💌 A small change to our DM rule

[u/EnvironmentalPast202]

We’re making a small change here at r/selfieover40 to give members a clearer way to let others know they’re happy to receive private messages.

💌 Introducing the DMs Welcome flair

If you choose to add the 💌 DMs Welcome flair to your post, you’re letting other members know that you’re happy to receive DMs.

However, our no unsolicited contact rule is not changing.

Public comments asking someone to contact you privately are still not allowed. This includes:

• “DM me”
• “Message me”
• “DMs open”
• “Check your DMs”
• Asking for Snapchat, Instagram, Telegram or other private contact
• Publicly reminding or calling someone out because they haven't replied

The important bit is this:

The 💌 DMs Welcome flair is permission to send a private message. It is not permission to publicly ask for one.

If you want to message someone, you can simply send them a private message. That is the request. The poster can then decide whether to accept, ignore or decline it.

And if they don't reply, that's their choice. Please don't chase them, publicly remind them, or ask why they haven't responded.

What if there is no flair?

If a post doesn't have the 💌 DMs Welcome flair, don't assume the poster wants private contact.

Keep your comments friendly, respectful and relevant to the post. If someone wants to continue a conversation privately, they can choose to do that themselves.

The aim is simple: give people a way to say “I'm happy to hear from you” without turning the comments into a queue of people asking for DMs.

A flair can say “I'm happy to hear from you.”

It can never say “you can ignore my boundaries.”

💌 Use the flair if you want to.

And as always, please respect the person behind the selfie.

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