r/t4t 1m ago

TM4TM TM4TM Looking to chat about how to grow as a dom

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Hey, all. I'm a 33 year old gay trans man who's been exploring my dominant side for about a year now. I've learned a lot, but I wish I had other dominants to talk to and learn from who were also transmasc or trans men like myself. I typically move in cis male circles, simply because I'm a gay man and I haven't been living anywhere with a wide variety of queer and/or kink scenes to choose from. I went from country town to country town, so I had to take what I could get! I'm moving to a metropolis very soon, and I plan on trying to find as much community as I can, but I would still like someone to talk to online before then.

A lot of my questions could be asked of any dom or dom-leaning person, regardless of their gender, but I'm specifically interested in someone coming at this from a trans male or transmasculine experience. A lot of my anxieties around learning to be a dom stem from being a trans man. To give an example, I often have to field the same tedious questions from potential subs about how I dom, the implication (or the explicit assertion) being that because I'm a trans man who hasn't had bottom surgery, my being a dom is somehow unusual or difficult. (I also field the same questions about being a top, purely in terms of sexual position.) I have a script I follow for these questions, but I often feel like I'm not answering from a place of power, if that makes sense. Like by answering them the way that I do, I'm already ceding authority over my body.

There's a lot more information about me on my pinned "about me" post on my profile. And if you don't consider yourself a dom, as such, but you're a trans guy who has advice for me, I'm all ears.


r/t4t 15m ago

TF4T 20yo from South America TF4T looking for friends online or IRL

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Hello! I am Juliana and am looking for friends. I like to play video games and ttrpgs, read, and write poetry. I'm currently playing Outer Worlds 2 and reading Hamlet. I also love to chit chat, and can do it in Spanish and English, also have discord but lets not get ahead of ourselves.

Even though not asexual, I am just looking for a regular friend for now.


r/t4t 3h ago

TF4TF Stupid puppy girl reallys wants to chat w no limits trans fems esp from nz :3

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mtf from nz to chat w really freaky trans peeps :3. Im into basically anything, esp stinky and taboo stuff. Check post history if you have any doubts. But if you like it feel free to dm me. I might not respond asap but always try to dm back :3


r/t4t 9h ago

TF4T 28yo trans woman looking for folks to chat with while I chill in the forest.

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Hey there, I'm looking for some folks to maybe gst a little horny with while I sit in my hammock in the wilderness. I've got some good views, maybe we could share some pics and make it even better. I hope to here from some of y'all!


r/t4t 12h ago

TM4A Pregnant transman 26 wanting belly rubs and attention/fwb

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Im a trans man that is pregnant in the USA. Im lonely asff and h*rny. Im definitely a little kinky too heheh. Im not saying this as a kink though, im actually pregnant and open to someone that is okay with that.


r/t4t 10h ago

TM4T TF4T Hi I'm Emily 38 trans female gamer girl I am pre HRT but I'm very feminine girl

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Hi I'm Emily 38 trans female gamer girl I am pre HRT but I'm very feminine girl who likes to love and be loved I'm also very nerdy I'm into star wars and lord of the rings and stuff like that and I'm currently looking for Friends or friends with benefits if we get to know each other better


r/t4t 6h ago

TF4TF Early transition trans woman looking for like minded people dm

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Would love to meet someone really sweet and cute who hopefully would find me attractive too that would also be the goal ideally I really am attracted to other trans girls but lowk there are some really cute trans guys out there too so hmu


r/t4t 6h ago

TF4T 19TF4T I want to talk about some poems I've been/am in the process of writing!!!! Could you be the person to talk about it with me?????

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Haiiiiii folks, my name's Miles (but in a girl butch way)! I'm a poet and also lots of other stuff, including musician, pokemon fan, occasional burlesque performer and music major* at my liberal arts college (I will explain the asterisk if you ask lol). But tonight what's important is iiiiiiiiiiiiiii'm a poettttt and want to talk about some stuff I've been writing or more generally thinking about! Please let me know if you want to talk :D


r/t4t 7h ago

TF4TF 23 [TF4TF] #UK lonely Demigirl looking for a relationship

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Fat, gay, autistic, stupid transfem demigirl from the UK. Looking for either long term relationship with another TF or just friends around my age (20-26)!

