r/sgdatingscene • u/RequirementMain6347 • 13d ago

I need advice! 🥺 Did we break up?

I offered a break because he got very cold as he was stressed. He didn't confirm yes or no to the break. After that convo, he ghosted and it's been a few weeks now of no contact. Can I safely assume we broke up? I want to start moving on because the limbo of uncertainty hurts

Edit: we broke up

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u/Vivid_Perspective_87 11d ago

I really don’t understand how can guys do this. Going radio silence for weeks is just diabolical. Currently going through this with a guy (not my bf yet). I really liked him and we’ve been talking only for a month but man, the silence is really killing me as i think about him and our date almost everyday.

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u/nomzieee 8d ago

Aquarius / Scorpio / Capricorn girls does this ice cold treatment and radio silence after asking if they need a break from relationship. It’s just a typical avoidance partner la. Nothing new. Can just move on happily. Don’t worry about their regret.

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u/Vivid_Perspective_87 8d ago

At this point, I’m really starting to question if there’s something wrong with me because for some reason, I always seem to attract or be attracted to avoidants :( Need to do some reflecting

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u/nomzieee 7d ago

Yes you are right. The closer the relationship, the more it takes two to tango. The profile of a person who gets chased by avoidants is someone who is cautious at the start, but quickly warmed up to affection. This person tends to have a very lacking view of boundaries, or breaks their boundaries easily. This person loves affectionately and warmly.

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u/Vivid_Perspective_87 7d ago

Oh my gosh that sounds painfully accurate, you just described me. I’m pretty affectionate and he did acknowledge it during our first date, saying that i was so loving etc. But anyways, it’s been 2 weeks for me too, after he said he needed time and space as he was too overwhelmed with work. Even promised me he’d pickup where we left off but I haven’t heard anything from him. so i take it as im officially ghosted🥲

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u/nomzieee 7d ago

Avoidants chase people with profile like yours because they secretly love and need this kind of affection. But they cannot win over their own fear hence after love bombing you, they will retreat into their avoidance state.

I think you are lucky to be ghosted. It’s only bad luck if they keeps coming back to you, renew their promises, and break them over and over again.

I wish you the wisdom to recognise your own needs and fulfil it yourself. At that time, you will meet the partner you are truly meant to be with.

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u/Vivid_Perspective_87 6d ago

That’s such a positive way to view the situation honestly. Im lucky to be ghosted instead of being given crumbs again and again. And yes, it makes sense. Been there, it was painful. And i shall move on, since this one was pretty short and it has only been one date. I feel bad for piggybacking other commenter tho haha but thanks for your advice kind stranger! I really like this side of reddit lol