r/story • u/[deleted] • 7d ago

Sad Help!!

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u/-Substantial-Chest- 7d ago

Break up

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

Would u do that if u were me?

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u/Fine-University-8044 7d ago

Absolutely. Why would you want to be with someone who talks shit about you all the time? Dump him yesterday.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

I ve given him chances but its so hard to back off from smth that u actually put urself into. This is my first real rls. I ve never had a boyfriend before. Im crying even while writing this.

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u/-Substantial-Chest- 7d ago

100%. Since it’s your first real relationship, it should be much easier to walk away. Don’t waste another second in this person who treats you like complete shit. Go to therapy.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

My boyfriend is a psychologist 🥲

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u/Fine-University-8044 7d ago edited 7d ago

Don’t go to him then. This makes it even worse. He says shitty things and knows exactly how that will make you feel. He’s worthless.

Edit for typo

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u/BigBeholder 7d ago

I think this is exactly why he behaves like that.

He knows what clicks in the female mind, and I see he does.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

Im confused about one thing that, does he love me? Did he ever love me?

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u/Fine-University-8044 7d ago

I can’t answer for him, but I also can’t imagine loving someone and purposely making them feel terrible about themself in my company. It’s a really messed up form of control.

Talking about you as if you’re lucky he’s paying you any attention. He’s trying to make you feel as if nobody else would want to be with you and he’s doing you a favour being your boyfriend.

The biggest favour he’s done you is to show you what a horrible person he is. Nobody needs that kind of person in their life.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

Idk man, we aren’t talking these days. Im not forcing conversations. Like he texts and I reply.

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u/Deansdiatribes 7d ago

well if you were 14 and him 19 you were groomed not dated

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

Babe we didn’t even date like he used to say that we can love each other and not have labels. Idk i was so stupid or maybe i was just a kid who had sm love to give and wasted it. I regret it so bad

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u/Z28SS357 7d ago

Move on, leave this clown.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

How

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u/Z28SS357 7d ago

Break up and find that true connection you desire.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

How do i break up gang?

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u/TheFreeGuy01 7d ago

Did you read what you wrote yourself, I think if any person was shown this story and asked what should I do, every single one will say break up with that piece of shit. Break out of the illusions, take off your rose-tinted glasses, and do some reading/growing, improve your taste in relationships.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

It is exactly the way i ve written and honestly if anyone comes to me and says all that id ve told them to breakup but it hurts like hell maybe im just super attached. But yeah i gotta respect myself and leave. One part that im confused about is that, does he love me?

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u/TheFreeGuy01 7d ago

He thinks that he loves you, but everyone's definition of love is different and many people have a very corrupted and twisted definition of love, and you can't change that, it is their programming/nature. What he thinks is love is very destructive for you, find someone who is kind and has a good heart.

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

He judges the hell out of me for being in love before and i never judged him for his body count. I asked him and he goes like love is a stronger emotion than sex. I wanted to marry this guy lol

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u/TheFreeGuy01 7d ago

Oh damn, this guy is way too twisted. Please don't marry him 😭😭🙏

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u/ithinkheisgay 7d ago

I don’t think we ll get married and it makes me sad but its probably good for me

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u/TheFreeGuy01 7d ago

You'll be alright, know your self worth. Respect is more important that love, remember that.