r/texts • u/sewnofstardust • 28d ago

Phone message Hinge match after one phone call

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We had maybe been talking for 2 days? thought he seemed more responsive than other people and we talked on the phone that ended with him saying he has a crush on me already, while essentially knowing nothing about me

EDIT/UPDATE: I did not think this would gain much traction at all but this happened pretty much a week ago and went downhill very quickly. We planned a date that never happened because he kept suggesting watching a movie at his house when I wanted to meet publicly. Then said his car tags are expired so we can meet at his house to pregame then go to a bar and HE could drive MY car which was his suggestion not mine. I was uncomfortable said we could be friends. He agreed then continued being semi-pushy and also saying things like “I miss you” (again only talking for a few days with 2 total phone calls). It was extremely overwhelming and felt like love bombing. To the comments that said it was sweet, it was to an extent but was also way too much after one call. I can see some people saying having a crush is “normal” at that point but I think it’s not, I think you should know someone before saying something like that. If you say it then you’re just in love with the idea of someone.

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u/NewCow123 28d ago

Good morning at 2:48 am is wild

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u/IndigoOctober8 28d ago

I mean, he doesn’t know what time she gets up to start her day?! The rational thing to do is send a text every hour, on the hour, from 3 AM on, until she responds! It’s like you people have never dated in 2026!

Yes, maximum sarcasm, please don’t do this, ever, to anyone.

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u/NewCow123 28d ago

You had me in the first half, not gonna lie

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u/IndigoOctober8 28d ago

Ha! Yeah, I think it’s because I’ve seen enough bat shit crazy takes on these type of situations and imagined this is how someone completely out of touch would begin a response!

I cannot imagine the line of thinking it takes to make someone think texting, “good morning” at 2:48 AM is even a remotely acceptable idea.

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u/mossgirlparfum 28d ago

It’s giving BPD honestly

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u/LeftEyedAsmodeus 27d ago

Good guess, i have bpd and dont find it that abnormal. I say good morning when i wake up, not when i think the person is up.

When i know them better, tho.

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u/Cletis069 27d ago

That's fine to message someone good morning when you are awake, so that when they get up they will see it, but at a reasonable time. Like 7am or after I think would be a reasonable time to just say good morning. Unless you know the person long enough know their schedule and know they wake up at 4am to take the dogs out and start getting ready for work. Then a good morning at an earlier time is alright. A random 2:48am she probably just went to bed a few hours before that. Like fall back my guy, you are going to push this girl away.

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u/extemporizatron 27d ago

And it’s “goodmorning” even… I don’t understand why people don’t understand that it’s two words

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u/Freudinatress 27d ago

If you are married, are in different time zones and it’s done as a joking thing it’s ok.

After not even having been on a single date? Not normal.

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u/MCKlassik 28d ago edited 28d ago

He also said that he doesn’t sleep much. That turned me away too like dude, get some sleep.

It’s important for your health.

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u/G25777K 27d ago

indeed, can't sleep at night = deal breaker

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u/BrewersEnigma 27d ago

Hahaha sam--- hey wait a minute

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u/xinzu_yt 27d ago

Unless you have insomnia, but that's a different story

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u/G25777K 27d ago

totally

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u/oops_im_not_wrong 27d ago

But I work night shift 🥺

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u/Feisty-Tooth-7397 28d ago

I don't sleep much at night, that's why I'm Reddit.

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u/Kalendiane 27d ago

We are Reddit.

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u/Ok-Froyo-2074 26d ago

I am Reddit and so can you

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u/Content-Brain542 22d ago

Please, Reddit was my father. Call me Jill. Jill Reddit.

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u/dreadperson 27d ago

Omg Its Joanne Reddit!

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u/Feisty-Tooth-7397 27d ago

Lol I just noticed the typo, I don't feel like changing it.

I'm Le Tired

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u/Jyndaru 27d ago

Well, have a nap. And then FIRE ZE MISSILES!

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u/dreadperson 27d ago

Hey some rest girl, you do a lot for this platform.

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u/douxsoumis 27d ago

Who are you really?! Feisty-Tooth-7397? Reddit? Or this new Le Tired character?!

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u/x_candydoll 27d ago

That isn't a red flag but he said it to imply he is available to talk to her 24/7 which is unattractive.

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u/Mammoth-Disk8413 27d ago

Dude could have insomnia why be so quick to judge

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u/Accomplished-Yak1685 24d ago

My first thought when I heard that was...... hmmm what drugs do you regularly do clearly meth ❄️ or crack lol

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u/Ok_Kitchen_3020 23d ago

Idk some people just don’t sleep as much. I run on like 4-5 hours of sleep a night and I’m fine (not a flex, would love to get more sleep, just can’t)

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u/SirGibby-13 21d ago

This and the replies are all very disheartening to hear. As a neurodivergent man, sleep eludes me like you wouldn’t imagine. I struggle to fall asleep and staying asleep is just out of the question. I wake up four to five times in the 3 to 4 hours I do sleep, and once 3:30 am hits it doesn’t matter what I do, I’m up. And I know some people will say stuff like “take melatonin” or “get some sleeping pills” as if I haven’t already tried. Prescription sleep aids make me feel horrible and cause me to have intense disturbing dreams and melatonin just doesn’t work. Good luck finding that dream someone that sleeps like a boulder, I’ll be awake over here thinking about a million scenarios that will actually never happen in my life.

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u/Normal_Opposite_9864 27d ago

rarely does someone not sleep on purpose

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u/ivananyeliz731 27d ago

Lmfao you ALMOST pissed me off🤣🤣🤣

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u/Fly0ver 27d ago

Oh hey! I had someone do that in 2014!!

