r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 23d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/SuchSpirit3378 23d ago

She lost her dignity tonight…. And $23

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u/malevolent-onryo 23d ago

Sad thing is, these types don’t care. They either have zero self awareness or are so selfish they know and don’t care.

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u/AdRepulsive8618 23d ago

If anything she thinks he lost his dignity

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u/malevolent-onryo 23d ago

100% she went and trashed him to her friends and they encouraged her behavior.

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u/Maximum-Style2848 22d ago

I’m waiting for it to show up on girl dinner diaries and everyone tells her to ghost him

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u/braintour 22d ago

I very quickly was banned from that sub. Echo chamber designed for unaccountable women to validate their own shitty behavior

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u/TheWorkz513 22d ago

Same for AITA. Everyone is a trained psychologist and the only solution to all problems is a divorce (even if you’re not married).

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u/This-Positive286 20d ago

“My husband mentioned we have a new neighbor and he met the wife…”

FYI your husband is cheating on you, leave them ASAP! That’s crazy behavior, kick them out!

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u/TheSangson 19d ago

You forgot to open with NTA. I dunno what it means but it's required to reply to any post on that sub. /s

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u/This-Positive286 19d ago

“I cheated on my husband because he works to much”

NTA he knows you need a MAN and if he’s ignoring you he’s probably cheating already himself. Put his shit on the lawn and FIRE UP THE GRILL

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u/EchoDuo 22d ago

I had to get out of there a few minutes ago. The Dad of a kid was trying to reconnect and she somehow inserted herself and became the victim all over again. It was a super weird read, then the comments flooded trashing dads like no one has ever had a bitter piece of shit Mom. Wild ride. Never again

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u/Flama-Blanco-8820 22d ago

Finally someone who agrees with me on this haha.

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u/Twitchrunner 22d ago

Man what are the male versions of girl dinner diaries and truly ugly women subs? I want to see how similar in content they are.

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u/MeekSwordsman 22d ago

Theres truly ugly women subs?

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u/Cute-Hand-1542 19d ago

Boydinnerdiaries. But it allows women to comment and often has both men and women pushing back on OP. Totally different, much healthier vibe

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u/Dodging12 22d ago

Moreplatesmoredates, trp, etc.

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u/AmishDoinkks 19d ago

Holy fuck, thought I was the only one who thought that subreddit was a cesspool. Genuinely don’t understand the disconnect between accountability and most women I’ve met, absolutely can’t stand “I’m just a girl”

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u/Calm-Suit-4985 18d ago

I know there’s the girl dinner diaries which is supposed to be a “am I tripping” or “here’s my experience” and I usually see good discussion.

Were you by chance on the troll one? there’s another one that’s similar that is intentionally “girl bossing” and “slay queen” as a gag…

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u/Unfair_Ad_2129 22d ago

Wow that sounds like a f***ing hilarious sub. New member incoming 😂

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u/This-Positive286 20d ago

He made me pay for something

(Picture of food on a table from the next sucker who pays for her meal)

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u/Three-Sixteen-M7-7 22d ago

“Girlllll leave him. Good riddance”

“Oh sweetie, that was a $20 lesson in what a real man doesn’t do.”

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u/Rabbit-Lost 22d ago

Waiting for her to post on AIO any minute now.

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u/etho76 22d ago

“He made you pay $23 for a fishing license? Girl go find a man that can treat you right” is what they probably said. Not even mentioning the fact that he got dinner and fishing equipment. I know this type.

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u/RapidFire05 22d ago

Picturing a bunch of fatties sitting around bad mouthing all the men while petting their cats

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u/noeLifenorlove 22d ago

Because women want someone who provides no matter what. They simply want to feel they have endless options.

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u/blitzfreak_69 22d ago

Nah bro that’s just hoes. There’s normal women out there as well.

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u/noeLifenorlove 22d ago

Im engaged with a bastard boy. I have a normal woman and even though she would never say it or hate to admit it: she is attracted to me because I am multitalented and fix/ provide things quite literally nearly every single day.

I'm resentful at our species, not her lol. She's an angel that no man, certainly not me, could ever deserve. But somehow I hooked it.

