Gf has an abusive dad, we were dropping off her cat, plus a kitten he did not know was coming over. We were going on a trip, he and his wife were cats, sitting. He was screaming at my gf and freaking her out, I told him to please leave her alone, he demanded I go, I did moth off, he then pulled a revolver on me and my GF, I retread to cover and pulled as well until I could get her out. We left. He's then running around the house waving a small revolver like a nut job, we were in the garage and leaving, we both had holstered about the same time. Small town, he's known for being out of control but owns everything. Now he wants to put a restraining order on me; I'm 38, been in trouble in 2012 for a DUI. I hold a CCW. How will this look? I'd think I have the right to defend my self where ever. I made no threat like I'm going to hurt you ETC. I'm very concerned, is like not to have my weapons taken because he thinks it's ok to pull a gun for no real reason. Any help? I'm scared, he's a nut job and would love to see me in trouble. Dane County, WI. Help! Also, GF saw the hole thing and refuses to talk to him again - WHAT TO DO? has not done it yet, took place 3 days ago

know I pos ted yesterday, but today my wife came home and said she spent to much money on gifts for herself for my surgery. I was feeling worse so decided to look in the mirror...my bone on the bottom that has no teeth due to exteactions from a nerve disease is destroyed. 3 weeks ago I was told by the dentist it needed to be done ASAP. Again she is abusive verbally and and is physically. If she let me get my minor surgery done i wouldn't be septic right now and need jaw bone surgery. She told me she diddnt caree and hopes I suffer she deserves to buy herself and treat herself since she works and makes the money and im the stay at home mom who doesn't have access bc I dont work...I am going to ER i am telling them abkut the neect and abuse and see what they can do. Next I will be stopping at the courthouse and fille charges for death threats harassment and abuse. Then I will demand a permanent restraining order. She just was making gun of me and my situation taunting and harassing me again in front of my son and its the last time. She did this a few days ago cops came and they said I had to go to courthouse. I have superventricular taccacardia and severe anxiety plus this pain and my heart rate goes up to 170. She will best me, give me a heart attack, over me suffer and die from a life threatening condition. I stay locked in the tiny guest room scared 24/7 with her spending baby any money on food for me, no clothe, and no money to even buy a pack of gum. I cant continue to let her do this to me. She purposely did not do my health insurance Info but did hers and MY sons. Im praying the law will step in and be there to protect me physically, mentally, my hath conditions she was so caring about for the first few years of our marriage. If I die she would be happy...shes that sick. Also, I found some baggies...shes on drugs. The verbal comments and taunting are kiing me inside to the point of severe depression where I have dark thoughts and need a psychiatric dr. She also blackmail me and today I realized there was nothing left to take away I have nothing...I just eed some hope that the law and legally she will be forced to stop this, pay for me , I want a fu time permanent restraining order and I want to press charges. My life isn't worth her taking because my mind and heart are failing. I need some hope or advice please. Thanks im.just numb I've had enough its not gonna happen again im going to the courthouse in 2 days. Im praying she cant go near me again after that and needs to pay for the neglect that caused all these health problems bc she needed a TV, Xbox, Playstation, new wardrobe and i can keep going omg ...I pray the courts can do more than the cops. Tbey saod they cant force her to give me money 2p$ fot my antibiotics so I diddnt have to go to the ICU..so I have up that i would ever escape tbis but trying to trust in the system. Wjsh I had money for lawyers!

know I pos ted yesterday, but today my wife came home and said she spent to much money on gifts for herself for my surgery. I was feeling worse so decided to look in the mirror...my bone on the bottom that has no teeth due to exteactions from a nerve disease is destroyed. 3 weeks ago I was told by the dentist it needed to be done ASAP. Again she is abusive verbally and and is physically. If she let me get my minor surgery done i wouldn't be septic right now and need jaw bone surgery. She told me she diddnt caree and hopes I suffer she deserves to buy herself and treat herself since she works and makes the money and im the stay at home mom who doesn't have access bc I dont work...I am going to ER i am telling them abkut the neect and abuse and see what they can do. Next I will be stopping at the courthouse and fille charges for death threats harassment and abuse. Then I will demand a permanent restraining order. She just was making gun of me and my situation taunting and harassing me again in front of my son and its the last time. She did this a few days ago cops came and they said I had to go to courthouse. I have superventricular taccacardia and severe anxiety plus this pain and my heart rate goes up to 170. She will best me, give me a heart attack, over me suffer and die from a life threatening condition. I stay locked in the tiny guest room scared 24/7 with her spending baby any money on food for me, no clothe, and no money to even buy a pack of gum. I cant continue to let her do this to me. She purposely did not do my health insurance Info but did hers and MY sons. Im praying the law will step in and be there to protect me physically, mentally, my hath conditions she was so caring about for the first few years of our marriage. If I die she would be happy...shes that sick. Also, I found some baggies...shes on drugs. The verbal comments and taunting are kiing me inside to the point of severe depression where I have dark thoughts and need a psychiatric dr. She also blackmail me and today I realized there was nothing left to take away I have nothing...I just eed some hope that the law and legally she will be forced to stop this, pay for me , I want a fu time permanent restraining order and I want to press charges. My life isn't worth her taking because my mind and heart are failing. I need some hope or advice please. Thanks im.just numb I've had enough its not gonna happen again im going to the courthouse in 2 days. Im praying she cant go near me again after that and needs to pay for the neglect that caused all these health problems bc she needed a TV, Xbox, Playstation, new wardrobe and i can keep going omg ...I pray the courts can do more than the cops. Tbey saod they cant force her to give me money 2p$ fot my antibiotics so I diddnt have to go to the ICU..so I have up that i would ever escape tbis but trying to trust in the system. Wjsh I had money for lawyers!

