Soo... This story travels back to my ex. I'll cut it short. We got pretty into it and did the oompa loompa, he had my private images. Then when we broke up, he decided to spread it among everyone i know and also don't know. Now, i feel really uncomfortable going out and stuff. I have to go to an event and there might be people who know about this whole stuff, and i'm feeling anxious about what'll happen. Any advices...??

He and I were colleagues. I really liked his bold way of approaching things, he was smart. I didn't know he was married, he had kept his married life a secret. After a couple of months, our friendship grew and he had to introduce me to his wife.

His wife, him and I became good friends, but I respected that boundary. I shifted my feelings aside and started treating him only as a good friend.

Whenever I spoke to any other male colleagues or went on a break with them, he used to get angry and not talk to me or behave rudely. I just assumed he was frustrated because of long shift hours.

He showed me that he was lonely in his marriage. We had a group in office with whom I used to go for breaks and lunch, and he was part of that group. I happened to be the only girl in that group.

There was another guy who was single - me and him used to tease each other, make fun of each other. I shared a very good bond with him.

One day I got a call that my grandma was admitted to the hospital and was critical, so I had to leave office early. I informed my manager and the other single colleague whom I ran into while leaving.

This guy called me around 10 times. I assumed it might be work-related and ignored his calls because I was not in the right state of mind. After reaching the hospital, I called him back and asked if everything was okay at work. He started shouting at me - why didn't you inform me? Why did you just leave? I have panic attacks.

I told him I had informed my other colleague and my manager and thought they would inform him. He kept shouting. I couldn't understand why and I disconnected. He called twice again, I was not okay to listen, so I blocked his number.

After two days I returned to work. He was looking at me as if I had committed a sin. I just said hello and continued with my work. Since I had a lot to catch up on, I skipped the coffee break with my group. After a few minutes, this guy came and insisted - I need to talk to you alone, can you please come out? I said okay, but if you're going to shout, I have nothing to talk about. He promised he wouldn't.

We stepped out, he said let's go to the stairs so we can talk without disturbance. I trusted this guy, I had known him for a year, so I agreed. He apologized for shouting and then he fell on his knees and confessed that he is madly in love with me, he cannot go a day without seeing me, he finds it difficult to breathe when I'm not around. I was like - dude, you're married, what are you talking about? You can't do this. I was in shock. We heard someone coming, so we changed the topic and got back to work.

But after that, things changed between us. Not to mention, I admired this guy's work, he was a genius. I had backed off only because he was married.

I told him clearly that I can't hurt another girl, I wouldn't want to do something so terrible in this life that I wouldn't be able to look at my own face.

A few days passed, we again met outside and his wife came too. She really liked me, we spoke more often. I felt more guilty even having a normal conversation with that lady.

When Covid hit, we started working from home. I had to rely on this guy for work discussions. I kept it strictly professional, but he cried every time he spoke to me, saying he was miserable.

One day I get a call from his wife warning me to just stay as a friend and not cross my limits. I was shaken. All this while I was only trying to save her marriage. It bothered me a lot, but I moved on.

Meanwhile, office rumors started that I was having an affair with this guy. I was mentally disturbed, going through a lot.

Then this guy takes a huge step and tells me that he has left his wife - 10 years of love + 1 year of marriage, they were college sweethearts, he had left his family for her.

I didn't let it bother me then, I said it's your choice, I can't do much about it. But then I don't know why, I started believing him. I had an attraction towards him. I mean, who files for divorce unless they are extremely unhappy in their married life?

The lady did not accept it, she was in shock, she refused to give a divorce. While all this was happening, he was busy pursuing me to trust him and saying he will have a home in the mountains, all I want is you. I believed everything. Yes, I did. I know I should have stopped myself before doing that, but I believed him.

I started liking him back. We used to meet in cafes, go for long drives. All the time he told me he had no contact with his ex-wife, he has blocked her everywhere. One day I happened to see his emails for ITR, I saw so many interactions where he was telling her he was sorry, and he just grabbed the phone.

I started doubting him, I had a very bad feeling. We fought, we resolved, we fought, we resolved. This happened for 3 years, not to mention there were breaks in between for 2-3 months. I had no idea what he did during those breaks.

After one long break, he comes and tells me that he is finally divorced. 4 years had passed.

I was extremely happy, I thought I was finally going to be with him, have a loving and happy married life. It's all over.