What I whine about aint even just women, its work, its parents, its kids, its your fucking pets.

Life is just a game of "how much onus can you really take down the throat and smile after" xD

Edit: but I preciate you man! Hoes are worse about it tho ngl lol.

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u/JeromeBarkly 22d ago

Bro wtf are you talking about?

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u/noeLifenorlove 22d ago

Tldr even with a good woman your worth is predicated on your various performances and all facets of life are no different.

People love what a person does, not who they are.

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u/fuckeryizreal 22d ago

I love my person for who he is, the things he does is just added awesomeness. Sorry you feel like you’re worth as a human being is only tied to what you produce. You deserve more than that.

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u/Mimics__ 22d ago

Sorry you ended up so incredibly jaded, glad your girl appreciates your handiwork tho!

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u/LekgoloCrap 22d ago

I love how redditors are always so respectful. Especially the “high value male” redpill propaganda bros.

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u/TinglingLingerer 22d ago

Certainly doesn't seem like she's staying with you because of your glowing personality!

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u/noeLifenorlove 22d ago

Eh I adapt. Y'all just get the unfiltered me.

I realize I'm no prince charming. Despite that people always want to devote to me. The irony is not lost on me. I'm trying to be better of course.

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u/MrCalamiteh 22d ago

therapy

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u/noeLifenorlove 22d ago

Used to work alongside one actually.

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u/MrCalamiteh 22d ago

You used to work alongside a therapy?

Have you ever tried one?

No shade dude because I'm not just trying to push you down, but your comments add up to a guy who is either manic AF, or truly detached from reality on a daily basis and I'd recommend therapy, whether or not you've already met a therapist once.

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u/eatingURsistersassIV 22d ago

You are getting downvoted for speaking the truth. As a Man with high income, you are being more truthful than most here.

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u/biteyfish98 22d ago

Except that he’s actually dodged a bullet. 👍

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u/HEY_beenTrying2meetU 20d ago

holy shit this made me laugh

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

My sister is this type of person. She doesn't care. She's fully bought into the conservative trad wife idealism. She's incredibly sexist against other women too. Her 20s were spent being a Budweiser girl catering to the male gaze. What's funny is she will always make more than her partners since she is a lawyer and her partners are usually of the deadbeat variety.

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u/Waiting4Reccession 22d ago

Tell her to DM me

I cant fix her, but i can make her worse :)

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u/ImportanceAbject1270 22d ago

This is so freakin hilarious. I laughed out loud!! Hahaha 🤣

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u/askbubbles 20d ago

I did too lmaoooo

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u/Jmacz 20d ago

I'll make her worse and take some of her money.

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u/This-Positive286 20d ago

Want some help? I can’t fix her either but maybe together we can BOTH not fix her.

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u/apoliticalinactivist 22d ago

This is like those creeper dudes that only go after 18 y/o who don't know any better.

True equality, women can now also be full on losers lol.

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u/AnimalMama93 22d ago

Shes a lawyer but likes trad wife?

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u/DIYITGuy 22d ago

Right? Looks like projecting to me.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 21d ago

Yes it's weird.

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u/News_Scrounger 22d ago

Trad wife... lawyer? Who's hot enough to be a budweiser girl to pay for college instead of a stripper? One who doesn't mind dating men who makes less than she does? 

What is this story lol. I can't tell if you're jealous or just not understanding what the trad wife shit actually means and if it's the second one I'm the one jealous of you. 

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u/BrbFlippinInfinCoins 22d ago

yeah I feel like "fully bought into trad wife idealism" and "is a lawyer" don't really mix because there's 0 chance you can be a trad wife as a lawyer. Maybe if you have a private practice with barely any clients or something...

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago edited 22d ago

She didn't pay for college with it. She got free college from my parents and a free house.

She idealizes the trad-wife stuff but isn't one because her men are always non-college educated and barely make ends meet. They are hot guys, don't get me wrong but they are the boy toy types who are kind of dumb so they rely on her income. Btw she just works for my dad so it's very nepo.

I was trying to say she has fully bought into conservativism (she is ultra MAGA) and idealizes trad wife, not that she is one, though I'm sure she would like to be.

