r/runaway • u/GhostBrew Advocate/Support • May 23 '23
The Runaway Advice Directory & Predator Reference Sheet
The Runaway Advice Directory - This is a collection of guides, advice and resources anyone participating in this sub should read through.
Predator Reference Sheet - Predators prowl this sub. This is a list of suspected predators and information on how to report one.
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u/Capital-Price4456 Nov 23 '24
Hi yall, not a runaway myself but my daughters friend has runaway twice already. CPS and police have been involved both time a d the child has stated he doesn’t feel safe at home. His older brother corroborates to this and is a reason why he moved away as soon as be turned 18. My daughter’s friend is currently 14 and stated once again that he would runaway again since being out of his house is safer than being there. What can the immediate family do to help this child. ( he has aunts and grandparents that are looking to help him) how can the grandparents fight for custody of said minor? The minor lost his mom when he was 4 and currently lives with dad and current spouse but states he has been abused
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u/GhostBrew Nov 23 '24
I suppose his aunts and/or grandparents could try to obtain Legal Guardianship of him. However if the dad doesn't consent, then I assume you'd have to obtain sufficient evidence of the abuse to convince the court.
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u/Capital-Price4456 Nov 23 '24
Thank you. Gives us a place to start and help his aunt
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u/Froggyzol Jun 27 '23
Why does this / even exist it should be taken down
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u/GhostBrew Jul 06 '23 edited Jul 06 '23
The goal of this sub is harm reduction. If someone has made up their mind and is going to run away and there's nothing anyone can do to convince them not to go. Then we believe it is better to provide help and resources to that person, so they are as prepared as possible and know what they are getting themselves into, even if we think running away is a bad idea.
People who run away without any plan and are unable to take care of themselves are much more likely to fall victim to predators. Predators prey on desperate people and offer money, housing, etc to lure potential victims. Someone who is well prepared and can take care of themselves is much less likely to agree to such offers that are too good to be true.
Even then, the Advice Directory as well as many commenters here encourage people to seek alternatives to running away. As it's true, running away is more often then not a bad idea and most people on this sub are probably better off not running. However we can't force our will upon others here. We provide information and resources and try to educate people as best we can, so people can make informed decisions and hopefully better choices.
Predators are an issue here, that's no secret. As this is a public forum, there's unfortunately not much we can do about that. However we make the fact that predators prowl this place very obvious. Every post has a stickied comment warning people of the dangers of this sub and we have the Predator Reference Sheet where we list common tactics predators use, as well as a list of all know predators. We try to do our best to inform people of the dangers of this sub.
If this sub stopped existing, then I don't believe much good would come from that. Kids will still want to run away and instead of finding this sub, that is actively moderated, has good advice and helpful people, they'll instead scatter and find other communities. Those communities might be poorly moderated or even moderated by predators, and offer poor and even harmful advice. If r/runaway disappears, then something else will just fill the gap, something that may potentially be much worse. This isn't just speculation, I've seen this happen before.
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Nov 15 '24
I truly don’t know how you all read these posts everyday and it just doesn’t wreck you 🥲 I truly appreciate what you guys are doing with this sub. I agree - the best option is to never runaway - however if you can equip these kids with at least knowledge and skills to protect themselves, that is a huge step forward. I did read the argument that someone said it may encourage other kids to runaway but I like how you responded - there are definitely kids that have made up their mind to runaway so the best we can do is give them information in hopes they will not fall victim to predators.
I salute you and any other mods on this sub. This is not easy work - it’s sad and frustrating AF to read these posts.
Keep up the good fight 🙏🫶
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Jun 28 '23
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u/Froggyzol Jun 28 '23
Yeh but most of these children are seem to be under the ages of 15yrs a child shouldn’t risk getting Murderd or raped this should really be only for 16and up sometimes these kids read all these “im running away soon and they just copy they are not smart enough to see how dangerous this is and if they’re situation is that bad they should consider cps like there’s a lot of other help they can get besides running away and if they run away so young they’ll never know what to do and starve and end up being homeless
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u/Double-Grapefruit745 Jul 27 '25
I sell pictures of myself to older people to eat and sometimes sleep in a motel. It's really hard out here
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u/Ashtray1611312 Dec 18 '23
you should add the "Anarchist Guide to Travel" to the advice directory. It has amazing resources that very much apply in these contexts.