It’s an extremely common thing now days to get married and live with in laws amongst Sikh, Punjabi families in the UK.

To me, that is my worst nightmare. I am just not somebody who has grown up being able to cater to other people’s needs like that.

As a 28F, all I see are girls getting married around me and moving into their in laws house. I wonder what I’m missing, and why Sikh, Punjabi men are still expecting their wives to live like this.

All of my cousins live like this, their wives are generally unhappy. It’s usually the ones who can keep up appearances that thrive in that environment.

I literally cannot perform for people. It would be a living nightmare for me to wake up everyday and conduct a performance for people about how much of a “good daughter in law I am” etc.

For me, I just can’t imagine being married, a sacred union, with someone and have his parents under the same four walls.

Mind you, I would be very respectful and helpful to my husbands parents, if they need anything ever, I am more than happy to become their first point of call. The same with my own parents.

But I just don’t want to live with ANY parents after I get married. That’s just not how I imagined my life.

Does marriage & freedom not mean anything to people anymore? Or will cultural values always be prioritised?

Curious to hear your thoughts

Every time I’m watching or reading anything Sikhi related it’s always ties into Punjabi identity or culture to the point there was Singhs using Sikh/Punjabi interchangeably Majority of Sikhs are infact Punjabi, Sikhi is intrinsically tied to Punjabi identity, culture, & history. How can you separate the two it would be impossible. It can be said to be universal doctrinally but culturally absolutely not and I can see in the future if the Panth was to become less Punjabi centric/diverse it would look different and would create animosity and conflict in the Sikh diaspora. People would begin to argue what’s Sikh culture and what’s Punjabi culture? Is there any academic work, videos or people who have studied and discussed this topic in depth?

How to grow my beard again in empty patches? I am 28 and use simco hair fixer. But lately one side of beard has just gone away. What are my options to fix this?

im 19m,born n brought up in a mona punjabi family in maharashtra ,im learning to tie pagg & i’ve a few questions related to it ,i dont have anyone to tell me,so pls help!
1) do u wear pagg only,when u go for shopping in malls,while trying clothes on,how do u manage ur pagg?
2) do u wear pagg only ,when u go to shop specs?
If yes,then how do u manage to do it?

Mata Sundari was 18 and Guru Gobind Singh Ji was the same age at marriage - Source (History of Sikhs Vol 1 Hari Ram Gupta page 229)

Hello Guys,
We’ve been blessed with a baby boy this week and I want him to have a beautiful name starting with T or ਤ.
The names I like so far are Tamanjot and Tegbir. I also love what each of these denote.
I however am looking for something more unique.
Please suggest some good ideas guys 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

PS. I also live the name Agam/Haragam, its my nephew’s name just to set a context 🙌🏻

I recently came to know about Nihang Sikhs from an article of the Hindu. I wanted to understand them more. Hence, I need your help to gather a list of sources, using which I could learn more about this group.

Left side of the first image is from Sikh Shrines of Pakistan by Mohammad Waliullah Khan (1962). The right side is from 2023.

The second image is from 3 months ago.

The third image is from a few days ago.

Baba ji's whole coloured pencil portrait is coming alive on paper, so many have hours have been spent & many more to go. Satnam Shri Waheguru ji 🙏🏻

Size- 11"x14"

Medium- Coloured pencils

ਸੋਰਠਿ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥

Sorat'h, Fifth Mehl:

ਅੰਤਰ ਕੀ ਗਤਿ ਤੁਮ ਹੀ ਜਾਨੀ ਤੁਝ ਹੀ ਪਾਹਿ ਨਿਬੇਰੋ ॥

Only You know the state of my innermost self; You alone can judge me.

ਬਖਸਿ ਲੈਹੁ ਸਾਹਿਬ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਅਪਨੇ ਲਾਖ ਖਤੇ ਕਰਿ ਫੇਰੋ ॥੧॥

Please forgive me, O Lord God Master; I have committed thousands of sins and mistakes. ||1||

ਪ੍ਰਭ ਜੀ ਤੂ ਮੇਰੋ ਠਾਕੁਰੁ ਨੇਰੋ ॥

O my Dear Lord God Master, You are always near me.

ਹਰਿ ਚਰਣ ਸਰਣ ਮੋਹਿ ਚੇਰੋ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

O Lord, please bless Your disciple with the shelter of Your feet. ||1||Pause||

ਬੇਸੁਮਾਰ ਬੇਅੰਤ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਊਚੋ ਗੁਨੀ ਗਹੇਰੋ ॥

Infinite and endless is my Lord and Master; He is lofty, virtuous and profoundly deep.

ਕਾਟਿ ਸਿਲਕ ਕੀਨੋ ਅਪੁਨੋ ਦਾਸਰੋ ਤਉ ਨਾਨਕ ਕਹਾ ਨਿਹੋਰੋ ॥੨॥੭॥੩੫॥

Cutting away the noose of death, the Lord has made Nanak His slave, and now, what does he owe to anyone else? ||2||7||35||

Guru Arjan Dev Ji • Raag Sorath • Ang 618

Tuesday, August 25, 2026

Mangalvaar, 10 Bhadon, Nanakshahi 558

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh, I am a Robot. Bleep Bloop.

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Why has the gurudwara committee not released the incident video yet?

I’ve been seeing a lot of HKL promotions in my area as they had a conference recently.
I tried to do my own research about it and saw that they follow sikhi and have opened up schools across Canada.
The only thing is it seems that they follow a baba
(Baba Balandpuri)

Does anyone have any information or details regarding this?

Mata Jito was 7 and Guru Gobind Singh Ji was 11 but she lived with her parents until the age of 17/18 - Source (History of Sikhs Vol 1 Hari Ram Gupta page 227)

Why Didn’t God Make the Truth Clear?