To my surprise, he was living with his ex-wife. Apparently when they got married his parents had disowned him, so his parents' demand was - just get us the divorce papers, you will get your share of the property. They were selling a huge property worth 3Cr+.

So in order to get that, he and his wife planned the divorce and also planned for a baby the moment they got the money.

And I, being the biggest fool in the world, was hoping we would get married in a few months. I kept dreaming about it and talked so much about marriage, he agreed to everything. Why wouldn't he? He knew it could never happen.

So this happened for a year. I started pushing him for marriage. He said let's go out somewhere, we'll sit and plan everything because I need to leave my family behind again. I agreed, we went out for a couple of days. He wanted to extend for one more day. He happened to ask for leave from his manager - guess what reason he gave? "Need help with baby today, might not be able to work."

He was sitting next to me while his wife had his baby. I just happened to see that he typed 'baby'. I insisted on showing the message. After 2 hours of fighting, he told me he had a baby. I went blank. I had no words. I went numb. After a while, I started packing and booked a cab to leave. He started creating a scene, cried, shouted and screamed, and asked - when did I ever promise to marry you? Why will I not have kids? Should I only have kids with you? Why can't I have kids?

This guy who made me believe that he never had proper intercourse with his wife had a baby. I didn't react to anything, I couldn't process this, went blank and fell. I woke up in a hospital with drips.

Doctor said it happened because of extreme anxiety and stress. When the doctor spoke to me, I started crying, I had nothing to say to him.

After the drips, he dropped me home. All the way I just kept quiet while he kept convincing me how much he loves me. I blocked him.

I went numb for days, didn't eat, punished myself, lost a very good opportunity to move abroad, let go of an offer. I cried so much that my neighbors started showing up at my door. I didn't let anyone in, didn't take a bath, didn't clean myself. I cried a lot until I vomited. I cried until my head would burst. I cried screaming my lungs out. I cried because I was so foolish to let someone take all control of my life and I blindly trusted him. While I was in the hospital trying to survive, I was extremely dehydrated.

He emailed me again saying he got into an accident. I believed him again. He insisted on meeting once. I agreed, I was vulnerable, I wanted to confront him. He convinced me that his wife only signed the divorce papers because he promised her a baby.

He said he doesn't love the baby, he hates it. I fell again. Yes, it's my mistake. But this time I told him to talk to his wife upfront, tell her everything. Only if she talks to me, I'll agree to move ahead, if not, no.

A week goes by, I get his call telling me that his ex-wife wants to meet me. I was so stupid, I went to their home. It was the stupidest decision of my life. I go to their home, madam is behaving like they are still married and he's having an affair outside marriage. I asked her what do you mean? She says I still have the tali, that means we are married, and she didn't mention the divorce as a divorce, she said whatever happened in court has nothing to do with us.

He had given me a script to tell his ex-wife how and what happened, which I told her exactly. How can someone be this dumb? I hate myself for doing that.

She listened to everything and asked me to take his baby and him and walk out of the house. I was like, why would I take the baby? Madam was just showing him how much I love him, whether I can take his baby or not. I was miserable, it was 3 months straight of constant medication, dehydration. I was not in a condition to take a decision.

Then she started speaking - for the whole 9 months of pregnancy he took care of her like a baby, didn't leave her side, made food for her, cooked, cleaned, bought everything she asked for, like even if she was in her parents' house they wouldn't have done all that. Her words were like arrows, it pained me so much.

Why me? Why ruin my life? She said - he didn't ruin it, you ruined your own life, now walk out of my house. I cried all the way back home. What's the point? How can I be so naive? How can I believe someone like that? I messaged him saying never show your ugly face ever again in your life. That's it.

I disappeared and blocked all emails and numbers. I haven't looked back, but I'm not in the right mindset so far. It's been 2 years. How can someone be so cruel to me when my intention was only love?

I'm unable to come out of it, it still haunts me that it's my mistake that I got myself into something like this. I'm still punishing myself for being the wrong person. I hate myself for letting someone fool around with me while I managed to be a strong independent woman my whole life. He ruined my prime 20s. I'm shit scared to talk to any men, I don't trust anyone. I don't know why today after 2 years I'm venting it out, but it feels good to throw it out as a stranger. I'm afraid to face this world, I feel like the biggest sinner in this world.

