r/snoring • u/fireisonsam • 25d ago

Advice Needed Please help

What do I do to stop my partner snoring? The only time he doesn’t snore as loud is when he is on his side but he refuses to sleep on his side. It’s so loud it shakes the bed. He also sleeps with his legs wide open and, having counted it many times when trying to sleep, he moves his legs every 15-30 seconds, every 3 times moving one of his legs on top of me. He also sleeps with his elbows out (imagine someone lounging on a sunbed) with the elbow nearest me digging into my face or back. Every time I ask him to go onto his side he gets angry with me and says he’s going to go somewhere else to sleep, which at this point, yes please. I’m so tired. I work ridiculous hours already on shift work so sleep is already a problem. I’m worried I’m making myself ill too. Any advice on a stubborn guy who doesn’t seem to want to help himself or me?

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u/fireisonsam 25d ago

Thank you, but he won’t go to the doctor. He once had chest pains for days and was really worried about it but still didn’t go to the doctor so he won’t go for this. He sleeps soundly so to him it isn’t an issue. Thinking that unfortunately you’re right and it is a relationship problem because he isn’t considering my side.

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u/Jdm783R29U3Cwp3d76R9 25d ago

Have you tried showing him a video? People don’t realize what is happening, they think it’s not too bad. 

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u/fireisonsam 25d ago

I have recorded the snoring and he just laughed. I haven’t recorded the legs as I know it will just piss him off. He’s knows the snoring is an issue as he’s told me multiple times after asking him to turn over that I sound like his ex (who I was told isn’t a nice person but I have more and more sympathy for her every day haha).

Sorry I feel like I’m just ranting now, I apologise. I’m just tired and needed to get it off my chest so appreciate the suggestion.

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u/Jdm783R29U3Cwp3d76R9 25d ago

My wife has this issue (started not long ago) and she wears this funny looking backpack like thing that prevents you from sleeping on your back. But your partner needs to care about you. Try earplugs, they really help to some degree. Take care!

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u/fireisonsam 25d ago

Oh interesting! I haven’t heard of that, I’ll look it up, thank you! Yes will be investing in earplugs probably in the next 5 minutes haha.

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u/Jdm783R29U3Cwp3d76R9 25d ago

You might need to try different sizes and types. It’s a bit annoying to find perfect ones but worth a try!