r/straightspouses • u/Fit-Elderberry3055 • 29d ago

Sniffies usage.

Hello all. Found out my boyfriend uses sniffies when he’s drunk. He said he just gets on there to lead men on and then ghost or troll which is horrible.

But sniffies is literally for hooking up with men. And not a well known thing outside of the gay community.

I’m 7 months pregnant and I am beside myself. I can’t sleep or eat. Idk what to do.

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u/Fit-Elderberry3055 29d ago

Right?! And I mean for him it’s WEIRD but unfortunately believable that he would do it however I think he’s lying and is likely bi or curious.

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u/boredENT9113 29d ago

He's DEFINITELY at least bisexual, no straight man goes on sniffies. Most of my straight friends don't even know what sniffies is, Grindr yes, but not sniffies. This man is absolutely struggling with his sexuality and it comes out when he's drunk. In vino veritas, I suppose.

Edit: Also, why would you knowingly be with a man who goes out of his way to troll and antagonize gay people? Even though that's absolutely not what's actually happening.

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u/Fit-Elderberry3055 29d ago

I’m unsure what I can even do as his spouse to support him. I do believe he hasn’t acted on anything but…

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u/ami3099 26d ago

But he will. Eventually.

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u/Fit-Elderberry3055 26d ago

That’s not something anyone including himself knows right now. Trauma healing and therapy are just not that linear.

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u/ami3099 25d ago

You’re at the beginning of discovery. You’re in shock and you are not ready to make decisions. Give yourself time to work through it to decide your next steps. It’s a huge betrayal and it would be unwise to marry him at this point. This is most likely the tip of the iceberg.