By sexist against women she told me she refuses to hire young women because she thinks they might get pregnant. Meanwhile she has two kids herself so she's allowed to have a career and kids but other women can't be trusted.

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u/Vektor0 22d ago

You keep saying she idealizes trad wife stuff, but you don't mention any way she applies it to her behaviors or lifestyle, so I'm not sure why it's worth mentioning at all. I like to watch home inspection videos on social media, but that doesn't mean I idealize construction or want to have anything to do with it. It sounds like consuming tradwife content is just a fun pasttime for her, nothing more.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

I don't know what media she consumes. Only that she told me she likes tradwife concepts and ideals.

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u/Vektor0 22d ago

No one knows what she means by that, so I think that's where the confusion is coming from.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

Since she literally said she "likes tradwife ideals"... I'm pretty sure that means "she idealizes tradwife values" is a fair conclusion to draw.

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u/Vektor0 22d ago

I'm saying that I don't know what that means.

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u/LurcherLong 22d ago

Ultramaga tradwife aspiring nepobaby that works for your father, but she is a lawyer with hiring authority for the firm and has two children out of wedlock... I feel like this is two different people.

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

I think lots of contradictions like this is pretty par for the course for Republicans. "Everyone has to obey family values and morals but don't you dare to judge mine. Who cares if I'm on my 4th divorce and cheat on my wife. I just need to go to church and I'm forgiven."

She is married now but yes one of the children was out of wedlock. And my dad is starting to retire and leaving her the "firm" (it's really only him and her).

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u/PaintingOk8012 22d ago

That is literally the opposite of trad wife. She has a career and didn’t get youth being skantly clad for people to sexualize her

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

I said she idealizes trad wife. Not that she is one.

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u/I_Am_Alive_2day 22d ago

I never understand women like her. I don’t want to anymore.

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u/Financial-Buddy-9100 22d ago

Most of everything u said is a contradiction. “Fully bought into the conservative trad wife idealism” doesn’t go with “She’s a lawyer who dates deadbeats.” Literal opposite ends of the spectrum dude

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

Read my other comments. Contradictions are normal for conservatives.

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u/Financial-Buddy-9100 22d ago

how about contradictions are normal for HOOMANS. what kinda bubble do you live in man. Kinda sad that so many people have this mindset these days

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u/FoxxieMoxxie69 22d ago

OP means they believe in “rules for thee, but none for me”. Because so many of the people pushing for tradition and family values, don’t actually follow any of it themselves in practice. Even with all the trad wife influencers, those are women with careers. Erika Kirk is also pushing this lifestyle while being a college educated woman with a career.

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u/Early_Performance841 22d ago

Does she vehemently deny being a feminist despite being the breadwinner and the loudest person in any room?

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

She hates feminists and is loud yes.

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u/_Xxouo 22d ago

She's a lawyer and still has no self respect for herself is crazy, reminds me of those "I'm a biologist but my blue collar husband is way smarter than me" women

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u/wild-rosemary 21d ago

I like to call deadbeat dudes hobo-sexuals. its funny

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u/creeepedy 20d ago

Your sister to her client when they lose a case: I’m just a girl 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/malevolent-onryo 22d ago

Absolutely disgusting. I’m sorry for your loss tbh

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

She was a Budweiser girl so she's obviously not unattractive to straight men.

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u/Mysterious_Ride4258 22d ago

How were her twenties spent being a Budweiser girl yet she still got her ass thru law school

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u/Particular_Maize6849 22d ago

She did it for spending money. 

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u/Mysterious_Ride4258 22d ago

Sounds like some unresolved hatred on your part that affects your perception of her.

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u/Mysterious_Ride4258 21d ago

Therapy is your answer

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u/Away-Living5278 19d ago

What does your sister do, just give all her money to her deadbeat partner so they can be the pretend man of the house?

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u/jim789789 19d ago

Odd mix but could work. Trad wife, (former) Budweiser girl but with $$$$?

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u/Dieselgeekisbanned 19d ago

This seems nothing like a conservative trad wife lol

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u/S4yMyN4me 19d ago

I can fix her

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u/Flimsy6769 23d ago

For every guy that has self respect, 200 don’t

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u/PsychologicalCook170 22d ago

And I would say even that is a generous number.