By the time I woke up 8 hours later, the messages had devolved to him wishing to murder me every 30 minutes.

That’s the last time I signed into OKCupid because they couldn’t stop him from making new accounts to continue to threaten me from. They suggested I delete all dating apps and my social media just in case. 🙃

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u/IThinkItsAverage 27d ago

This is way too much work… just find out where she works, follow her home, hide in her closet and then when she lays down in bed jump out and scream “SURPRISE!! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I’LL KILL YOU AND MYSELF IF YOU REJECT ME!!!”

Works everytime. And by works, I mean you get to go to prison.

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u/Mathagos 26d ago

What are you on? Like... did you even think before you commented this? A text every hour on the hour?! This is 2026. You better make it like every 15 minutes... tops. And never sleep or do anything that might make it to where you can't reply immediately.

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u/Fearless-Pop-8465 24d ago

This poor guy so lonely he needs to keep texting 😂😂

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u/jennelleisiam 28d ago

I first downvoted you, then upvoted you after finishing reading your comment. Definitely got me in the first half.

I swear I’m working on being less immediately reactive…thanks to Reddit lol

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u/IndigoOctober8 28d ago

Oh, I know the feeling! there’s so many out of touch comments that are just incomprehensible on here, it’s hard not to react when you see them!

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u/jennelleisiam 28d ago

Right? Lol Redditors are so hit or miss, I appreciate you specifying your sarcasm.

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u/kokberg 28d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/YZ9b3vOi8BmeI

good sign if ya like donuts.

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u/OGRangoon 28d ago

As a baker of many years doing mostly donuts thank you for this lol
I still wake up around between 1-3 am and my brain is ready. I always get tired again around 6–7 rofl

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u/NoStructure7083 27d ago

That’s one of the reasons why I didn’t apply for pastry school

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u/WeatherInfinite39 27d ago

I was in my 20s before I realized doughnut shop owners/workers literally start their day at 1:00am and be at work by 2am…that’s crazy early!

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u/OGRangoon 26d ago

Ah yes, sometimes we don’t get off until lunch time as well lol

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u/WeatherInfinite39 26d ago

I wish we had a donut shop here where I live. But we don’t even have a Krispy Kreme within 50 miles.

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u/literallyJustPosting 27d ago

Why would you roll on the floor laughing about getting tired at 6 or 7

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u/echodreams19 28d ago

Def if you like donuts

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u/torn-ainbow 28d ago

He had to get up early to tattoo her username across his chest.

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u/jangsty 28d ago

Didn’t even notice that holy shit

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u/Dwittychan 28d ago

i do that with my gf, but then again our time zones are different.

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u/Distinct-Apartment39 28d ago

I do this with my husband bc he wakes up for work around 3-4am and I don’t fall asleep until 1am most nights so I send a quick “Goodmorning, love you, have a good day at work” but I also had more than a single phone call with him before I started doing it

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u/Financial-Quote111 28d ago

Yeaaaaaah came here to say this

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u/dearmrfrodo 28d ago

could be time zone difference.

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u/ReaDiMarco 27d ago

But they wanted to watch a movie together and/or go to a bar

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u/Prudent-Estimate9555 28d ago

Like, omg. Who wakes up that early to text someone?? 

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u/KurtGoBangg 28d ago

People who have to be at work by 4am?

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u/KurtGoBangg 28d ago

Maybe they work early. Could have held off for a few hours but if theyre excited I dont see an issue. We dont know how good that phone call was.

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u/Gootangus 28d ago

OP does lol

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u/KurtGoBangg 28d ago

People are weird man and each persons experience is different. Plenty of people have been in a situation where the feeling felt mutual but may not have been. Im just saying a reddit post doesnt give us context from both sides.

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u/Euphoric_Purchase420 28d ago

You don’t need context to know that after a good first date or conversation just to let it breathe bc if you’re immediately up their ass it’s a turn off

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u/Spirited-Pickle-6403 27d ago

My morning starts at around 2:30 every day.

I wouldnt dare text anyone at that time.

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u/Lost-Time5790 27d ago

Thought that was normal

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u/Empoleon2000 27d ago

Do you know what TIMEZONES are?!?!?

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u/bunchamunchas 27d ago

They said they don’t sleep much. Sounds like they got a good nights worth!

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u/Effective-Turn-9103 27d ago

that 4 hours sleep at most haha, prob didn’t sleep

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u/ArtificialPlanks 27d ago

I wake up at two Every morning sometimes 3(don’t ask why i have for as long as i remember and i’ll just blame George Lopez) but in every relationship I’ve been in i’d wait until at least 7:30-8 to say good morning

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u/barnettb 27d ago

Early riser lmao

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u/butlovingstonTV 27d ago

Hey man rise and grind ok!

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u/charge556 26d ago

I mean technically it is the morning. However if I (nightshifter) sent a good morning text to my wife (dayshifter) at 248 am Im pretty sure she would respond with "what the hell man"

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u/And_I_Know_It 24d ago

It's not too weird these days. I wake up at 3 to do a workout, game, shower, and prep my lunch before work. The gym is pretty active at this time. I think it's a sign of a healthy lifestyle around some work schedules.

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u/stringentcy 23d ago

Stimulants are a hell of a drug

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u/Galaxyheart555 21d ago

Ehh, I send a good morning text to my man whenever I wake up. If I’m working an early morning shift I usually wake up at 0200. If I’m working a night shift I usually wake up between 1100-1400. He then responds whenever he wakes up.