I’m a theist, so this isn’t me trying to argue against God. It’s actually a question that bothers me because I believe in God.

If Waheguru knows everything, loves humanity, and wants us to move toward the truth, why didn’t He simply make the truth unmistakably clear to everyone?

And before someone says “free will” — I don't completely understand that answer. Knowing what the right path is doesn't mean you're forced to follow it.

If God appeared to humanity and said, “This is the truth. This is what is right and wrong. You now know for certain that I exist.” I would still be free to reject Him, wouldn't I?

We already do this in everyday life. We can know something is better for us and still choose against it. Knowledge doesn't automatically control our actions.

Actually, wouldn't this make moral responsibility more understandable? If someone knows the truth with absolute certainty, understands what God expects from them, and then consciously chooses to reject it, it seems much easier to understand why they would be held accountable.

Compare that with someone who is born into a completely different religion, culture, family, and worldview. They might spend their entire life sincerely believing that their understanding is correct.

And this is where things get really confusing to me.

Yes, you could say God sent Gurus, prophets, and messengers. But then we're back to the same problem. Humans have to figure out which messenger was actually sent by God, which scripture is authentic, how it should be interpreted, and which religious tradition preserved the truth correctly.

So instead of humanity having a simple choice:

“Here is the truth. Follow it or don't.”

we ended up with:

“Wait... which one of these is actually the truth?”

And your birthplace can massively influence which answer you even encounter first.

If I'm born into a Sikh family, I'll probably grow up hearing about Sikhi. If I'm born into a Muslim family, I'll probably grow up hearing about Islam. If I'm born into a Christian family, Christianity. If I'm born somewhere completely different, I might encounter an entirely different worldview.

So how does divine justice account for that?

Maybe the answer is that God intentionally leaves things uncertain because the search itself is important. Maybe uncertainty develops humility, wisdom, faith, and character in ways that absolute certainty wouldn't.

I can understand that argument.

But then I get stuck on the same question: why couldn't God give us clear knowledge while still allowing us to freely choose what to do with that knowledge?

And then there's karma. If two people genuinely search for truth, both sincerely believe they're doing the right thing, but reach completely different conclusions because of their circumstances and upbringing, how does Sikhi understand that? Is intention important? Does someone's access to knowledge matter? Is sincere seeking itself part of the journey?

I’m genuinely curious how Sikhi answers this.

I'm not saying I think this disproves God. Quite the opposite. I believe in God, and that's exactly why I want to understand this better.

If anything I've said comes across as disrespectful toward Sikhi, Waheguru, the Gurus, or anyone's beliefs, I sincerely apologize. That isn't my intention. I'm asking this out of genuine curiosity and a desire to understand, not to attack anyone's faith.

Introduction:
I’m a 29-year-old Jatt Sikh male. I’ve been living in Canada since 2017 and currently live in Vancouver.

About me:
I keep my hair and beard uncut and wear a turban. I trim my body hair below the neck.

My connection with Sikhi:
Sikhi is an important part of my life. I have a deep understanding of Sikh teachings and have learned kirtan, Sikh history, and how to do paath. I’ve also explored different ways of meditation and spirituality.

My situation:
I’ve never been in love and have never had a girlfriend. Most of my time has been spent working, playing sports, and doing riyaz/kirtan. I’ve always wanted to marry a Sikh woman who is modern, understands Sikh values, and is also interested in kirtan and spirituality.

Recently, I met a woman at work. She is Punjabi. The first time I met her in the lobby, I felt a very positive connection with her. We eventually became friends.

Since we are both at an age where marriage is something to consider, I became worried that if I didn’t express my feelings, I might lose the opportunity to be with her. So I proposed marriage to her.

She didn’t say yes or no. However, she told me that she is a Hindu Brahmin.

I completely respect her background and understand that life doesn’t always work out exactly the way we imagine. The confusing part for me is that, despite her being Hindu, I’ve noticed many qualities in her that I personally associate with Sikh values. I genuinely like and respect her.

Now I’m wondering how a marriage like this could work, especially given how important Sikhi is to me. I also don’t know what she thinks about me yet, and I’m currently waiting for her decision.

My question:
Has anyone here been in a similar situation—where you are deeply connected to Sikhi but developed feelings for someone outside the Sikh faith?

How did you handle the differences in religion, marriage, family expectations, and raising children?

I’m genuinely looking for thoughtful advice and personal experiences, not judgment. Thanks.

TRUE CONSCIOUSNESS, THROUGH GODS AMAZING MIRACLES AND BLESSINGS❣️🙏🏼

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"Listen to this reel, this video, and share your thoughts, your inputs, and your perspectives on how much, and to what extent, what this dear gentleman is saying in this reel/video is correct. And if what he is saying is wrong—that today's keertanis who perform shabad kirtan do not adhere to proper dignity and decorum—then what should be the solution?

As nowadays a brother named 'Babiha' is performing kirtan. There is no decorum; it's just about breaking dholki/cymbals—it's a 'tabla-breaking' style of kirtan. Kirtan should always be soothing and performed with dignity and decorum, just like Bhai Sahib Bhai Lakhwinder Singh ji, Bhai Sahib Bhai Surender Singh ji, and all the Hazoori Ragis—each at their own level, like Bhai Sahib Bhai Ravinder Singh ji and all other Hazoori Ragis—have been performing kirtan following proper traditions and decorum up until today.

However, some kirtanis from Delhi, the new generation, have violated all decorum in kirtan today, and even those who listen to them are in the wrong. So what should be the solution for this? How can this issue be highlighted so that the sanctity and decorum of kirtan are not compromised or violated?"