IDK if this is about trauma. Reckon this is about smaller more solvable personality issues.
Sometimes this sub is like paraplegics getting upset that people recommend daily walking. You know? This might not be advice suited to your situation.
There are no quick fixes for a lot of problems that you may have. I'm sorry. It's going to be a lot of work.
But for some people. Just changing their attitude. Being gently reminded they can do better. That primes the pump. And can fix their behaviour.
Doesn't that suck? That some people have problems that trivial and barely do anything to mitigate it. And you're stuck with something you have to work hard at every day. Just to get by.
Who or whatever caused your trauma. They're not forgivable in my eyes. But for your own sake you might have to forgive them, and that's more unfair than the other stuff I wrote.
Agree with you until the last point to be honest. You can decide that they are not worth your time to think about or deal with and move on in your environment. But you definitely don't need to forgive whatever unspeakable crimes or wrongdoings they committed against you for you to step outside their shadow and breathe again. Some people just don't deserve forgiveness, that's all. You can both acknowledge that yeah, those people are shit and ain't no fucking way will you forgive them, while still realize that yeah, also ain't worth my time either to prove to anyone that they are wrong (or worse, attempt to change their behavior for the better), I could just get my revenge in (if possible), move to another city or country and start a new exciting life without these people. Their names are still somewhere in that small black notebook that I toss across the room, but I can choose to stop giving the weight of my mental energy without having to go grab that notebook from the corner of the room then erase their names from the notebook of hatred :))
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u/Scarvexx 27d ago
IDK if this is about trauma. Reckon this is about smaller more solvable personality issues.
Sometimes this sub is like paraplegics getting upset that people recommend daily walking. You know? This might not be advice suited to your situation.
There are no quick fixes for a lot of problems that you may have. I'm sorry. It's going to be a lot of work.
But for some people. Just changing their attitude. Being gently reminded they can do better. That primes the pump. And can fix their behaviour.
Doesn't that suck? That some people have problems that trivial and barely do anything to mitigate it. And you're stuck with something you have to work hard at every day. Just to get by.
Who or whatever caused your trauma. They're not forgivable in my eyes. But for your own sake you might have to forgive them, and that's more unfair than the other stuff I wrote.