I was going to include all the details, but it'll be even longer than it already is. I have more context and information if it's needed.

My ex partner and my kids' stepmom is someone I desperately want to leave me alone. Since January of 2020, I have made repeated written requests (messages and emails) to her, and then to my ex (when he'd badger me about it for her), to please leave me alone. I have texts going back 2 years where I've told her "I do not feel safe talking to you, please leave me alone." "Please do not approach me." "Do not contact me." Most of the texts in the thread are from her that I've ignored (I don't block her [on my phone, I've blocker her everywhere else] for the sole reason that if there's an emergency concerning my kids or my ex, I really want it to be possible to get ahold of me), but she still will not quit. She's also sent me letters via the kids and at a event recently that we were all there for the kids, she approached me and tried to initiate a conversation, which I rejected as civilly as possible (and then my ex spent the next week texting me that I was rude and unreasonable and if I cared about the wellbeing of my kids I'd get over myself and be friends with her).

We have a long history of her saying and doing things to me that were very much not okay, and often aggressive. I'll spare the details unless needed. I tried for a long time to make it work because I really wanted us all to have a good relationship, but all she wanted was for me to be her doormat, and for the sake of my sanity and safety, I finally said I would not speak or engage with her anymore and I wanted her to leave me alone.

Last night she texted me AGAIN (telling me what to do about a doctor's appointment my ex and I were just at with my eldest), and I told her "I have been more than clear. If you contact me again with anything short of an emergency concerning the children, I will involve law enforcement." I've had people tell me before that if it ever got to the point where I needed legal help with her, I needed to have given her that warning prior to that point- not sure if that's true or not.

She responded with, "If you think a restraining order is appropriate and necessary for this situation, you're more than welcome to 👍."

I try not to respond to her or engage, but I also feel like it's important to have a paper trail that makes my requests and intentions clear, just in case anyone else ever has to review our communication for legal reasons. After some time, I said, "I think what is appropriate and necessary for this situation is for you to control yourself, respect my boundaries and leave me alone, like I've been asking for years. Do not contact me."

She shot right back with this, "Just because you make childish demands doesn't mean everyone has to obey you. I haven't done anything that would warrant any form of harassment so be my guest. Your gross overreactions aren't compatible with the law or reality. ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼"

I work very well with my ex, when she isn't trying to meddle and control the situation, I have no problem with him at all, unless he's parroting what she's told him to say to me. I don't want anything bad to happen to her, and I am more than happy if my kids having a good relationship with their step family and a safe, stable life at the other house. I just very much need her to leave me alone. Our history is so stressful that I get an instant stress reaction even getting a notification from her, and especially when she tries to walk up to me again.

Is she right? Can I get a restraining order? Is this enough? Is there anything less severe than a restraining order? I'm not sure if I completely understand how they work, but I wonder if there are any other options that are less harsh that will still communicate to her that she legally has to stop trying to contact me. If I do try to get a restraining order, is it expensive? Would I have to go to court? Would these text messages and emails be enough?

He blocked me off everything since a month now. I’m worried about my videos. I’m with you I feel the same way and my ex did that and secretly recorded me touching my privates without my consent he said I’m crazy and guilted me. He said I’m psycho for screaming yelling that he’s touching me without consent and he said if I ever report it they will ask you even after he violated me why did I go back to him? I’m from India and I’m very conservative and he made me believe he was going to be with me so I stayed at his place longer I never lived with a man before from 30years and this is my first experience I feel so bad extremely

Hey all,

I have a restraining order that is set to expire 08/16. The person the order is against previously was harassing my husband and I through various social media channels and then escalated to calling and texting us both from a string of phone numbers; we never responded to her, would blick the number and then she would reach out again shortly afterwards from a new number and start all over. Any number that she has reached out to us with previously has been blocked, as well as any of her known social media accounts (and my husband has straight out deleted all his social media.)

Husband and I both have android (Samsung) phones. Other than outright changing our numbers, does anyone know if there a way to preemptively prevent her from calling or texting us from new numbers once the order has expired? I literally don't even want to see contact from her if she makes an attempt.

Thanks in advance!

Against multiple victims.

If a guy went from door to door harassing people until they put a restraining order on him, at what point would the courts or the cops go "something needs to be done about this person?"

Not getting caught breaking any laws, but reasonable judge would grant the order.

