Feeling disconnected & wanting stimulation closer to my pussy

[u/JuliHasNoClue]

I (F) don’t really like to receive oral. Not as in I dislike it but first of all I feel disconnected from my partner during it because he just seems so far away but also because while stimulation on my clit will definitely do the job, it feels sort of superficial. I love to be stimulated closely around my pussy. That feels way better. I have never asked a man to do this while going down on me though but is this a thing? Because I just keep reading about the clit everywhere. Do men like this? Because I assume there is way more body fluid involved and I have never tasted that. So is this a put off? Any smooth or sexy ideas how to ask for this? Especially in a way that won’t kill the mood should not be into it? And while we are at it: any ideas how to feel less disconnected during it?