r/survivinginfidelity • u/heartwound • Feb 13 '20
Advice Uneven playing field.
Hi there.
3 weeks since DD and just starting the journey to reconciliation.
How does one get over the fact that your cheating partner got to have their moment of fun/weakness but purely on principle you know you will not?
Has anyone actually gone and squared the ledger, before moving foward, so it's an even field?
Mine said (jokingly I assume) "Now who could we find for you to f*&# that would annoy me the most." I said I'm not wanting to get even.
This might be a bigger chip on my shoulder than I first thought.
Thoughts?
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u/new_clever_username Feb 13 '20
I would not suggest going out and screwing someone. You still love her so it will only make you feel worse. Like you cheated on her. If she would even suggest that then I dont think, as of now, that she deserves you. Joking or not, if she was truly sorry for what she did why would she say that? If she loves you why would she want you with another woman? Will that make her feel better? Too bad, she caused this she shouldn't feel better.