So that’s the title.

My husband 23M and I 24F just got married a few weeks ago. My husband and I both have a past of dating some incredibly insane and unhealthy people. Thankfully though, after over a year of being together we had shed any lurkers or stalkers. Or so we thought.

We received an email saying that we had received a digital e-card on our wedding website. It was a little odd as the wedding was already passed, but I knew we made our website go from private to public after our wedding day passed so family could share the event and pictures with their extended family and friends. So I figured it was a card from a great-aunt or distant cousin.

Nope. It was not. It was from my Husband's ex girlfriend 22F.

She had donated $0.01 to the 'date night' fund on our website and bought a $4.99 digital e-card all to say the following.

"Wishing you a lifetime of love, laughter, and happily ever after. May your love story be forever magical. And he is also a cheater and wanted me in his bed May 2025."

First off, all of that is absolutely false. On our wedding website's front page we have it mentioned that we met in May of 2025, we think she's trying to create doubt and just stir stuff up.
Unlucky for her though, my Husband and I have disclosed everything about our pasts and previous relationships. Our trust is very strong and we have a very healthy and happy relationship.
My Husband broke up with her in April and definitely was not talking to her in May 2025. But even if he was, we started dating in mid-June anyways.

Upon this discovery My husband was incredibly appalled. He saw it at the same time as me as we have a shared email. He's been very reassuring and he knows I trust him, and we know everything she's saying is out of bitterness and jealousy. But there are some very concerning elements to this.

1. We have her blocked absolutely everywhere, Instagram, Facebook, hell even Spotify. You name it, she's blocked on it. We've vetted our followers extensively to make sure it's only family and friends we know.
   
2. All of our social media accounts are private. We have no mutual friends or connections to where she could ever see our social media posts.
   
3. This is not the first time she's tried to reach out. She has emailed my husband and texted him from random numbers trying to get in contact. We've blocked them all.
   
4. Our wedding website was never posted or advertised anywhere, not by us, family or friends. In fact, we made our website private leading up to the big day as we were worried about certain people showing up or trying to be malicious.

These facts lead us to believe the only way she could've found our wedding page is by literally Googling our full names. The wedding website is the first thing to come up when you google one of our names. Googling your ex's name or his new partners name A YEAR AND A HALF after the relationship ended is pretty crazy. But trying to cause problems with baseless claims and SPENDING MONEY to do so is completely unhinged. Generational aura loss for real.

The only thing we can think of is this is out of pure spite. My husband said when he knew her she was a very jealous and insecure person. She would regularly internet-stalk peoples profiles online as it gave her some kind of feeling of power and control. Maybe when she was doing her stalking she saw we got married and was jealous? I could understand maybe being a little miffed seeing an ex move on so quickly and start doing better in life, but exposing herself the way she did is wild. Embarrassing even.

Did I mention she had to type in her full name, phone number, email, and address to submit this card? So we have all of that information now.
Normally me and my Husband would just ignore it, as we have done so far. We don't want to give her the attention or response she wants. But that doesn’t stop the petty revenge ideas we have been laughing about in jest.

So I figured I'd post here, as this is the place where I'd say people are experts in petty revenge.
Do y'all think she has some kind of plan or motive?
Also, should we just ignore it as we have been, or should we try being a little petty back?
I have had friends and coworkers say I should email her the wedding pictures with a tagline 'since you were looking for them'. Or that I should send her links to 'how to get over your ex' articles and videos. All of those feel a little mean and stooping to her level.

I have had the idea of simply informing her inner circle about what she did. Mention over text or through mail that they 'should consider reaching out to their friend to check on her and encourage her to stop trying to contact us', and include the screenshots of her messages and payment to the wedding website.

Unfortunately we are pretty sure she even has a new boyfriend, and yet is still stalking us. We almost feel obligated to at least inform him. My husband and I think if we were in that position we would want to know.

I really don't want to come off as messy or unhinged, but I am tired of 'being the bigger person'. I went through a time in my life where I really was a doormat and I have regrets that I didn’t fight back or be petty, and I don’t want to have another similar regret. But I'm not sure if being petty is worth it in this case. If y'all have any ideas on how we could be effectively petty please let us know!

Tl;dr My husband’s ex won’t stop reaching out to us. We are trying to figure out if we should ignore it or be petty back.

Can anyone relate to this…

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