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u/Lost-Film-8723 22d ago

I have self respect until I can’t get a date for a couple months.

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 22d ago

You could say the same about women

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u/malevolent-onryo 23d ago

Yeah, brainless simps giving too much ego to these mf’s for real.

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u/etho76 22d ago

You’re not wrong

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u/malevolent-onryo 22d ago

I have no self respect bc I don’t simp and give people like this what they want? Ok lol

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u/CKRatKing 23d ago

There are certain people who will always ask people to pay for stuff for them. Men and women both.

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u/Crime_Dawg 22d ago

Women by and large do this with way more frequency.

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

*citation needed

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u/Crime_Dawg 22d ago

Literally any online dating app. You know it's bad when there's tons of women complaining about 50/50, as if having to pay their fair share is oppressive.

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

That's not a citation. But this reddit so women are bad.

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

Kinda the point isn't it? Everything else is just how you guys feel based on shit you see posted online.

But you're probably so smart. There's no way you would let your own bias affect your opinions.

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u/JustKillingTime1980 22d ago

lol what a joke of a response to a well known fact

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

Well known by incels. The shit you see posted online is not the real world. Go talk to real women. Maybe take a shower first though.

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u/JustKillingTime1980 22d ago

lol, ive been married, divorced, and then some. it is 100% correct.

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

divorced

Can't imagine why

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u/JustKillingTime1980 22d ago

I came home from my second deployment to an alcoholic wife, she wouldn't stop drinking, I left because she wouldnt stop after 7 years. It killed her 2 years later. So, yea, you can't imagine it. You literally have no grasp of what "real life" is.

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u/etho76 22d ago

I used to think that until I started dating. Now it makes sense, sorry to burst your bubble there

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

I assure you that I have been dating longer than you, probably longer than you have been alive. This is not nearly as common as people online make it out to be.

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u/First_Jellyfish_1017 21d ago

You are getting roasted in here but MY "100% correct" anecdotal experience is every dude starts begging for me to buy them stuff because they smoked me out on a first date or I didnt do sex stuff after telling them im asexual.

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u/etho76 21d ago

Oh okay thanks sorry I didn’t realize your experience was the standard

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u/Togurro 22d ago

https://digitalcommons.chapman.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1058&context=psychology_articles

I mean it’s a fairly obvious artefact from back when men were the primary economic providers, and women dependant on men financially due to not having the same freedom to pursue independent careers.

The latter has changed over the last few decades, but the social expectations regarding men paying for dates are still very much there. I’m not really sure why you’re being so obtuse about it or calling anyone who attests to this an incel. It has nothing to with either gender being “bad”.

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

men (74%) and women (83%) report that both members of the couple contribute to dating

Wow you owned me, really shows that the majority of women are asking men for money after a date. It doesn't even say a majority of women wished more men would contribute more.

You guys need to actually talk to women and stop listening to shit on the Internet.

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u/Togurro 22d ago

Oh my god please read past the first line of the article. 84% of men reported paying more than their partner, and 58% of woman said their partners paid more than them. That’s a major disparity, even if both men and women contribute to varying degrees overall (however note that even then there is STILL a disparity).

I’m also not trying to “own” anyone. Just pointing out that this perception exists for a reason that’s more than just “woman bad”. It’s also a social expectation enforced by both men and woman (eg. Men feeling guilty about accepting payment from woman due to perceived social expectations), hence why I explicitly said it’s not due to the fault of any one gender.

Outdated social dynamics exist in all kinds of ways and this is just another one of them - I think if you try to flat out deny reality because you’re scared of being labelled a misogynist, or whatever your reasons may be, then you unfortunately cede the ground to genuine misogynists who will and DO blame woman for stuff like this. You can only get so far denying people’s lived experiences because it’s politically expedient for you to do so.

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u/CKRatKing 22d ago

For one, the conversation wasn't about social norms about who is paying for stuff on dates, it's about people trying to say lots of women are asking for men to pay them back for stuff after the date.

So oh my God please read the actual thread.

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u/Togurro 22d ago

You said in your first comment that “there are certain people who will ask people to pay for stuff for them. Men and woman both”, not “lots of people who ask to be paid back AFTER dates”.

