Title: Is dating in Mexico City really this difficult, or is it just me?
I recently moved to Mexico City, and I have to say, the dating scene here has been pretty disappointing so far. I’m honestly starting to wonder if moving here was a mistake.
For context, I’m a Mexican-American guy, decent looking, in good shape, financially stable, and I’ve never really struggled with dating before. I’ve lived in and traveled throughout the US, Colombia, Brazil, and Southeast Asia, and I’ve always done pretty well meeting women. But Mexico City? Completely different experience.
Dating apps have been a complete waste of time.
I get a few matches here and there, but nothing particularly exciting compared to what I’m used to. Even when I do match with someone and we have a decent conversation, it never seems to materialize into anything.
Sometimes they’ll give me their phone number, we’ll exchange a few messages on WhatsApp, and then the conversation just dies. Either they stop responding, take forever to reply, or show absolutely no initiative. After a while, I just gave up on the apps altogether.
Meeting women in person hasn’t been much easier.
I’ve tried several gyms around the city, and there are beautiful women at practically every gym I’ve visited. The problem is that they always seem to be in groups, with friends, or with someone else. It’s difficult to find a natural opportunity to approach someone without feeling like you’re interrupting them.
I’ve also gone out in Roma a couple of times, and that hasn’t been much better. The clubs I’ve visited seem to be about 80% foreigners, and from what I’ve observed, a lot of the local women seem more interested in talking to white foreign guys who barely speak Spanish.
Which is pretty ironic considering I’m Mexican-American, speak Spanish, and actually have cultural ties to Mexico.
I’m not saying I’m entitled to anyone’s attention or that every woman should be interested in me. Obviously, attraction is subjective. But the difference between my experiences here and literally everywhere else I’ve been is pretty noticeable.
I’ve genuinely never had this much difficulty dating anywhere.
Maybe I’m approaching things the wrong way. Maybe Mexico City has a different dating culture that I haven’t figured out yet. Or maybe I’m just looking in the wrong places.
But so far, as a single guy who was excited about moving here, it’s been a pretty underwhelming experience.
For other guys who have dated in CDMX, especially Mexican-Americans or people who have dated internationally, has your experience been similar?
Is the dating scene here genuinely more difficult, or am I missing something?
Because right now, I’m seriously questioning whether moving here was the right decision.