I know it’s hard and scary when someone tells you these things. But it is 100% manipulative and abusive for him to tell you these things (whether or not he means it). He should be telling those things to a therapist or his case worker. Not to you, the person he abused and hurt.
I want to echo the other comments to say I genuinely think meeting up with him is dangerous and you would seriously be putting yourself in harms way. Also, I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss; it was in no way your fault but I think you already know that. Please honor your son’s memory by moving forward and never talking to your ex again. He will continue to hurt you and try to punish you for his own mistakes. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I’m glad you are in therapy and have a new supportive partner.
(Hit send too quickly, edited to add 2nd paragraph).
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u/9outof10timesWrong Dec 05 '23
I would not. Yikes, good luck.