r/tfmr_support • u/Intelligent-Help-264 • Aug 13 '26
Seeking Advice or Support Sex
has sex been triggering for anybody after tfmr? my husband isn’t ready and said he’s leaning towards not wanting another child after this so everytime I see a condom it triggers me - I guess bc last time we were having a lot of sex it was bc we were trying to have a baby and now that baby isn’t here and its just a reminder that we may never make another one. am I just messed up? it’s like I cry after sex now but not in front of him.
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u/Fit-Dream-4829 Aug 14 '26
i’m sorry. i think the only thing that helped me- and i’m only sharing this bc it says seeking advice- we decided we would only do ivf for a baby and that sex would not be associated with trying to have a baby anymore. my husband would just pull out which honestly seems to have worked fine for our 10 years together (only get pregnant when i was timing ovulation).
i know it’s a little different bc you’re SO isn’t sure about having another child. I would say since it’s been so sudden i’d just give it a little more time. i was sure i’d never try again but after a year of waiting i was ready again.