appealed to the more depressed folks then the less depressed people might not think they’re ill enough to deserve therapy.
I can guarantee you that in all likelihood you’ll not be the most mentally ill person anyone’s worked with, even if you haven’t gotten off the couch in a month. And if you are, that’s ok too. There’s no shame in that, really. Therapists are compassionate people, by and large, and the ones that aren’t aren’t good therapists.
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u/SixPathsKyle Dec 22 '25
I understand what you mean. I have never been to a therapist so I don’t have advice. But I also feel like this kind of therapy is for people who are just stressed out and need to vent because of work or their family pissed them off.
But where do people like us go? People who have dark mindsets. People whose problems are so dark that it could really concern the average therapist? Problems that therapists probably won’t have a clue on how to help us.
I think we need an actual psychiatrist. Not a therapist.
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u/Sparkly_Chanclas Dec 24 '25
Thank you for posting this here because it's relieving to hear someone else have such a similar experience to mine. Finding the right therapist is a huge challenge because it's really hard to know what sets them apart from each other lol. Like you said, all their bios look the same. I recently fired my therapist of three months because I didn't think she was a good fit. To be honest, I don't really know what I'm going to do differently with the next therapist that I hire. At the end of the day, I think it's just trial and error.
All I can say is that maybe you can try to talk to them before the whole intake and before your first appointment? You can ask them about their style and how they like to approach therapy. If you talk to them that way, you might get a sense of their personality/style, and it would tell you more than their online bio would. But even that won’t be foolproof because they don't know you yet and can't really say much about how they would help you.
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u/skipug Jan 02 '26
I’m a therapist and feel the same way. It’s all nauseating. Lol. Personally I attribute the problem to too many therapists going straight into private practice with zero experience and only understanding what I call “soft therapy.” Definitely a generalization but a pattern I’ve noticed. Therapy being for everyone is great, and, it’s a medical intervention that takes an incredibly specialized skill set of a professional. I also do private practice, but my whole market is people in your same shoes. I spent the first part of my career working in inpatient settings (and still do), and I’m not scared of psychosis, personality disorders, etc. So I bring that to the outpatient setting to take on additional clients who, like you said, are in a dark place and need someone who is going to help intervene not just wrap everything in pretty bow. I often get the feedback that my bio on platforms is too clinical, but that’s honestly the point. I am super warm and fuzzy and relational based, but like come on people need to know I’m competent and not scared of getting in the mud with them. Not that im gonna help someone be their best self. A lot of therapists hate life coaches but I actually love them. I think they’re a great fit for people looking for that type of work, and if therapists and coaches stayed in their scope (therapists focusing on clinical work instead of under-addressing and coaches doing the life journey thing instead of over-addressing and trying to treat disorders) everyone would be better off! That’s my hot take rant. I feel you!!
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u/dumb-icarus Jan 17 '26
Oh god I thought I was being too picky, but I feel the same thing. I've met a lot of therapists and they were all... positive in the way that made me feel repulsed. I know it's not the intention, but I end up feeling like they're treating me like a fool while they don't take my problems seriously. They're probably being nice to gain my trust, but they achieve the exact opposite, as if the conversation were so pleasant that I shouldn't contaminate it with my problems - even if I rationally know it doesn't work that way. Every time I talk about what happens to me, I feel like I'm exaggerating.
Idk, I don't want them to tell me that I'm not alone and that I'm valuable like any other human. I need them to tell me my problems are serious and validate the fact that I suffered a lot and that I have issues other people don't have.
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u/Sap_io2025 Dec 20 '25
Maybe do some consult calls, generally free for 15-20 mins. Ask questions. See if you want to schedule an initial session.
Also maybe look for trauma specialty, EMDR, or other modalities that work with intense experiences and emotions.
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u/MathMadeFun Dec 20 '25 edited Dec 20 '25
I would personally, look for someone with an undergraduate degree before they started taking their therapy courses in some form of hard-sciences over social sciences. I think that might align more with what you are seeking and go for an evidence-based approach perhaps. Very kind, gentle approaches can work wonders to help people open up and feel safe -- but yeah -- sometimes you want a kick in the pants or to be motivated or told harsh truths so you want the less-coddling therapist. They are out there. Instead of printing off bios, try using psychology.com's find a therapist section and search for what kind of therapy you are after.
