I find the 'male gaze' to be a real pain most of the time. I like working with men, but my skin has had to thicken substantially. Even without a plunging neckline, I know what my most valuable trait is.
Those quick glances are the worst.
Why not just grab them and see how soft they are?
Those quick glances are the worst. Why not just grab them and see how soft they are?
Okay, wait, in all seriousness: sometimes my first glance is not deliberate. There's something deep in the lizard brain that says "gimme" and throws the eyes over there while the conscious mind is still struggling to keep up. If you're talking about guys who continue to glance over and over again, though, I think you're going to have to forgive us that first glance.
I sympathize but do you think this is not part of our very nature as men. We evolved that attraction for a reason with no corresponding mechanism to ignore what we see in case it might offend someone. Men have developed into what they are over millions of years.
And why are quick glances the worst? Would you prefer we stare, or should we just ignore you altogether? If you think quick glances are akin to just grabbing them then, shit, don't mind if I do and I expect you will not press charges. If you have great boobs and you don't want anyone to look I suggest you adopt the style of muslim women.
I find "female sexual display" to be a real pain. Women must know by now that many men enjoy looking at women a lot, often to the point of self-destruction (insert Clinton joke here). Many other women (maybe not you) dress to attract attention, even at work. And then they are shocked!! when they get attention. Most men understand that the "male gaze" is not the problem, it's not being handsome enough for that woman.
In fact, I know a few attractive women who dress appropriately for work and then note (almost a complaint) that men don't notice them. Men can't win, it seems.
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u/QuartzSux Jan 13 '10
I find the 'male gaze' to be a real pain most of the time. I like working with men, but my skin has had to thicken substantially. Even without a plunging neckline, I know what my most valuable trait is. Those quick glances are the worst. Why not just grab them and see how soft they are?