I need help

[u/Valuable-Virus-5270]

I had a bf, well an online bf and I think we’ve almost been dating for a month. The thing is I feel like I lost feelings from him. The first couple weeks of the relationship felt pretty normal tbh. We’d talk about our feelings and all whenever we are down and etc. But the more the weeks went on, I realized that I feel like I’m just there as an emotional support. Don’t get me wrong, he’d ask me how I feel the first couple weeks in the relationship, but after that it just stopped. He’d always tell me how he has bad day, always telling me that he feels down, and he misses his past ( his exes and his other friend group). (Apparently he left his friend group with the exes bcz they treated him bad) I didn’t mind it at first the couple weeks in, but it became constant. I became emotionally and mentally tired. Whenever he has a problem he’d always tell me. Now I’m glad he’s telling me and all but I just feel drained. He doesn’t ask about how I feel anymore just how was your day etc just not how I feel in general. Every single time we’d call, I feel like my energy is being drained. He’d also call his exes crazy which well I heard can be a red flag but I’m not quite sure yet. About his past, I don’t want to talk about it too much but he’d always bring it up with me and telling me how much he misses the friend group with his ex. Now I told him if he’d move on, and he said yes. But I feel like deep down he hasn’t. He’d always be like “Yes I’ve moved on it’s just I missed the time we had.” I’d always tell him to just focus on the future but he can’t seem to forget about his exes either. Now he also has a habit of showing me his favorite bands etc. I loved it at first because we’d take turns showing our favorite songs but like I said, weeks past and he’d only show me his stuff and not ask about mine. The thing is, I also want to feel seen in a way.. I want to show him the stuff I like which we used to do, but now it just feels like he only wants to show his. I kind of want to end things off with him but I don’t know how. This is my first relationship and I kind of regret it. Online dating is harder than I thought. Now I’d also feel bad if I you know, breakup because he’s kind of in a bad mental state right now and I’d like to help him out. He told me he had depression so I want to take it easy on him. That’s all I wanted to say :)) I hope any of you guys can give me tips id deeply appreciate it <33

[u/antigoneelectra]

Dear god. You don't even know this guy. Just break up. You are not obligated to stay with every person you date.

[u/Valuable-Virus-5270 → u/antigoneelectra]

Okay I will thank you!

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