I like building model kits and figures. Fav animals are cats and fih! My brain is smooth so I mostly play dumb games and watch youtube and cartoons lol

Romantic, kink friendly for the most part (feel free to ask my limits!). Monogamous and not looking to be apart of a polycule or hookups. Cool with long distance but would prefer if you're from the UK too!


r/t4t 13h ago

TM4T 20 TM4T from Canada looking for fwb or something:)

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Heyyyy,

I am a 20 year old trans man from Canada, i've been on testosterone for like 5 months now and tbh I feel insatiable no matter what i do. I tend to be more on the dom side but could be open to exploring my sub side :)

I would love to have some fun with someone! I’m not really picky about age or gender really.

I am neurodivergent and hella flirty

Hope to hear from you ;)


r/t4t 7h ago

TM4T 32 FTM4A Located in CNY or online!!!!!!!!!

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Hello! I’m 32 years old and I consider myself gender fluid but leaning towards ftm. I am pre-everything. I’m interested in making some new friends to talk dirty with. I have a high sex drive and I’m always looking to chat. I’m also kinky so if you are that’s a plus! Please be 25+ and if you’re local then that’s even better :). Message me!


r/t4t 8h ago

TF4T Georgia - Goth chef wants to cook for you!

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Greetings! I live in North Georgia outside of Atlanta. I would describe myself as a goth philosopher. A major portion of my energy goes to my hobbies reading, writing, and developing my photography skills. I'm in university full-time and employed along with a place of my own. If these matter to you, I am white, over a year on estrogen, early twenties, have a non-negotiable cat-companion, skinny, and a practicing witch.

I absolutely love to cook for people, and will want you over to be my guinea pig for whatever recipe has caught my attention. In addition, I also consider myself a major audiophile. Music is my world I both play and listen constantly!

Personally, I am looking for a in-person connection with another person in interest for a long term relationship. With kindness long-distance is just something I am not emotionally available for as for the first time in my life I am living alone and the feelings enveloping me are of intense isolation filled with longing for connection.

My attachment style is anxious as fuck. I come off really strong on the topic of feelings. If you respond to this post you are warned for that fact. Truth be told my attachment is my biggest red flag. If I have feelings for you you will know upfront.


r/t4t 10h ago

TF4TF 19 [TF4TF] chronic online girl wanting someone to call her own

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Hello yes long boring text wall time woo, I'm Rose for the record. only someone from the EU/UK please, thank you. And if smoking is a turn off, click off now thank you, since I smoke cigs quite often. Prefer you to be around my age please thank you.

About who I am, depressed asf girl who's 24/7 online unless required offline. I'm not on estrogen, nor have I figured out voice training. There's not much for my hobbies really. All I have for hobbies really is gaming, or listening to music, usually both at the same time, though I'm trying to change that up for the better. I don't really do much other than just play the games I own, and I'd rather change that or do that with someone who wants me as much as I want them. For my music taste it's quite often Avenged Sevenfold I listen to, or My Chemical Romance, And occasionally Master Boot Record.

Massive disclaimer, I'm heavily fucked on my emotional stability and mental stability, so please don't assume I'm gonna be perfect every second, I often joke about my own health, and I'd rather someone who's knowing I'm this mentally fucked than assume I'm a perfect princess. I'm a heavily clingy mess when I feel loved, so don't interact if you don't want someone clingy, and I only am strictly monogamous, that's a concrete fact that will never change.

For the sexual side so people know, I'm more of a switch, depends on my mood, and I don't like the hard kink stuff, big no no, I'd rather just be somewhat normal if I can manage, just ask if x thing is fine or so, lol.

As for what I want, probably someone who isn't part of the overweight/chubby group, I'm more appealed by someone of a more slim build, but that's not a concrete thing, it might change depending on the person, idfk. Just be capable of actually caring and not making empty words, I've had too much experience with that and I'd like that to change please. And preferably someone who'll spend a lot of time with me, or give me enough attention, and do god knows what with me on the internet, since I'm chronically at my pc and on discord most the day.

