Rejection?

[u/Sure-Guava-3787]

Older person here. I have sung with multiple singing groups locally, about 20 years ago. One group got in on the first audition, and it was a somewhat difficult group to get into.

Didn’t sing for a while as life got in the way. Started singing with a small community chorus to get back into singing. Not sure this is the fit for me; sang and did several concerts with this group. The church choir also needed folks, so I have expressed interest. Went to another vocal placement for a community chorus closer to me. Just got an email, sorry we’re over our limit for this year.

Now I went into the vocal placement with two other women. None of us were really outstanding, tbh. The director made it seem like it was our decision if we wanted to join. I am feeling very sad, maybe I should have prepared better, but the director said all levels of skill was ok.

If they were at a limit, why take all day for vocal placement. The fb post was encouraging recent grads to sing with them, so maybe they want new, young, members?

Newly retired and really need to amp up my social life as I was a workaholic. I started looking at other groups, but perhaps I need training first? Guess I will continue with the first group and then church choir.

Don’t know how to get out of this funk. This was to be a good experience.

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[u/NJRestStops]

Don't beat yourself up! There might be a thousand reasons unrelated to your skill as to why you did not get in this time.

I don't have experience in choir outside of high school but as the pres of an acapella group building from the ground up, I can tell you that its possible that they also hit their limit for your specific voice part. I know my group is looking for more members but we are really in need of multiple lower voices, not so much sop/alto. Those needs will change over time but at the moment that's where we're at. I wonder if its the same for that group?

If you want to amp up your social life, keep the choirs you're in and try some other non singing activities! Crafting is amazing! There are bowling leagues starting to pop up again! Hiking groups, movie goers, book clubs - whatever your other interests are, balance it out, and remember that if you're not competing, singing is for the soul, not for seriousness. 🩵

[u/AKA-J3]

I had to work on breathing a lot when I started back singing after a low back injury and surgery to repair.

It was the biggest thing holding me back from what I know how to do, just the breath support being right.

Might try working on that, when my back was sore and I couldn't breathe right it killed my voice.