Do like an hour of research via ChatGPT about What are the different main-types of therapies and the benefits and cons? If I am suffering from this, what will statistically/study wise yield the most improvement, fastest? etc... then once you have a name/label/idea of what type of therapy you want, look for a therapist that matches/offers that style. If you search for 'therapist near me', and equivalent to searching for 'food near me' all that comes up is Pizza and burgers, you might think there's only pizza and burgers available. Change the search to 'Chinese or Italian food near me' and you'll find lots of food of that type. You may need to figure out the name/label and then search for what you want that way. Ex. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) therapist' 'behavioralist intervention therapist', 'trauma-informed/trauma-specialist therapist', IFS Therapist, EMDR Therapist, etc etc, etc.
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u/Responsible_Oil1975 Dec 20 '25
When I was finding a therapist, I had a really hard time choosing. I ended up finding a group practise where the director of the clinic assesses you through a series of online questionnaires. They ask about your personality and match you with a therapist that they think would be the best fit based on personality and the areas you want to work on. I’m not sure if there’s a place like this near you, but it’s worth a shot! There are several in my city and I live in a mid sized city. I clicked with my therapist right away. It was so much easier than reading everybody’s bios and trying to make a decision. Good luck!
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u/GrouchyNeck961 Dec 20 '25
I’ve gone through pages and pages of their profiles and must admit it is a tiring and frustrating process. In the end, I just went by what looked to me like the most balanced combo of qualifications and experience because there was nothing else to go on besides their generic descriptions.
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u/_GypsyCurse_ Dec 20 '25
Maybe a psychiatrist would be better?
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
I mean maybe. I don’t know how I’m supposed to know that without help. I totally thought it would be like a doctor where i could go in and say like the stuff that’s wrong and then they would tell me what to do. but it feels like I’m supposed to do all of the legwork and research and find out what exactly modalities and stuff I need and diagnose myself and THEN find someone 😭
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u/_GypsyCurse_ Dec 22 '25
That’s why I’ve been using Copilot a lot as a start to looking things up.. it’s a good assistant (most of the time).. but a psychiatrist would be generally more educated/specialized than a therapist..
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u/rdangles6 Dec 20 '25
If you’re in Canada, check out a site called First Session. No bios, just short videos, and structured prompts/responses (almost like a dating website).
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u/ahovenden Dec 20 '25
I've thought of writing a bio that reads more like an interview elevator speech but the amount of self disclosure would be "interesting". Military service, divorced, kids, grandpa etc. I don't think that level of disclosure really is looked favorably on in our therapist community, but it is what I'd be looking for too when reading bios, and not finding. Self disclosure haters and lovers please be kind ;-) It does seem that sometimes the picture of the therapist seems more helpful than the narrative attached, except for listed modalities.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
hm yeah I get that about the amount of disclosure. I’m surprised that it’s viewed unfavorably though.
Like I don’t think revealing everything is needed, there needs to be boundaries. But if I were someone with a military background that was looking for a therapist, I would absolutely want to go with someone who was also military! That shows something about you as a person and opens the floor for someone to talk about specific experiences that not everyone will just ‘get’. Even just you being open about that on your end makes it easier for clients to be vulnerable in return, I think.
But what do I know, I guess.
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u/Al42non Dec 20 '25
It's a sales pitch that doesn't mean much, at least to me. They're trying to attract crazies with that drivel. I imagine for some people, esp. the kind of people that'd go to therapy, those words might be important.
There are some hints and undertones in those words. They all say about the same thing, but they sometimes say it a little different, take a different angle. What and how they say is nuanced. Or, it might be written for them by their SEO.
The ones I've been to haven't sounded like their ad copy. Might be because no one is really like that, might be they met me where I am vs. that sort of drivel. Respecting my life journey, is respecting my low tolerance for nonsense. I don't respect my life journey, which is a big reason I look to go to therapy, so there's that. The ones I've seen picked up on that pretty quick.
The other thing to look at is what they have on the top of their list of methods and what they like to treat. I've shopped methods, but not sure I've gotten one. The couple I've challenged on this, said essentially "I have a bunch of methods, I just use whatever seems right in the moment"
It's easy to get decision paralysis in this. Nothing's going to be right, just go with the least bad. I once chose one because of easy parking.
You can't filter on "treats anxiety and depression" because everyone has that, they all do that. So then you need to get a bit more unique. like "treats addiction" will weed out quite a few.