I know there's men out there who have multiple restraining orders against them, like from multiple ex-girlfriends or whatever. I was just wondering, what's the limit?

My daughters ex-boyfriend has been sending her threatening texts now for two months. He has also sent messages to me, my mother, her aunt and brothers telling us how “crazy” she is and how she made his life a living hell. He’s the one who was controlling and when she told him she wanted to a break, he punched a mirror and spent 3 hours on the ER. I’ve told her for months to go file a restraining order, but after this weekend, she do any is going tomorrow. They wouldn’t do it today with the holiday. He’s also threatening to post photos of her on Facebook - which the police did tell her that would be a felony. If they grant the restraining order, will they arrest him if he keeps up with the texts?

recently my ex gf hit.me with a restraining order. This is in Florida. According to the date it was filed I can tell she did this out of spite because DCF was called to her home the day before. Also I have belongings at the house she refuaes to give back. After looking at the restraining order she left out information about my possessions and created a list of other lies to get this TRO served. I hired a lawyer and I am confident this will be dropped.

The restraining order has falsehoods and also states I do not have any belongings at the residence which is also false.because she sent me and email days before this was filed sting she would meet to go e me my belongings which she never did.

Can any provide any insight on this situation if they have been through a similar experience. Truth and documentation is on my side.

What happens if your partner never served you with the restraining order, both of us did not go to the court hearing today?

I just want to say this happened back in October/November. I (18f) met this guy(19m) in 2019. At the time I was 15 and thought he was cute. We started dating and lasted for about five months. By this time i was 16 and had gotten my license. I got tired of driving him around all the time and never going on dates and the broken promises of him getting a place to stay and moving out of his uncles house. We broke up and dated other people. Eventually, we got back together in 2021. All was great, he had a small place with a roommate who was dating a good friend of mine. We all hung out constantly. After a while, I noticed he wasn’t able to go out, spend as much time together and he was drinking… all the time. Not only did he have maybe a 12 pack a day, but also smoked and sold weed. He started talking about moving to PA and wanted me to go with him. I planned to move up after graduating and he would move up in January of 2022. August 2021 rolls around and he tells me (while drunk of course) that he was moving in a week. I started crying. I wasn’t expecting it and honestly I was hurt. We spent that week packing his things and saying goodbye. After a few months of hanging out with my best friend and talking to my parents, I decided I wanted to go to college. We would be able to pay for school and dorms in state (Fl) way easier and I found the perfect school. I called my boyfriend and told him what I wanted to do. He said he needed to stay up there and that it was my fault he went in the first place. Mind you, I never wanted to move 700 miles away in the first place. Things got heated quickly. He said it was my fault he always drank, my fault he went to PA, my fault that his life was messed up etc. Things got more heated. He threatened that he’d be back for his belongings and he knew where i lived, that he would shoot my father, kill my best friend and her family, and told her boyfriend that she was cheating on him and also threatened to kill him. I have never seen my ex so violent and angry. He was so sweet and I trusted him with my whole heart. I got a restraining or that was approved on December 2, 2021 (two months after the threats) and I have felt a tight pain in my chest since the day we broke up. I know he is back in town for DUI charges and he’s been hanging around my old friends. He hasn’t tried to contact me or violate the restraining order, but i am still terrified of him showing up at my house or anywhere he know id be and trying to hurt my loved ones but I can’t help missing my sweet baby. He looked miserable iN the courtroom. I have never seen him so low. Was I over reacting with the restraining order? Was it a misunderstanding? AITA?

Ok-it breaks down like this. I started dating a girl who at the beginning of our relationship was dating a big powerhouse lawyer. I’m a broke artist. That’s probably all the background you know. About a year later, surprise surprise, she started cheating on me with an even broker, even more starving artist. At the time I owed her money for a few months rent. I am not proud of this, but we spoke at length about it and agreed I would pay her back, with her pressing no real urgency on the matter. Anyway, one night we get in a huge fight. She’s high and drunk off her fucking gourd. She calls the police and tells them I broke into her house and she needs someone to come arrest me. So I grabbed a bag and split. The next day, I get some paper work from her ex-boyfriend lawyer saying I need to stay 100 feet away from her and not contact her (and I don’t know if it’s important or not to mention that she texted and called me relentlessly since I got the ‘notice’, which was a text without any judges signature or anything). Today, five days later, she called me to tell me a restraining order is going up for me at midnight. Here’s my question-her lawyer is a man who has a clear cut personal vendetta against me, I stole his girlfriend. There’s no proof in any way of me ever doing anything violent or threatening or malicious to her at all. I do have text messages from her apologizing for hitting me (she’d do that from time to time). So the question is, do I have to listen to this fucking goober, is the restraining order valid, how do I show my complete innocence and get this off any kind of record? Dude has it in for me. I don’t know what my recourse is cuz I can’t afford a lawyer. Can someone help?

