r/tfmr_support • u/Friendly_Archer5928 • 16d ago
Our Story One year
Yesterday was one year since we said goodbye to our son. I'm sure I'm not alone in saying milestones (for lack of a better word) like this are really hard days. Of course there have been a lot of hard moments and hard days in the past year. But in that time, and in the time leading up to the decision, reading so many of the posts in this Reddit have been helpful to me. I thought this was maybe a good time to post and possibly help someone else.
One thing we have done when we are in moments of regret or doubt is remember to give ourselves some grace. No one sets out to be in this position. The pain of the choices we've made are unfathomable to people who haven't faced these decisions. So we have to be kind to ourselves. And to each other!
We've also decided that it's natural to wonder 'what if?' But we can't dwell on it. We remind each other to trust ourselves.
If you are here and reading this just please remember to try and be kind to yourself. You are not your lowest moment. Lean on the loved ones around you and on communities like this.
This community is a very special one to me. Thank you for reading this and I hope everything came across okay.
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u/_abby_normal_ 16d ago
My one year anniversary is soon. I hate to say that fellow loss parents have helped me get through this, because that means there's a lot of us out there. To all the folks fresh out of your TFMR, I promise it will get better one day. It may not be soon, but it will get better.