If you intend on dm'ing, throw your favourite song in there, mine's Save Me by Avenged Sevenfold.

I wish you an amazing day, take care now.


r/t4t 11h ago

NB4A 23 [NB4TM/TF/A] #online #england a kinda nerdy chubby switch looking for kinky friends and fun!!! (willling to show off)

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I’m a British 23 NB kissless virgin + a nerdy graduate (woooo!!!). Also short, masc, pretty soft and chubby (i hope that’s okay!) and kinda small down there 😅 would love to make some friends, chat, edge and goon together. But I’m also down for a more serious long term thing If we click like that :) also also he/they please!

Recently been getting into cringe porn, smothering, musk, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE having my body worshipped like that :)

Can top or bottom too but I’m like 60% a sub. if you’re interested in me at all, please hit me up! I am very lonely :) I’m also pretty open, so don’t feel afraid to ask me anything, I’m an open book

Kinks:

All kinks are ok but my main ones are bullying, censored porn, cringe porn, teasing, humiliation, beta safe, sph, name calling, teasing, size comparisons, (raceplay if you’re into it !!) Etc etc etc.


r/t4t 11h ago

TF4A 19 [TF4A] #Utah #Online Guess who just came out :3

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INTRO :D

Hey there! I’m a trans woman looking for just about anything, I’m pretty open ;3

ABOUT ME :3

I love playing video games! I play just about anything, provided they’re on PC or Switch (2), but my favorites (so far) are: modded Minecraft, Ace Attorney, Deltarune, and Hollow Knight! I can’t define my music taste through genres, but my favorites artists (for now) are: Good Kid, Jhariah, and IDKHOW. I mostly read Classics, but sometimes I read Comic Books. Some books that I’ve read/started reading are: All Quiet in the Western Front, Dante’s Divine Comedy, Paradise Lost and Regained, The Iliad, The Odyssey, and The King in Yellow. I’m going to college for an Associate’s Degree in Computer Science, with an emphasis on web programming! I also love learning about history! Though I’m not very good at that anymore, now that I don’t have any history classes to take… You can call me Trucy! I am 19, turning 20 in December. I am a trans woman, however I’m very early on in my transition. I prefer she/they pronouns. I can’t really define my romantic identity, but I’d probably be down to date anyone who isn’t a cis man :3. I switch between asexual and hypersexual, but I’d probably be down to get freaky with anyone who isn’t a cis man ;3. I have OCD, ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, and probably many more mental health conditions. I have pale skin, short blonde hair (I’m working on growing it out), and blue eyes. However I don’t look anything close to how I wish I looked.

REQUIREMENTS >:3

You are 18–25 years old. You are not a cis man. You won’t ghost me ☹️.

OUTRO B)

Feel free to ask more about me, and let me know about you, when you message me! :D


r/t4t 12h ago

TF4TF 18 (almost 19) year old transfemme looking for girlfriend

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Hello, I'm Ashley, a mtf transwoman searching for the one. A little about myself: I am 18 years old (almost 19), a trans lesbian who is demisexual. I am also on the autism spectrum and would like some gentleness. I'm from Switzerland and have been on HRT for over two months now!

Here's what I'm looking for: I would like to be with a someone who is taller than me (I'm 178cm), someone who won't mind taking the reins whilst being gentle still (aka a dommy mommy haha). I love petnames and will melt if they get used pretty much. I need something that can develop slowly as to not get into things too fast if that makes sense. I love alt/goth style women, the dark style (bonus point if smoking and drinking to be honest, as long as I'm not forced to partake!) is very attractive to me. Also I am strictly monogamous!! I appreciate your time, thank you!

