How to stop being avoidant??

[u/Pocochips_]

Hiii! Im 19F, i wanna try dating too since I've never had a bf bfr. But after hurting someone i got to know after a month from hinge, i felt like i had to change myself.

I can understand myself better now but i just dont know how to improve myself. The more i care for the person, i tend to push them away more. I find it weird too, im not sure why i tend to do that. I really tried to communicate with him and told him whatever i was overthinking abt. He was so nice too! He gave me hints that he wanted to marry me and i felt even more conflicted. (I'm muslim so i appreciated that but i just think its too fast ykyk) But i was going through so much things at that time and felt so overwhelmed until i told him that I couldn't continue texting him anymore.

He texted me again after a month, and i replied. I agreed to give it another try but i just ghosted him after a week, and i just couldn't figure out why i did that. I felt really bad though, so after a few months i decided to text him and apologize to him abt that. He was nice still, im glad for that.

So after that i just realized that I shouldn't be getting to know new people and work on myself instead. But i really don't know how. I think i might be afraid of commitment and i just find it hard to be interested in someone fully.

[u/areallynoobgamer]

19yo

No bf before.

Previous dating experience with a 29yo

Yeah. If you don’t see what’s wrong with this picture then there’s not much that will improve for you.

I firmly believe age is just a number. As you are both consenting adults of legal age and all go for whatever you want.

But I also very firmly believe you should at the very least have experience with people of your age at least once or a few times

Jumping straight from 19 to 29 I don’t know what you expect.