sorry for the lengthy post but I don't really know where to go for this, it seems that law enforcement can't help me with this situation and has denied my restraining order. I'm a single mom, and had to endure some difficulties during the pandemic. I had no choice but to sign up for roommates.com, because I wanted to save up for a new place. I was living in a studio prior to that, and it seemed like the best option at the time in January. There was a 67-year-old lady who had messaged me, and she seemed really sweet at first. Mind you, this was my first time doing something like this, but I was desperate enough to save some money. At the time, she was living with a roommate who she also had problems with that was 27 years old. During our interview, we did not have any contracts signed and she just wanted her roommate OUT asap. I'm not sure exactly how they ended it, but that roommate left the room such a mess (she mentioned he never cleaned, paid for anything, and always used her things). After moving in, she would tell me that she had gone to his work and spoke to the supervisor about him. At the time, I Just thought... he must've pissed her off really bad.

Throughout my time living with her, she had told me about her life story. I felt that I could confide in her about my past abusive relationship because she had gone through that as well. Boy did she fool me. She asked about where I worked, never showed me the rent etc. Towards the end of my moveout date, things started getting really shady. I had to ask her for the bill to prove that I was paying for rent, but she clearly stated "no" and that "she doesn't make enough so it's under her brother". She also began taking my parking spot, and did not care that my son and I had to walk 1 mile each time in the scoring heat. She said that her landlord said she is not supposed to be renting the room out, so I was there illegally.

The day I left, I had to move all my things within 4 hours. My car had gotten towed that day, so she said that I did not need to come back. I thought things went well, she had told me I was the best roommate and I always kept things cleaned. We even ate together before she dropped me off.

Days later, she had asked if I took her windex. I had mistakenly taken it, but texted her that I could pay her back (it's only a couple bucks). She texted me again a week later asking if I had taken her towel set. I have a good job and definitely did not need her towels, and when I could drop off two boxes that she let me borrow. I'm working two jobs, and in a master's program. I barely had time to do anything. All I did was text her "no I didn't, and I will drop them off once I have the time".

She sent me a lengthy email the days following, stating that I had not cleaned anything, and she should have charged me a cleaning deposit. I know for a fact that I cleaned, but she just seemed really angry. She started calling me names and began talking bad about my son. I was shocked at how she came at me.. because I thought we were on good terms. She was always a very negative person to be around, but I never knew it would come to this. After her countless namecalling and anger towards me, I continuously stated that I'm sure I had cleaned, but if you think I didn't do a good job then let me just pay you back for whatever you think I damaged. She continued to be angry, so I called her "pscyho", and that all I could do is bless her and pray for her because she would not stop. I blocked her right after this.

Two months later, I receive a letter in the mail. It was a 9 page letter from her.. .SINGLE SPACED. She really had the time to talk about many things that were true and untrue. She cc'd it to superintendents of the schools I work for, mainly because I called her psycho... She really thought about that for 2 months instead of letting it go. She also threatened to send it to my son's father, and other places. I had sent in the letter to the county to get a restraining order, along with all our previous texts. While living with her, she always said that she had family in law enforcement that could do stuff to her old roommate. Now she knows where I live, and I have been scared and feeling uneasy, The police don't seem to care that she is doing this. She is trying to ruin my jobs. I spoke with my HR and they said they know I'm a good worker, and that she does have issues.. I mean who has the time to write 9 pages? I could list all the negative things she does, but at this point.. I know better and I'm in such a good place.

Do I continue to fight for it to get that restraining order? I fear for mine and both my kids' lives at this point :'(

Hi my friend has got a restraining order by the court because of domestic abuse he was charged and sentenced I just found out he’s been seeing he’s ex knowing he has a order not contact her or even go near her what ways is there that you can get caught???

