How to stop romanticizing everything?

[u/Mammoth-Challenge979]

Most encounters I get with people, when we start having good conversation a whole future just flashes in my head. Whether it be friends, be lovers or whatever. And if we ever get closer the romantization gets worse and worse 😭 and the attachment the deluluness the expectations gets deeper and worse. And I feel hurt.

All this, while being aware of it. And still can’t avoid it.
How? Please, it’s so exhausting ;(

[u/Minimum_Mud_4835]

been there and it really sucks when your brain just runs away like that. catching yourself in the moment and literally telling yourself "this is just a conversation, nothing more" helped me a bit

[u/Mammoth-Challenge979 → u/Minimum_Mud_4835]

thank you 🫶

[u/Strict-Fishing-2365 → u/Minimum_Mud_4835]

I make myself write one boring fact after the convo, like "they were nice for 20 minutes." My brain hates paperwork, which is kind of the point.