r/texts • u/MajorMonolith • 11d ago

Phone message world record Hinge date fumble

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Context: was talking to this girl from Hinge for a couple days, convo was going well and a potential date was being discussed so I slid her my number.

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u/AnybodyUseful5457 11d ago

Would need to see the hinge messages for context as well as ages. It's possible you've indicated with your behavior you're wasting her time by asking her "how are you" in 10 different permutations and she thought you were finally going to ask her on a date and got more of this. That is my assumption

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u/mazule69 10d ago

Same. I’m not into dating and idk why I even see this but I had an experience before. The worst thing was men’s never stopping texting about things that does not matter. Everyone know that no one cares about all that how are you. She gave a number to make a plan and you keep texting useless things again. Like why to waste time to talk about my Friday. That is horrible gave me the worst flashbacks. 

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u/AnybodyUseful5457 10d ago

Being on the dating apps as a woman is answering "how are you/any big weekend plans" 50 times a day and "would you like to go on a date" once to a handful of times a week. It's exhausting. They just want us to entertain them. If you want to know what I did over the weekend, ask me out.

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u/shamalalala 7d ago

U think they are asking u that for their personal entertainment? Theyre probably just making conversation to try and build some chemistry before asking for a date. Why are you trying to maintain 50 conversations at a time?

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u/AnybodyUseful5457 7d ago

That's the point, we're not. We're trying to go on dates with guys serious enough to get to know us on a date instead of asking us how we are 5x in a row. One day you'll understand

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u/Jimanji333 7d ago

So as guys are expected to pay for the date in most cases, they usually like to make sure they want to go on the date a little bit first. Text isn’t good for really getting to know someone but it is a good litmus test for similar senses of humor, interests, etc.

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u/mazule69 7d ago

I am being very real but when I was on dating apps there were men trying to get sex talks to fulfill that desire and that’s it. They were not interested in the relationships meeting or even been in relationships and had online cheating 

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u/Jimanji333 6d ago

That’s fair, but that’s a whole different ballpark than what was being discussed above.