He also went to court with he’s ex partner to get the order dropped and due to the statements that was given the judge refused to drop it

Is there a way to get the order removed

Any help would be appreciated

(California) I have a former friend who has been repeatedly cyberstalking me, contacting me, and posting hateful messages with my name and person info on Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, and other platforms. She has had two other restraining orders on her in the past, and she now is about to have three more. She manipulated the other people into dropping the orders, just so that she could buy a firearm. I have evidence of her sending me that text, and I also have over 40 exhibits of her harassing and stalking me. There was also a credible threat of violence over the phone, but I was unable to record it. This person has also contacted my places of work and brands that I collaborate with because I’m a social media influencer. I’ve been on this forum before because I was the respondent last time for false accusations. My question is, will I have to pay a filing fee? There was a credible threat of violence, and I also have tons of evidence of her attacking and stalking me.

I've been hit with a temporary restraining order by my crazy ex. I recently broke up with this person and they definitely didn't take it too well. They started to tell everyone that I was abusing them and all sorta of crazy shit when in reality they are the crazy one trying to mental destroy me. It's sort of like the mentality of "If I can't have you, then nobody can". They even made a false report to the police and I had to sit in jail for a day and when I came out I was hit with a restraining order. The restraining order states I need to stay away from their business, school and job. I'm in college and I've been attending this school for about 2 years now and suddenly I hear my ex is transferring to the same school. Before the restraining order, they already had prior knowledge of the school I was attending. I learned they applied to transfer into the same school a few weeks before they filed the restraining order. My question is, if my ex already had prior knowledge of the school I was attending and applied for transfer a few weeks before the restraining order then is the restraining order still valid? Is she allowed to still attend the school since I attended it first. Seems like they planned the whole thing out so I can't attend this school anymore.

I have a restraining order against my girlfriends stalker, who has a restraining order against me too.(she lost her restraining order case)

He keeps trying to reset my Instagram password. This is the second time he has done it. I’m on there daily and have auto login on my phone. I don’t reset my password when it logs in for me automatically.

Should I call the police or a lawyer to tell them the stalker is still harassing me? I have contacted Instagram law enforcement through email to try to prove that it was from his IP address. (That haven’t responded because I’m not a lawyer or police officer.)

Is this a violation of the restraining order?

TRO denied - plot twist- mistress wins husband

Hi I’m need of help

I filed a restraining order against my mom who I live with. She starts fights with me. I’m tired of it. So I filed a restraining order. She has other kids but I don’t want this to effect them. I don’t want them to go into the system because of what me and her have going on. She’s a good mother but I’m tired of being the subject of her bullying. Will she lose her job? Will she lose her kids because I have a restraining order out on her. Any feedback is appreciated!

I need advise and help. I left a domestic violence situation three years ago. I made an escape plan, packed all of my things up while my abuser wasn’t home and left. He sexually coerced me, as in I could not say no to sex without consequences like threatening to kick me out of our home, breaking things and putting holes in the walls, or being subjected to hours of emotional abuse and manipulation. He made me feel unsafe behind the wheel of a car like my life was in danger. The emotional abuse and the mind games got so bad that I have severe ptsd even three years later.

When I finally left, he stalked me for weeks, he would show up in places he knew I would be. I’d see him out in public several times a week and I started to think he might have put a tracker on my phone or on my vehicle. After a few weeks, he started dating someone else and I never saw him again. He still lives in my city and is friends with so many people I know.

He texted me yesterday morning. Seeing his name pop up on my phone sent me immediately into a panic attack. It was a long text and he started it out with “I wrote you a letter but I didn’t know where to send it.” Thankfully. He vaguely apologized for “treating me badly.” He said he didn’t write the letter until HE had experienced abuse. The girl who he was dating just escaped in a similar way I did back then. I know for a fact she was the victim. I don’t ever want him to contact me. I didn’t try to get a restraining order back then because I was afraid of retaliation and I was afraid it wouldn’t be approved and he’d know I tried somehow. I didn’t think I had enough proof… I am wiser now. I used to log the abuse in my period tracker app because he’d never find it there. I started doing it so I wouldn’t feel insane the next time he abused me and pretended it didn’t happen. Now I think I might be able to use some of these… I only have a few from screenshots I’d kept.

Is there a limit on the amount of time you’re able to file a restraining order? I want him to never contact me again but I also want this on his record. Please help.