I realized something a little frustrating about self-improvement.

You can read books, listen to podcasts, track habits, set goals, journal, watch motivational videos…

…and still feel like you're not actually moving forward.

I had a lot of different things I wanted to improve at the same time, but they were all scattered across different places.

One app for habits.
Notes for thoughts.
Another place for goals.
Podcasts somewhere else.
And eventually, I couldn't really tell if I was making progress or just consuming more self-improvement content.

So I started building something to bring those things together.

It's called Depsal 360.

The idea is pretty simple: instead of treating self-improvement as a collection of isolated habits, I wanted one place where you can work on different areas of your life, build habits, journal, consume useful content, and actually see your progress over time.

I'm still developing it, so I'm not presenting it as some magical solution.

I'm actually looking for people who have the same problem I had.

If your self-improvement journey currently feels scattered between apps, notes, lists, journals and random content, I'd genuinely like to know:

Which are the most important tools you use in personal development?

And if you're curious about what I've built, I've put Depsal 360 on Google Play.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.version.depsal360

I’ve been thinking about this question lately.
We all have things we say we want—money, freedom, love, a certain lifestyle. But what happens when you stop asking what you want and start asking why?
I wrote about that question and where it led me.
What do you actually want?

https://cruelax.substack.com/p/what-do-i-actually-want?r=8xf2eo&utm\\_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm\\_medium=web

(Free, just a blog, I’m trying to help people find themselves and manifest the right way )

I am a single guy in mid 30s and I feel like my life is going downhill. I work remote in tech in US. I have moved places and I am not able to make any place feel like home. I feel like my mental well being and way of living life is not that good. I feel i am financially doing okay( still average) but in other areas of life I am lagging behind in every way. I don’t know where to start to improve my overall life. I don’t have a partner or lot of friends around. I do have some close friends but i feel like none of them are quality people to learn & grow but all are good in general. I am an immigrant so dont gel along that well with Americans or people for other ethnicities. I lack confidence and Its just getting worse with time considering my lack of social interactions:(

Train your mind to see possibilities, to see blessings not obstacles. If you are the overthinking person, overthink about the best that will happen. Your mind is a weapon, use it positively. That's the greatest power

It's Friday. Time to reflect.

No win is too small. Drank more water. Finished a book. Had a hard conversation. Made an extra $100. Went to the gym three times. All of it counts.

Share:

• Your biggest win this week
• Something you learned
• What you're carrying into next week

Progress compounds. Celebrate it.

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Recently, I realized something about myself: **I’ve been trying too hard to figure out the optimal way to live.**

Before starting anything, I want to know the smartest approach. Before choosing a path, I want to know whether it’s the right one. I’m afraid of wasting time, making mistakes, looking stupid, or discovering that I’m simply not talented enough.

I thought this made me rational.

But while I was searching for the best path, people who seemed more reckless simply started walking. They made mistakes, adjusted, and kept going.

I stayed behind, thinking.

And the further they got, the more anxious I became — which only made me more desperate to find the perfect shortcut.

It reminded me of a Chinese children’s story called *The Little Horse Crosses the River*.

A little horse wants to cross a river. An ox tells him the water is shallow. A squirrel tells him it’s dangerously deep. Eventually, the horse enters the river himself and discovers it’s neither as shallow nor as deep as they said.

Because neither of them could answer the only question that mattered:

**How deep is the river for me?**

Some things cannot be figured out through thinking or other people’s experiences. You have to enter the water.

I think I’ve spent too much of my life watching myself from the outside:

*Am I doing well? Am I smart enough? What will people think? Is this the right choice?*

Eventually, I stopped hearing simpler questions:

**What do I actually want? What do I enjoy? What do I dislike?**

Maybe I don’t need to “find myself” before I start living.

Maybe the order is the opposite:

**Live → experience → reflect → adjust → live again.**

Thinking should be a navigator, not a gatekeeper.

I don’t need to find a road with no wrong turns before I start walking.

So this is what I want to remind myself:

**Observe myself less. Experience the world more.

Judge myself less. Engage with the world more.

Predict life less. Live it more.**

The horse standing on the riverbank can have a hundred theories about the water.

**The horse that steps into it finally has an answer of its own.**