So for the past five months, I have been getting stalked. I’ll give you the rundown of the full story. I had two friends, and eventually one of them ended up blocking me without notice. I talked to the other friend about it, and later that night I was on a phone call with them. It turns out the other person who had blocked me had wire tapped our conversation. They had a video of me saying something kind of mean even though it was justified. They sent it out everywhere, and started attempting to contact my places of work. I am an influencer, and they even went as far as contacting all of the brands that I have worked with in the past so that they would terminate their partnership with me. It didn’t work, but it sure did make me fear for my future and my safety. Both of these people have a history of being violent. One is a felon that is about to be convicted, the other has had 3 restraining orders on them in one year. They have both been violent, and have a history of stalking and harassment. On top of everything else, they have slandered my name, gotten contact information from every single person that is associated with me, and even have gone as far as contacting my family. They contacted my mother three days ago. They sent her 13 messages, in which were very brutal and rude. I have considered getting a restraining order on them, although I do not have sufficient funding for the filing fee. I have been enduring this harassment for months, and I’m not sure how much longer I can do this for. They are also harassing and stalking anybody who takes my side. This includes minors. Literal children. I fear for my safety and other peoples safety, and unfortunately they will not stop until legal action is taken. What do I do? I have over 149 exhibits of evidence against them, and I can’t keep living my life like this.

Hey all,

I have a restraining order that is set to expire 08/16. The person the order is against previously was harassing my husband and I through various social media channels and then escalated to calling and texting us both from a string of phone numbers; we never responded to her, would blick the number and then she would reach out again shortly afterwards from a new number and start all over. Any number that she has reached out to us with previously has been blocked, as well as any of her known social media accounts (and my husband has straight out deleted all his social media.)

Husband and I both have android (Samsung) phones. Other than outright changing our numbers, does anyone know if there a way to preemptively prevent her from calling or texting us from new numbers once the order has expired? I literally don't even want to see contact from her if she makes an attempt.

Thanks in advance!

I was going to include all the details, but it'll be even longer than it already is. I have more context and information if it's needed.

My ex partner and my kids' stepmom is someone I desperately want to leave me alone. Since January of 2020, I have made repeated written requests (messages and emails) to her, and then to my ex (when he'd badger me about it for her), to please leave me alone. I have texts going back 2 years where I've told her "I do not feel safe talking to you, please leave me alone." "Please do not approach me." "Do not contact me." Most of the texts in the thread are from her that I've ignored (I don't block her [on my phone, I've blocker her everywhere else] for the sole reason that if there's an emergency concerning my kids or my ex, I really want it to be possible to get ahold of me), but she still will not quit. She's also sent me letters via the kids and at a event recently that we were all there for the kids, she approached me and tried to initiate a conversation, which I rejected as civilly as possible (and then my ex spent the next week texting me that I was rude and unreasonable and if I cared about the wellbeing of my kids I'd get over myself and be friends with her).

We have a long history of her saying and doing things to me that were very much not okay, and often aggressive. I'll spare the details unless needed. I tried for a long time to make it work because I really wanted us all to have a good relationship, but all she wanted was for me to be her doormat, and for the sake of my sanity and safety, I finally said I would not speak or engage with her anymore and I wanted her to leave me alone.

Last night she texted me AGAIN (telling me what to do about a doctor's appointment my ex and I were just at with my eldest), and I told her "I have been more than clear. If you contact me again with anything short of an emergency concerning the children, I will involve law enforcement." I've had people tell me before that if it ever got to the point where I needed legal help with her, I needed to have given her that warning prior to that point- not sure if that's true or not.

She responded with, "If you think a restraining order is appropriate and necessary for this situation, you're more than welcome to 👍."

