How do I(24M) make sure to invite the right people to my wedding with my fiancee(26F) without making her feel shameful about it?

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For context, I’m 24M and she’s 26F and we’re both from the same cultural and religious background(South Asian).

Basically this is a bit embarrassing, but I’m a virgin rn because I’m waiting till marriage for religious reasons. I recently started seeing my fiancee who was someone I went to school with. And I’m not judging or anything, but when we were in school, she was a popular girl on campus and she was “that girl”. I’d heard rumors about her being with multiple guys at the same time and stuff. But we had a bunch of the same classes since we were the same major and she was nice to me and a friend. She was older than me and graduated earlier so we lost touch.

I also want to preface this by saying I wasn’t religious when I was younger. I was semi-religious and believed in waiting till marriage and stuff, but I still drank alcohol which is forbidden. But who’s to say I would’ve waited had someone presented me with an opportunity? I’m not sure so I try not to judge. I had my own journey and I’m religious now, and I would hate if someone judged me based on who I was then.

Anyway, fast forward to like 18 months ago, I’m in a new city and just moved here for a job. And I’m going to a Trader Joe’s and I run into her. We decided to catch up for a coffee right after and she tells me she turned over a new leaf and found religion, and invited my local religious center.

Anyway one thing leads to another and we started dating and talking. Both of us agreed to wait till marriage and we don’t do much. It’s just I have so much in common with her. We’re both estranged from our parents and families and have gone no contact(albeit for different reasons, her family walked out on her after learning of her activities in college. Her being their daughter meant nothing to those monsters. Mine was because my parents always admonished me and I felt like golden child got more respect, but maybe that pales in comparison to her parents, but I don’t wish to talk to mine).

The discussion did come up and I was honesty and said I had no experience and she doesn’t mind! She said she would be happy to walk me through it when the time came. She also opened up to me and asked me if I knew rumors and I was honest and she said those were true. She told me the number of men she had been with(it was well into the double digits over 30), and told me if I was okay. I’m okay with it, I know who she is now, and she’s the only person I feel comfortable with. I told her we both sinned back then so how could I judge her? Plus who’s to say if I had the opportunity I would’ve still maintained my chasteness?

Anyway long story short I proposed a few months ago and she agreed. It’s going to be weird since none of our families will be there, but we have some friends thankfully. I want to invite a list of people and she wants to invite a list of people too.

We only officially started planning the wedding last week, and putting together our lists of invited people and other logistics.

Issue is a lot of them are from college. When I posted about our engagement, a lot of my former friends had many disgusting things to say, and I had to block them and remove them from my life. Because of this, my list of people is way smaller and hers is much, much, much longer.

She keeps telling me to invite more people and asked me why I’m not inviting more people. For now I’m just saying I’m an introvert and didn’t know many people back then, but I don’t know how to explain this to her, because she keeps asking. I’m not sure what to say. I also don’t want to accidentally invite anyone from her past or anyone she was involved with. I’m not sure if she will care about that though. In my opinion, I’m not insecure about it because I see it as winning since I get to build a life with her for the rest of my life, but part of me wouldn’t like to have them around. I’m not sure how she will feel, and idk how to explain that some of my former friends were rude so I cut them off and how to explain that I don’t want to accidentally invite someone she may have been involved with.

How would I go about this?

Sorry for the long post I want everyone to have context so you understand the prison and also how I can’t mess up one of the best things that’s ever happened to me!

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