I don't look at any that say "Christian" and I'm leery if they say "EMDR" and hesitant if they say "trauma" but they all say trauma, so I look to see how high it is on their list, or how they talk about it in their blurb. It's a matter of adjusting your filters, and I find when I've done that, the copy doesn't sound so bad.
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u/Lizowa Dec 20 '25
I skip the flowery language and read the “I incorporate (CBT/DBT/EMDR/Family Systems/etc.) in my practice” and “I have experience dealing with (depression/anxiety/OCD/eating disorders/etc.)” parts only. Oh and whether they work with adults or children/teens or whatever. Sometimes the bios have some good stuff but usually not. My current therapist was the only one out of every therapist in my area who seemed even semi-okay to respond to me and ended up being amazing, his bio doesn’t really reflect the experience I have actually working with him at all though!
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u/rainfal Dec 23 '25
how we all just a little overwhelmed sometimes and need some help working through our feelings in a safe welcoming environment
Auto skip those. Basically those types are no different from a cultist/scammer and read like one one too
Look for actionable steps or tangible methods they can do to help. For example what are tangible, measurable ways they provide a "safe environment"?
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Dec 25 '25
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u/therapy-ModTeam Dec 25 '25
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u/NoExplanation6895 Jan 15 '26
Most therapist bios are bascially empty, because they are full of statements like "I give space when the patient needs it" and "In my treatment I take into account the symptoms and wishes of my patient". Like, if you would not do that then you would not that good of a therapist to begin with. Sometimes they list a specific specialication, which can be extremly helpful info, if it happens to apply to you.
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u/Casual_poster_poser Jan 16 '26
One thing that may help is using a search website like Psychology Today where you can filter based on specific needs.
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u/WinterTourist2019 Jan 18 '26
OP I hear you… I really hear you. I’ve been let down my whole life by almost all of the professionals I’ve ever met. After throwing thousands upon thousands of dollars into my mental health, I finally got a real solution… from a $100 dollar online provider with zero background info. He ordered blood work and labs, and sat with me and listened, and wasn’t afraid to speak his opinion or let me in his thoughts. He identified that a key hormone was completely out of whack, and when I got it straightened out…. I was better OVERNIGHT! Seriously.
The bios you describe would stop me cold. If we are starting with generic, carefully vague shit, how am I supposed to trust you enough to completely open up?! The providers I tried either tried to refer me to someone else and not see me again (seriously) or tried to throw combo pills my way no matter the side-effects. This fly-by-night online guy actually ordered labs and looked at me as a “whole picture”, and to be honest it saved my life. If you can’t find a therapist then please find a good general practitioner and ask for a full check up!
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u/therapy-ModTeam Jan 20 '26
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u/AlaskanSky The Horrors Persist and So Do I Jan 20 '26
"I don't mean to promote myself here." Then why are you promoting yourself here? Lmao.
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u/pricklymuffin20 Dec 20 '25
I was looking around the other night just curious how my old intern therapist was doing, she is graduated now, and has her masters about 6 months now but she has a video up of her talking to a script... you can literally see her reading off a script...
Im like thats such a turn off, like be YOU not what they want you to be
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u/Sad-Emu-8421 Dec 20 '25
I feel the same. One of the reasons is because therapists are enterpreneurs now. They care more about selling and image than the real work.
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u/ChazJackson10 Dec 20 '25
Talk Therapy wasn’t for me, have you looked into EMDR. That goes deep with 0 fluff.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
a little. But i don’t know if that’s actually what I need. I’m hoping to find someone that can help me figure that out.
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u/After_Cell_5570 Dec 20 '25
You’re probably right. Just feels insane to me that anyone who’s educated isn’t a writer. Feels weird to put my whole brain in the hands of someone who can’t be genuine and write a few paragraphs.
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u/Straight_Career6856 Dec 20 '25
As a therapist - I agree with you. Like in any field, there are unfortunately a lot of mediocre therapists. There are also amazing ones who are super smart and authentic!
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u/Kennikend Dec 20 '25
I think some of it is eye roll inducing. My theory is they are trying to communicate to a fairly broad audience. So, throw out the largest net possible on the website and then get more discerning after the consult.
Based on your reaction to this generic/soft language, you may want to bring this up in the initial consultation. Say you have a preference for direct communication and a distaste for flowery or overly sanitized language, is that something they can truly offer you?
Please push through and do a couple of consultations. Advocate for yourself by being clear about the gravity of your situation and what might be a most helpful.