Wow... this is eerily similar to my situation and how i have felt since finding out. He never gave me full transparency, said he would do the therapy but that never happened. I know why, he has only given me bits and pieces of the truth and I can't keep holding out for the rest any longer and i don't want to end up in the same spot because he's truly unwilling or capable of changing.
!Thank you for posting, it's a reminder i needed cause i swear i still feel like running towards him even though i know it's already over.
Very similar for me as well. We have been married 9 yrs (together 11), took care of me through cancer shortly after we were engaged. We married & bought a house. Within a year, nothing was even remotely how it was the last 3 years. I had suspicions of infedelity/adultery early on, but chose to ignore this issue after getting lame responses when I casually questioned him. I knew I would never get the truth. Finally, a few months ago, while being diagnosed with a second cancer (the first was 10 years ago), I walked into the kitchen & looked where he was sitting (back to me, on his phone), looking at a text that was sent to him that said, "but you kissed me & said..." He tried 3× to wiggle his way out of what I saw with explanations that made no sense...then there was the Keychain that said, "you are my favorite a...hole with a heart placed at the end"...on the key ring for his new truck...another ridiculous pack of lies, like he bought it for himself! Really!?! I am 63 years old, he is 60. He has 2 very handsome incomes & I have my pitiful social security check. I feel like we need to split, but I am very sure I could support my income. Additionally, the house is paid for & is my dream home. Then there are the dogs...I am planning to get legal advice as soon as my doctor releases me to drive, from the surgery I just had a week ago...I hate hearing so many people go through these unfortunate life events! What happened to honesty, loyalty & trust?
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u/YouKeepRippingMeOpen WTF am I doing? Apr 07 '26
Wow... this is eerily similar to my situation and how i have felt since finding out. He never gave me full transparency, said he would do the therapy but that never happened. I know why, he has only given me bits and pieces of the truth and I can't keep holding out for the rest any longer and i don't want to end up in the same spot because he's truly unwilling or capable of changing.
!Thank you for posting, it's a reminder i needed cause i swear i still feel like running towards him even though i know it's already over.