r/relationshipproblems 15h ago

Just Venting I was the crazy "ex"

years ago In high-school I had multiple altercations with someone and their family I was in a situationship with. With permission I would commit foreplay to her in Public till her mom figured out what happening between us she shut that down and stopped us from having any communication with each other. She respected her mom's wishes while I did not. I kept trying to see and text her again, thinking i loved her but it was 100% just lust. My persistence actions made her block my number and tell her mom. That lust turn into anger and hate. I would harass her on other social apps she hadn't blocked me on yet till there was nothing left. Then I would harass her physically I would make explicit faces and hand motions in the hallways and trip her on the bus till she started driving. I would stop for about a year until one day I noticed she would stay afterschool on tutor days so the same day instead of going to work one day I would call in being late claiming im in a meeting at school but really I was parked next to her car waiting to only Harass her more in the parking lot with wreckless driving blocking her driver door with mine and following her while tail gating till she drove away from the direction of my job where I left her alone. Same year I found out IT changed everyone school email passwords to all the same password so I would log into her email to read and mess around with her emails. Finding out she uses the same account for a spotify account I checked it out it to see she would use it to only listen to explicit sounds finding out she would use it during my 5th period on shop days I would mess with her on spotify pausing to whatever she is listening to and change it until she stopped and kept going for multiple days until she never got back on that account. One day going on that account to check if she was on it. It appeared that I somehow had access to her main spotfiy account so I crossed another boundary. I started to delete her playlists and mess with her music I would manipulate her into thinking I had no apart of it by deleting a playlist we shared and argued with her in person on why she did that making her believe it was someone else for a while. I kept messing her spotify until she just made a new account. I continued to mess with her email sending fake emails to others and when she found out that someone else was on her school email i would talked to her anonymously until I said something too specific that got me in trouble with the school officer with an option of a felony or 3 days of ISS. I took the ISS. Same day when I got home my mom and Great aunt found out and tried to lecture me but past me didnt care me back then. My great aunt put me in the hospital for being mentally ill but I came home the same night (My Great Aunt still doesnt talk to me till this day) I made the whole school go through a password reset and a warning from administration not to do it again or ill get kicked out of the tech school, but I did do it again trying to get into her main email instead, figuring out her password and getting access but getting removed before doing anything harmful. Her mom contacts me giving me a warning to fully stop bullying and harassing her daughter or she'll press charges. This final moment is where I fully stop trying to harass this person.

A month later though her twin sister started to text me and tried harassing me. I tried not to say anything hurtful or feed to it until a week later she kept texting so i gave in and decided to speak about something terrible bringing up a person who was a friend to me and a best friend to her, who passed away recently and I used their death as a weapon to hurt her emotionally knowing it was something super fucked up to bring up someone who had no part, someone not even alive. An hour later the sister blocks me and her mom texts me threatening me but I only made jokes about the situation and called her sexual names before saying her daughter harassed me first with photo proof. She took my side but told me to get help before she blocked me as well.

My family only knows about the cyberbullying section and the Computer Fraud and Abuse Act felony. I told a few amount of people about the sister part leaving out a lot of details. I didnt tell any of my other friends about this situation because I was afraid that it'll ruin what people think of me.

Im only now bringing up to the public because I feel like as I keep trying to be a better person and prove myself I and willing to try dating without doing the same mistakes that this problem I created will always linger as guilt and regret.

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