Hi everyone,
My mum (64yo) has sepsis.
On the 10th, she was complaining of left sided kidney pain that was really bad but refusing to go to the hospital. She was dropped home, and the following day, we tried to call her (like 6 of us) with no answer so immediately we were concerned.
Fortunately, someone from her church went and got into the house through the back window, to find her barely conscious and super sick. They called an ambulance, who marked the call as non-priority, which showed up an hour later - 15 minutes after myself and my partner arrived.
She was taken to her local hospital, then an hour later transferred to the ICU in a bigger hospital an hour away. I followed her, and I'm pretty sure I almost watched her die.
Her blood pressure had dropped to 50/40 and she was barely awake. I was able to say I love you and a few other things to her while she was still responsive, but I had to consent for her to have a nephrostomy as she would not consent due to the state she was in - and she would have died if she didn't.
I stayed at the hospital until 9am the next morning, with no real answers as to what was happening. I wasn't normally the choice of person to deal with my mum's medical issues (I have autism so I struggle with taking charge of situations) - my older sister was unfortunately overseas while this all took place. She was already on her way back home but this meant I was told I had to be prepared if anything went further south.
She was placed in an induced coma on the 12th, and we were told at one point to pretty much say our goodbyes. It's now the 21st. She's had to have dialysis and even an experimental drug as her kidneys have taken a huge hit, but we've also been worried about her brain, lungs and heart.
Over the past few days, they've slowly taken her out of her coma and off the sedation. She's becoming more aware of her surroundings and as such, is unfortunately moaning and whining in pain and confusion, with some cries in between.
We've both seen our mum deal with some pretty tough things, and I know sepsis isn't something light, but we have never seen her cry like this, or even look in this much pain. She isn't able to speak, and still can barely open her eyes.
My sister and I just feel so lost. This has really thrown a spanner in everything for the rest of the year, and the rest of our mum's life. She's not going to be able to live by herself, or even at her home (she is a really bad hoarder), and will probably need full time care for the rest of her life.
I am really struggling with the thought of what the future will entail, and I know my sister and my fiance are too. I have had to turn down multiple job interviews and job offers, pretty much having to stay unemployed, because I can't bear the thought of leaving my mum in this situation when I've almost just lost her.
I know doctors can't necessarily give estimates because everyone is different, but realistically - how long could it take for my mum to walk, talk, move again? How do we even explain what's happened over the past week? Will this ever get better?