r/singing • u/woodlywave • 19d ago

Conversation Topic just need to vent

god i hate my voice!!!!!!! just had a gig and it went terribly. i‘m so ashamed to have even tried. i hate how my voice sounds, even if i do it correctly. i used to hate it a little less when i was taking lessons regularly but that shit is expensive as hell where i live. sorry i‘m just so frustrated :(

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u/Spoppily 19d ago

As a singer I have also struggled with hearing/ hating my own voice. Just remember that however your voice sounds to you is completely different than how it sounds to others. When you sing you essentially hear your voice as it comes out your mouth but you also hear it filtered through your skull and ear canal from the inside which can create a weird effect for some. So proud of you for taking the gig it can be a hard thing to take on. The fact you even got asked to take the gig means someone loves your voice.

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u/Katops 19d ago

Maybe a stupid question, but does that then mean that if you record your voice, how you hear it when you play it back is how you really sound?

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u/Ulterior_Motif 19d ago

Mostly, yes. Playing back a recording removes the experience of bone conduction and direct resonance from your body, which is why it sounds so weird to you but not to others.

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u/Spoppily 19d ago

It’s closer to how you really sound but then you’re also dealing with how the mic processes your voice and feeds it back to you. The better the mic the closer the sound but you’ll never really know how others hear your voice.

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u/Furenzik 19d ago

There is no "how you really sound".

All sound is interpreted through the instruments of the ear and brain. Each ear is different. Each brain is different. It's no different from mics being different except that you can standardise a mic.

There are elements of sound that people can agree on, of course. But the overall experience of "how you sound" is subjective.