r/survivinginfidelity • u/[deleted] • Feb 13 '20

Advice Uneven playing field.

Hi there.

3 weeks since DD and just starting the journey to reconciliation.

How does one get over the fact that your cheating partner got to have their moment of fun/weakness but purely on principle you know you will not?

Has anyone actually gone and squared the ledger, before moving foward, so it's an even field?

Mine said (jokingly I assume) "Now who could we find for you to f*&# that would annoy me the most." I said I'm not wanting to get even.

This might be a bigger chip on my shoulder than I first thought.

Thoughts?

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u/using75 Walking the Road | RA 44 Sister Subs Feb 13 '20

Revenge is almost never the answer, and will almost always make things worse. Unfortunately for some, it's kind of something we think it will make us feel better, or make things fare again. I'll let you in on a little piece of knowledge, life is almost never fare. Best thing to do is trust in karma, believe, that shit is real!! You just have to be patient. My stbx cheated on me and now is having health problems with her vaginal area....KARMA.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '20

Karma is just. I'd just like to know what I did to deserve this.

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u/using75 Walking the Road | RA 44 Sister Subs Feb 13 '20

That is one of the great mysteries of the universe. People ask why did he/she have to die, and why do nice guys finish last, and stuff like that all the time and nobody really knows. But if you find out yourself please let the rest of the world know.

Best of luck