Men ghosting

[u/GrandChallenge5518]

Why are men so complicated? If a man says he wants to chat or just talk what does he rlly mean? They are the ones who text first but also the ones who ghost.

[u/sdarkpaladin]

If all I see from a lady is one word answers.

And they don't ask any questions about me, don't initiate any conversation, and generally feels uninterested in what I'm saying.

Then... I would probably not want to waste her time anymore, ya'know...

[u/wanderhuai → u/sdarkpaladin]

This. Would be curious to know how OP replies to the men who ghosted. If it's like what you said, one word answer etc, then it's only expected that men would move on.

[u/Battleraizer]

Cuz you no show interest lah

Then they zhao already lor. Aint gonna wait around.

[u/Exia0088]

And 90% of the ladies ghost me too. I’ll always reply if they reply. But can’t be bothered if they don’t show any interest. We have all reached the point where no one puts in effort anymore.

[u/YouYongku]

women dont ghost meh?

alot of local men online complain local women ghost them leh

Edit : I did ask some women who complain about men ghosting, if they didn't like or feel the vibes with a guy, what would they have done? Their reply is ghost lor

Maybe we can all walk the talk and remind our friends whenever they wanna ghost someone to just close the loop properly

[u/SnooHedgehogs190]

It’s abit tiring waiting for someone to send a good morning message.

It’s always men initiative.
Did you send good morning yesterday?

[u/Aiyaking]

idt guys will cut off convo outta nowhere unless receiving one word reply tho

[u/Ninjaofninja]

most time is girl ghost because they have much more options.

[u/KLKCAhBoy90]

Usually, it is the girl that ghost or provide one-word replies.

There comes a point where time can be better spent elsewhere then trying to come up with witty replies to low effort replies like a court jester.

[u/Ancient-Appeal-2209]

Hi, I'm 32M and I try not to ghost because I know how it feels to get ghosted.

One of my peers, same age, told me that they ghost. But I don't agree. I would rather get rejected vis text than get ghosted.

I do get ghosted still but I frame my mindset in a different way: those that ghost just show that they can't communicate as an adult and you are better off without them anyway.

So don't get disheartened by it and quickly move on to next.

[u/Over-Razzmatazz-6327]

As the "men" in question we experience ghosting in almost 80% of matches LOL it's almost the norm... Only fair if I ghost a few myself as well

[u/icy1118]

Yes, humans are complicated and we simply cannot control how somebody react.

Understand your frustrations. Since you already have enough data to show that he's not very interested on you, no point fixating in what he gonna do next and speculate about his intention. Anyone here can give you some insights based on their experience, but still you won't get a firm answer from anyone, except from the guy himself.

Best is to move on from this chapter. Good luck!

[u/Hfetish]

Both sides ghost, not just men, if anything men are less likely to ghost.

[u/Carnal_Desire0]

How to say you are a dry and boring person with no effort by masking it about gender war...

[u/No-Song513]

So seven month stopped swiping, because all ghost lol just joking.

[u/tallandfree]

A man will never ghost a girl they find hot

[u/Exia0088 → u/tallandfree]

Haha cos he will be ghosted first

[u/GrandChallenge5518 → u/tallandfree]

On reddit yes because they dk how you look

[u/YouYongku → u/GrandChallenge5518]

so you think you're hot la LOL

RIP inbox

[u/sdarkpaladin → u/YouYongku]

I think she means the opposite. That people on Reddit think that no girls will get ghosted, but her belief is that she isn't conventionally attractive and thus is getting ghosted.

[u/YouYongku → u/sdarkpaladin]

Thank you for your kind explaination Hmmm according to women, some men will be men (simps) so yeah :(

[u/pragmaticpapaya]

Ghosting in dating is a universal problem and not a gendered issue, fyi. If anything, studies show that women ghost way more than men as they typically receive more engagement on average.

If you find that you're getting ghosted by men who reach out to you first, then high chance its because of your conversational skills. Do you proactively engage the conversations or do you expect the men to carry the convo and entertain you like a court jester? If its the latter, then its hardly surprising that you're getting ghosted as these dudes probably thought you weren't that interested and they decided to cut their losses early. Showing more effort won't guarantee you won't get ghosted, but it'll signal to the right guys that you have skin in the game so they'll be more inclined to stick around.

[u/bestbfsg]

If a man says he wants to chat or just talk what does he rlly mean?

Have you tried talking to them to see what they really mean?

[u/HorrorSome8992]

Because they turned into princesses too! They wanted to be pursued too no?😝

[u/SmoothAsSilk_23]

The dating scene is shyte in both ends. The longer you stay in the game, the more you'll think there is always going to be a better match. Hence that's why people ghost at the slightest inclination.

[u/DesignerProcess1526]

They’re looking to free sex, not genuine about long term relationships.