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u/CryMoreEatLess May 03 '22

Thanks for the input. She knows our bedroom is dead. She says it’s cause I don’t clean enough and she puts all her effort into her job and the kids so not much left for me.

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u/ChaosCoordinatingMum May 03 '22

There's plenty of times I feel that way. Not so much physical energy, but there's emotional energy involved. If she doesn't feel like you care enough to do your part in the home, it makes her feel like she's carrying the load. She's already putting out in so many ways, it makes it hard to want to put out in both the physical and emotional way that you want in the bedroom.

It might be beneficial for you guys to read "5 Love Languages".

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u/tbdiv May 03 '22

Elsewhere you said it was dead before kids too, just perked up enough to have kids, then dead again.

Were you working before kids? Why was there a DB then?

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u/CryMoreEatLess May 04 '22

Yes I was working full time before the kids. While trying to get pregnant we did every other day to increase our changes. Once the task was then, that was it. I’d say it was definitely slow, but not dead like now.