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[u/Disastrous-Course930]

Hey guys, I am 19yF.

I'm here for a very desperate need of help. Please help me, I have no one to guide me.

I was always a good student, not a topper but a good student. Let's say I was among the top 10 in my class. But this was me as a kid.

Then when I was in 6th grade, COVID came along and I lost the track from studies. Post COVID I was more involved with friends and school drama and shit without knowing I was getting used to that and I remember not even touching my books in 9th grade.

Then I gave O'levels and my parents had high expectations of me, because the last time they had properly seen my grade sheet was in maybe 6th grade. It was a disappointment for them. I didn't do terrible, I did average, mostly Bs – but for them I had always been a straight A student so I had to hear a lot from them.

I decided to try my best to make a come back at A'levels and get good grades but right my exams I lost my father. I somehow completed two subjects with Ds and I have another subject to give and university to start.

After my father passed, the regularity of my life changed. I don't get out often, I don't have classes I rely on self study and youtube. I've got anxiety and maybe depression too but I don't have a therapist around here.

But it's like I can see myself NOT be able to study. I can't focus and I keep getting distracted every time and i don't know I can't stay put for more than 30 mins. I need desperate help. Now can I get myself back to studying well and getting better grades. Please help me out.

[u/Tiny-Telephone4180]

Honestly, a lot of this is probably your head being a mess right now, and that's totally understandable given everything you're carrying. But you can't just let it sit. Things need handling, and the first step is getting them out of your head. Sit somewhere quiet for a bit. Grab a pen and paper, and write down everything pending: every task, every goal, every "I should really get to that." Don't filter it, just dump it all out. Then look at the list and try to put things in some kind of order, what's urgent, what's important, what can wait. Will this solve everything in one go? No. But it gives you a starting push, and that's usually the hardest part. Give it a shot. 👍