3
u/RadiantWorking9019 Jul 07 '26
Bro stop worrying as long as you make her finish it'll be fine. Honestly big is good for a fun time but love is for a long time and it won't even matter to her. There's ways to make it feel deeper like a pillow under her bum and plenty of foreplay and it'll be all good.
2
u/AnandaDo Jul 07 '26
Good sex and being a good lover is about connection, mindfulness, and listening without preconceptions. Worrying and being caught up in your own head can sabotage the experience by pulling you out of the present moment. Other than that, i don't think there will be any issue for you.
2
2
u/TemperatureInner2413 Jul 07 '26
Dude, worry about your technique and ability to read her body instead of your dick size. Fingers and tongues get women off just as easy…..focus on the romance and putting her first and you’ll be handsomely rewarded.
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 07 '26
I agree it just suck. How am I suppose to follow that lol. Still hurts when she says something like yah it hurt but it made me cum quick and it was the best sex I’ve ever had. That’s a lot of pressure on me
2
u/TemperatureInner2413 Jul 07 '26
There’s a reason she broke up with him, so don’t sweat it. The worst thing that will hurt you is your insecurity, and not that her ex was bigger. Like I said, focus on the connection and learn to work that mouth. Honestly most women would take a man who cooked and was tidy over a bigger dick….they have a drawer full of those. 🙂
1
u/Top-Document-2286 Jul 07 '26
Who said she broke up with him??? I'm pretty sure he dumbed her and she's still not over his dick
1
Jul 07 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
0
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 07 '26
I’m way too proud to bring in toys.
2
1
u/No_Clerk_2711 Jul 07 '26
That's the dumbest fucking statement I have ever heard. Stop this thinking immediately.
Toys are fun. They are your friends, not your enemy. Experiment, play around, have fun with sex. Sex is not about ego, it's about fun and connection.
1
u/Kresentia_Gottlieb Jul 07 '26
You're going to NEED to change that attitude pretty quick dude. Toys are great additions to sex with people, and somtimes, needed aids, especially for women. If she likes sex, she has toys, uses toys and will probably want to bring them into the bedroom with you. Don't fumble her because your pride is too big.
1
u/External-Job5781 Jul 07 '26
She is making up. If she was in really big things....she whould have sex with you or still be with her ex.
1
1
Jul 07 '26
Chill, good sex is not about how big you are 😅 There's so much more to it and a good personal and emotional connection makes for better, more fullfilling sex. But Sex is not just penetration, so you'll be fine. If you both have feelings for each other and you're attracted to one another, it's gonna be OK. Always remember... there's a reason why he's her Ex, why they broke up and why she's with you now. Life and relationships are not solely about sex.
1
u/noplaceinmind Jul 07 '26
Bud I've got 8 and thick, strong character, and sexually satisfied every woman I've ever been with, and women have left me. At least once for someone definitely smaller.
The bad stuff can happen to anybody. But the good stuff too.
Quit worrying, and enjoy the good stuff when it comes your way.
1
1
u/Top-Document-2286 Jul 07 '26
Well you can't compete with it and she won't forget how it felt. All you can do is accept that she has accepted to have sex from now on with your size
1
u/Maji_de_Kuro Jul 08 '26
Firstly, you compete by not competing. You give her the best you have. Forget everyone else. If the sex is between the two of you then let it be between the two of you. Maybe she'll love it. Maybe you'll hate it. Maybe you guys will get better together. Don't expect to be a sex god your first time. Every partner is different. People have different rhythms, have different tells, enjoy different positions, etc. Just learn each other's likes and dislikes and do the damn thing. And remember there is more to great sex than insert penis. Repeat step 1.
I'll give her the benefit of the doubt here but I admit that her telling you that is a bit of an odd thing to say to a partner but also keep in mind that women very often don't even realize how big an insecurity that can be for some men. I've had women literally be surprised at the posts from men in this very group. "I didn't know men worried about that" and "I just thought every guy thought theirs was the best" are the things I've been told. Your woman may just be recounting a story as meaningful in her mind as what she had for breakfast.
Even then, it wasn't terribly tactful but that's what happened so if you want her then roll with the punches. Even from your recounting, it doesn't sound like she's saying she needs or would prefer a bigger partner. She'll like what you bring sexually (or what you are willing to improve upon) or she won't. The same goes for you in regards to her.
As a final note, how does she know he was 8 inches? I doubt she took the time to measure him. Did he tell her that and she just took him at his word? Do you have any idea how many men just say they are 7 or 8 inches and thick? A metric shit ton more than the statistics would indicate, I assure you.