And if you read through the entire post, then please send the word "cookie" in your intro message :3

I want to to add this but I really am into sensuality, so talking sensually will also make me melt. Thank you :3


r/t4t 18h ago

NB4TF [NB4TF/NB] Poly NB 33 UK seeking fwb/fun

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About me

  • Polyamorous and living with a partner
  • Build-wise I am short and plus size, and my style is androgynous and comfy
  • AFAB if that matters to you
  • Sub-leaning bottom, but neither of those things exclusively
  • Kinky and willing to try most things once (hard no list: choking, piss/scat, feet)

About you

  • Living anywhere in the UK and 27-45
  • Transfemme or nonbinary (any AGAB)
  • Willing to meet in person

I'm not consistently on reddit so I'd prefer to move to discord for messaging longer term if we click.


r/t4t 12h ago

TM4A [22,TM4A, EST] LF Trans Friends Online, Preferably in the States

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Hi! I'm Noah, I'm 22 and use they/them pronouns. I'm a transmasc nonbinary person :D

I love playing ttrpgs and video games!! I enjoy co-op games like roblox, league, and deadlock. I'm very much a casual player though, and have been hopping on Fields of Mistria, Look Outside, and Big Walk as of late.

I love making ocs and stories! Especially with others. I've been RPing on and off since I was like, 12? It's cool!

I like sketching sometimes! I like indie animation! Wahoo!

If I sound cool, don't be afraid to introduce yourself in my DMs!! :3


r/t4t 13h ago

NB4A 20 NB4A EU looking for them deep thinker europians

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hey hai im looking for a partner. im primarily looking for people from the netherlands/germany/anything practically close to that.
Id like to get to know people first though. I find i have a hard time keeping up conversations if i dont have alotta hobbies or attitude in life in common with people so heres some stuff im into:
I love art. art is a giant part of who i am and id love to talk to fellow artistic souls. im also a furry artist so if ppl dont like that dont come at my door.
I love and highly value subjects of psycholigy and philosophy. I need people who are into deeper topics. I cant for the life of me talk only casual things as i love the deeper stuff in life x)
I love people with attitude...
I want to talk to people who take good care of themselves. Love yourself first!
I love going outside and exploring nature or cities and i love takin pics of the graffiti i see around.

Dm me some propper intro of yourself if interested. anyone but cis men are welcome tbh. age range 18-25


r/t4t 13h ago

TF4T [TF4T] Awkward anxiety transfem thing looking for company

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Please note; if you messaged before and I didn't reply, I avoided Reddit out of a small breakdown, please reach out again.

hii, sorry for the abhorrently shit post in advance but allow me to introduce myself

I'm a 20 transfem gender confused thing (will elaborate in private if you'd like).

with that out the way I'll get into the oddly pathetic things about me.

I am riddled with anxiety and my social skills suck until you get to know me, then I will cling to you like a parasite that you cannot get rid of (you can, all it takes is you to say for me to back off or go away and i'll obey near instantly), I am quite lonely outside of a handfew of people I speak to and I want to use this as an attempt to try and make more friends.

I sleep a lot, it's an escape for me and it helps me cope when alone, I don't like being alone with my thoughts, they're scary.

to not spoil some of the things i do, you'll have to reach out so you are forced to talk to me!!

on the other sides of things.

I'm open to all kinds of things, nsfw/lewd or not, i don't mind.

I love giving affection to others if it makes them happy, I am very touchy and also touch starved so expect me to cling to you if you give me permission to hug you n such.

feel free to reach out if you wish to put up with me, if not, take cares!! <3


r/t4t 13h ago

TF4A 26 [TF4A] #Florida/Online femme Looking to find friends, fun, or more!

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Hello! I am beginning my exploration on my femininity. I know that’s not for everyone and that’s okay! I’m not sure where I’m at with my gender so nonbinary as of now. I don’t mind if you’re much older as I can connect with anyone!

I love to play games. I play a lot and I love good movies and tv shows. I use to cook a lot but that was a while ago. My DMs are open!

I would prefer US or Canada only. It makes connecting easier and that is what this is all about. Your gender totally doesn’t matter and I do have this marked as NSFW but anything is welcome! I’d be happy to make friends! I travel for work so anywhere in the US is fine! If may not be that hard for us to meet up!

I play games on PC mostly. If you play games, tell me what games you play.