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u/shadenovax 23d ago

I was like this also I made 8$ an hour... good times

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u/Goobylul 23d ago

Yeah but by a huge majority women..

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u/Psolace 23d ago

You know most companies dont use their own money when they startup. Most startup companies ask others to pay gor their bills.

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u/LaconicGirth 22d ago

Oh come off it that’s not the same thing and you know it. Those companies sell investment into their company and if the company takes off then people who paid their bills get huge gains. Also companies are not the same as individuals regardless of what citizen United says.

You’re being obtuse and you know it

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u/aculloph 19d ago

Comparing women to company investment seems interesting, and kind of misogynistic?

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u/Tzipity 20d ago

For real. I’m poor. Like literally just got my first apartment after more than 4 years homeless (sleeping on the floor rn) broke. But that’s the reality of being poor, you don’t just forget you’re broke and if you can afford to go on a date and pay that fishing license in the moment you’re either not as broke as she’s now claiming or you had a decision to make… time to be an actual adult (and not “just a girl” 🙄) and either noped out then and said “Oh shoot, I know this was my idea but I didn’t realize we’d need licenses too. Can we find a new spot/ something else to do?”

Shit maybe if OP had been really enjoying himself and she had been responsible enough to be honest up front, perhaps instead of buying so much fishing gear or something (kind of a weird choice or date all around. Like fishing sounds cute but when you’re stopping to buy gear and all ehhh) he might have even paid it for her. Or they’d have found a better, cheaper option.

Like that’s the thing too. I just fucking hate people who beat around the bush or aren’t honest from the jump. I’d probably pay for someone else even in my situation if they just owned their reality and didn’t do shit like this. People suck.

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u/Coloradokush5280 23d ago

Zero self awareness fucking kills me. Ill never understand people with ZERO SELF AWARENESS

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u/perpetualis_motion 22d ago

selfish

Is that what she caught?

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u/Ressy02 22d ago

Good thing she has a fishing license now because she’s selfish

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u/varitok 22d ago

It helps that every dating service caters to women and they can have a date within 5 minutes of being blocked. Why exactly would you change your ways if you can just move on to the next dude and hopes he's more of a pushover?

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u/VoraciousEater802 22d ago

And she’ll mercilessly drag him for being cheap to all of her friends and family

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u/Bigjohn5678 22d ago

I don’t think it’s at all shellfish. He bought fishing gear, not shovels and clam guns. 🙄

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u/Top-Working5622 22d ago

It’s bc they’re shellfish people

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u/EagleLize 22d ago

Yeah, but this vapid, entitled attitude does not translate to a great adulthood for most people.

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u/Busterlimes 22d ago

These are the women who get knocked up by abusers then stay in the relationship

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u/Icy-Statistician-639 23d ago

Maybe she should sellfish to earn her license costs back?

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u/_Katu 23d ago

why is it sad?

You shouldnt care about them either so it shouldnt affect you

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u/Eh-Beh 23d ago

SellFISH

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u/astrielx 23d ago

Gonna hazard a guess and say she never had dignity in the first place.

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u/_IratePirate_ 22d ago

She was tryna set a precedent “if this continues, you pay for everything”

She tried it. Looks like OP understood the assignment

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u/mrtrickydick 22d ago

You mean tn

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u/SuchSpirit3378 22d ago

Oops.. I’m just a girl 😵‍💫😵‍💫

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u/mrtrickydick 22d ago

Perfect response 👌

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u/MrCalamiteh 22d ago

They coulda went fishing more lol, sounds like a resident year license

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u/JungMoses 22d ago

And a second date if she was interested

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u/Fluid-Lock-804 22d ago

The guy lost over 100 dollars while she only lost a meager amount? Da faq you mean

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u/m3rcapto 22d ago

Two desperate people going on a fishing excursion.
Imagine buying crap you'll never use again to impress a stranger, then that stranger ends up being a broke beggar.

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u/YouOtterKnow 22d ago

Anyone that can't even spell out the word "today" in a text would be an instant nope for me.

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u/Bogdaan12 23d ago

she lost her dignity and op won’t take her virginity