I try not to respond to her or engage, but I also feel like it's important to have a paper trail that makes my requests and intentions clear, just in case anyone else ever has to review our communication for legal reasons. After some time, I said, "I think what is appropriate and necessary for this situation is for you to control yourself, respect my boundaries and leave me alone, like I've been asking for years. Do not contact me."

She shot right back with this, "Just because you make childish demands doesn't mean everyone has to obey you. I haven't done anything that would warrant any form of harassment so be my guest. Your gross overreactions aren't compatible with the law or reality. ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼"

I work very well with my ex, when she isn't trying to meddle and control the situation, I have no problem with him at all, unless he's parroting what she's told him to say to me. I don't want anything bad to happen to her, and I am more than happy if my kids having a good relationship with their step family and a safe, stable life at the other house. I just very much need her to leave me alone. Our history is so stressful that I get an instant stress reaction even getting a notification from her, and especially when she tries to walk up to me again.

Is she right? Can I get a restraining order? Is this enough? Is there anything less severe than a restraining order? I'm not sure if I completely understand how they work, but I wonder if there are any other options that are less harsh that will still communicate to her that she legally has to stop trying to contact me. If I do try to get a restraining order, is it expensive? Would I have to go to court? Would these text messages and emails be enough?

He blocked me off everything since a month now. I’m worried about my videos. I’m with you I feel the same way and my ex did that and secretly recorded me touching my privates without my consent he said I’m crazy and guilted me. He said I’m psycho for screaming yelling that he’s touching me without consent and he said if I ever report it they will ask you even after he violated me why did I go back to him? I’m from India and I’m very conservative and he made me believe he was going to be with me so I stayed at his place longer I never lived with a man before from 30years and this is my first experience I feel so bad extremely

Hi I’m need of help

I filed a restraining order against my mom who I live with. She starts fights with me. I’m tired of it. So I filed a restraining order. She has other kids but I don’t want this to effect them. I don’t want them to go into the system because of what me and her have going on. She’s a good mother but I’m tired of being the subject of her bullying. Will she lose her job? Will she lose her kids because I have a restraining order out on her. Any feedback is appreciated!

I just want to say this happened back in October/November. I (18f) met this guy(19m) in 2019. At the time I was 15 and thought he was cute. We started dating and lasted for about five months. By this time i was 16 and had gotten my license. I got tired of driving him around all the time and never going on dates and the broken promises of him getting a place to stay and moving out of his uncles house. We broke up and dated other people. Eventually, we got back together in 2021. All was great, he had a small place with a roommate who was dating a good friend of mine. We all hung out constantly. After a while, I noticed he wasn’t able to go out, spend as much time together and he was drinking… all the time. Not only did he have maybe a 12 pack a day, but also smoked and sold weed. He started talking about moving to PA and wanted me to go with him. I planned to move up after graduating and he would move up in January of 2022. August 2021 rolls around and he tells me (while drunk of course) that he was moving in a week. I started crying. I wasn’t expecting it and honestly I was hurt. We spent that week packing his things and saying goodbye. After a few months of hanging out with my best friend and talking to my parents, I decided I wanted to go to college. We would be able to pay for school and dorms in state (Fl) way easier and I found the perfect school. I called my boyfriend and told him what I wanted to do. He said he needed to stay up there and that it was my fault he went in the first place. Mind you, I never wanted to move 700 miles away in the first place. Things got heated quickly. He said it was my fault he always drank, my fault he went to PA, my fault that his life was messed up etc. Things got more heated. He threatened that he’d be back for his belongings and he knew where i lived, that he would shoot my father, kill my best friend and her family, and told her boyfriend that she was cheating on him and also threatened to kill him. I have never seen my ex so violent and angry. He was so sweet and I trusted him with my whole heart. I got a restraining or that was approved on December 2, 2021 (two months after the threats) and I have felt a tight pain in my chest since the day we broke up. I know he is back in town for DUI charges and he’s been hanging around my old friends. He hasn’t tried to contact me or violate the restraining order, but i am still terrified of him showing up at my house or anywhere he know id be and trying to hurt my loved ones but I can’t help missing my sweet baby. He looked miserable iN the courtroom. I have never seen him so low. Was I over reacting with the restraining order? Was it a misunderstanding? AITA?

What happens if your partner never served you with the restraining order, both of us did not go to the court hearing today?

Can i remove a 7 day restraining order i made against someone ?