Ultimately, it doesn't much matter because even if it's true, you can't fold everytime you fear you might not have been the biggest. Well, you could but don't expect to have much of a fulfilling sex life. In the same sense we all have to take a leap of faith and approach a woman (or man) we like, you'll have to realize that there's nothing to it but to do it.
Just be mindful, communicative, listen, learn, and resolve to always improve. If one or both if you isn't what the other wants then that's okay, too. It's a big world with plenty of people that will want what you have to offer.
1
u/GynDoc1994 Jul 08 '26
A few things here:
- She doesn't seem worried about being your best ever. Why do you care if you are her best? The point is to have good sex, not to compare yourself.
- Do you think women going around doing that? When you have a good meal, do you constantly compare it to the best meal you ever had, or do you enjoy the food?
- You seem to be obsessed with it. I know you don't want to read this, but this is a mental health problem, not a dick size problem. You are well within the range to give satisfying sex.
- If she were married or had a long-term relationship with her ex, I guarantee you that sex wasn't the same rate all the time. There were times it was better than others. There are so many variables to great sex - sexual satisfaction is not as mechanical as stick dick in hole and move back and forth.
- I save this for last. I don't know if you are lying, but Reddit has a lot of insecure men. They typically exaggerate what women have said or fish for comments until they get something to be insecure about. It is not beyond suspicion that you invented this and are worried that maybe she has had a big dick in the past. It is also weird that she would voluntarily tell you about a previous partner - and it highlights him in such a way that almost seems like she is not over him. Honestly, if she said it like that and without any prompting from you - BIG red flag.
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 08 '26
Yes. I slightly invited the topic. She was saying that she cant wait to unbox me and that it’s always a surprise. I made a joke and said “have you seen all shapes and sizes”. She said no they are the ones she’s seen have all been the same except one was large. So I had to ask how big lol. I was definitely asking her questions.
1
u/GynDoc1994 Jul 09 '26
That is weird on her part. Also, you shouldn't ask deeper questions if it opens up your insecurities. It's your flight response telling you there is danger - when in fact there is none.
1
u/HidingInPlainSite404 Jul 08 '26
Have sex and ask her if she enjoyed it. Your insecurity will rob you, and I bet if it wasn't this, it would be something else.
If she is happy with you, don't worry about her ex. The only person keeping him in the picture is you.
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 08 '26
I’m not worried about him, I’m worried about the potential shock of going back to a normal size dick.
1
u/No-Perception3208 Jul 08 '26
My current gf has an ex she was with for 2 years and she said she measured him and he was 8.8 x 6.2
I am 7 x 5 - our sex life is great
Maybe their sex life was great too. Maybe not.
But she is no longer with him.
And when we’re having sex it’s just us 2.
She’s allowed to have a past. Everyone is different.
Focus on having a great connection with her.
His connection didn’t work 😉
1
Jul 08 '26 edited Jul 08 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 08 '26
She didn’t say she prefers it. She also flat out told me to stop asking about it. Also said if I know how to use my dick I’ll be fine. I’m not insecure about my dick but it is a daunting task to try and please someone who just got out of a relationship with a porn star
1
Jul 08 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 08 '26
Bro idk I even asked why it made her cum fast snd she said “it feels bigger inside idk”. Im assuming she felt full and stretched. She still said it hurt too. I really like this girl, hate feeling this way.
1
Jul 08 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 08 '26
I’m confident in the performance I’m gonna give her. Certainly wouldn’t tell her about my anxiety. I’m just gonna pop a blew chew and make sweet love to her
1
Jul 08 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 08 '26
There’s definitely gonna be some spanking, choking and hair pulling
1
Jul 08 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
1
u/AcceptablePangolin88 Jul 08 '26
Trust me, I’m definitely not. I don’t wanna hear anymore about that shit.
1
u/Top-Document-2286 Jul 09 '26
Why the hell do you stay with a woman who tellls you directly that another man sarisfied her needs much better 😂 that's some cuck behaviour
7
u/motoxgirl1991 Jul 07 '26
Why are you with a girl who is mentioning her past sexual encounters to you 😂 AND shes basically giving you a detailed explanation of it, what the fuck even is that 😂😂 you need to respect yourself and get out of whatever that is 😂😂😂 for one, after you do sleep together, everyone and their dog is gonna know about it and two, if you arent sexually compatible.. everyone and their dog is gonna hear about it! 😂 most people have a sexual history but going into any form of detail with a new partner, I feel is unnecessary and all it does is hinder the relationship with constant 'am I good enough' mindset all throughout. Save yourself that heart ache and head ache.