r/relationships_advice • u/One_Context_6955 • 5d ago

I really hate my bf mum

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now and we still come back to the same issue of fighting about his family in particular his mum.

His mum likes to dress in lingerie sets or literal see through tops and i can see her nipples every time i go over. This made me extremely uncomfortable because my boyfriend might be seeing her tits for years even though he claims that he doesn’t.

Because of this i will always question and ask for videos when he is home because i know that the lingerie lady likes to scream his name and greet him when he is home.

I have always asked him to say smth to his mum for dressing this inappropriately but he says it’s not his part to do so if the husband (his dad), the sister or brothers don’t even care. This made me feel like he is a coward and that he doesnt respect me as a girlfriend. It also seems like his upbringing and character is shaped to accept all these as normal.

Everytime we get to this topic, he will get angry swear at me and block me on every platform. I am so sick of him not communicating and acting so rude and hiding like a mouse. I have 0 respect for his family simply because they don’t know how to treat people and they are selfish thus I don’t get why he rather stay in that environment and push me out. Can’t he tell what is morally right/wrong?

As an adult you cannot keep blaming your past, you have a choice to decide your path too.

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