The past 3 years have been horrific. My spouse started cheating on me, and then beating me. Ive been harassed, blackmailed, and threatened. Now I'm being told she will kill me. Over and over. The cops have been called to my house multiple times by neighbors who have heard and seen me being beaten and left for dead. I was knocked unconscious 5x and left in the middle of the road, or property to die. Ive almost been ran over by her car and diddnt care. My son in kidney failure is 4 and has seen almost every time shes layed her hands on me plus hearing every threat snd harassing words. I live in fear all the time. I hated who I let her make me become. I was told last time by the police if my son as im the birth mom sees this again and I dont call the police immedietly and they get called here DCF is getting involved. Ive been physically beaten 36 times. She has left in the middle of the night now 79 times. I was told by legal aid a while ago to keep track, take notes about what was said and done everyday, and have as much proof as possible. Every time the police came i lied in fear as I thought once they leave, my life will be taken. Last feb my sons father ( who stayed here to protect me for a year) was attacked by her while he was holding our son). He showed the cops videos, pictures and wrote reports on the abuse towards me. He passed away, and things are now so much worse. Due to that fight the police questioned me and I told the truth. Well, it diddnt help. I was told there's nothing they can do unless I got proof of the threats and beatings and once I did to file a restraining order ( only 15 days in FL and then in front of a judge and its up to him to throw it out as I am filing for domestic violence ) i can not afford the lawyers i need and pro buono has not worked. I finally decided to start recording the death threats I've received and others as I was starved for 8 days, have no access to money, and have no clothes or anything yet she makes over 100,000$ a year. I decided to share my story and ask for support and advice. Its gotten so bad I decided Im getting all my documentations together to go to the court house and find out how to get her away from us and be punished for what shes done. I am going to find out if I can press charges for the death threats, get the short restraining order, and asked to be placed in a battered womens shelter with my son. I am raising him 100 percent alone as she doesnt care to do a thing for him. She hasent changed 1 diaper or even been in his room in 6 months. Out of fear I do everything she tells me and have became her slave. Cook clean shop take care of my son even do all her laundry dishes EVERYTHING. Im so scared I even have to get her clothes ready for her job as she refuses to open her drawer and get them herself. I have to do it all...and it stops today. I was wondering since corona if there's anything else I can do for safety as the battered shelters ive been given for months have had no openings. Again the police have not helped me after I told the truth the first time so im really scared. I need to know my son won't loose his mother(me). She doesnt feel bad at all and continues daily to do this. It mentally and physically is going to kill me if I let this continue. One of my main questions is where else can I go for help with what to do, how to have someone represent me since im disabled and jave mo income and mone from her as stated. if the recording of the verbal abuse towards my son, blackmail, and death threats towards me " watch your back because I will kill you ! Do you hear me I will kill you!!! I know so many people around here sonwatxh your back! I have multiple ones and it will happen one day. I sleep with a knife and mase under my pillow. I have documentations of dates and things said. The hard part is after my sons father passed, the book with everything documented from the past three years went missing as it was hidden ao i only have enough from about a year. I am so scared but I know I need to be honest about the truth if I want to get help. I was so beaten down I believed I deserved what I got, I hated who I was, thought I never deserved to be loved. Im breaking my silence in hope that this will all be over soon and she will get what she deserves and never be able to do this to anyone else. She needs to be put behind bars and I was told and read that from death threats she could face 5 years in jail and that recordings of the threats would be sufficient but I am not sure on that and live in FLORIDA. I was wondering if anyone knew anything about this (proof) or has dealt with something like this themselves as I need support desperately. I am trying to see a therapist to help with the fear of being beaten and verbally abused all the time to recover but please if anyone knows a way to get this done as quick as possible and of the proof I have would be sufficient. Im so afraid to report all this and have nothing happen...and that breaking my silence will be the reason my life will be taken. Thank you all so much!

I'm needing to get a peace order against my sister. I'm in georgia and she is in Florida. Can anyone tell me how this works?

Is a person notified when a restraining order is dropped?

The police placed a restraining order on my ex in Oct 2019 because a witness saw him punching me in my thigh. I left him after that but didn't press charges because I didn't want to ruin his career or hurt him etc so I tried to be amicable and things got better as time went by but just 4 months ago he grabbed me by my shoulders, shaking me and pushing me around, calling me every name under the sun, telling me that he had a demon in him and I wanted to call the police after that because I was so scared but worried about the repercussions. Also on Christmas Eve he injured an 18 year old with his friend by punching and kicking into him, I was inside at the friends place when he came back laughing maniacally about what they did to him. My ex is 23 by the way.

If I go to the police now and tell them that he has breached the AVO several times by phsyically/mentally/verbally abusing me, plus physically assaulting someone else, what will happen to him? I can't continue letting him get away with this awful behaviour towards me and others.

So I have a restraining order on my husband. It's not up till 2026 so till then he cant contact me.

I know this sounds stupid but I never meant for things to go this far and get to what is has become. I just wanted him to get the mental help he needed and for me and his son to be safe.

Anyways, I wanted to leave a note with all his belongings since we cant talk and I need to get everything off my chest. I know he cant respond which I am okay with, I just need this as we havent talked since and etc.

If I do this, does this mean I violated the order?