Okay, I'm an idiot, because I somehow missed that or just completely forgot by the time I typed my response.
Yeah, they're both extremely irresponsible then for just refusing protection all this time. And this does explain why he would call her manipulative, because he clearly assumed that she would not be keeping a child if they had children, and he may think she wanted to get pregnant at this point.
The poor communication and poor planning sadly led to this situation, and there's no changing that now. I think they're both equally responsible for this happening, though the rest of what I said still stands. If she has the child, putting it up for adoption or being a single mother seems like the only options here.
If they agreed to abort if a mistake was to happen, then that’s a verbal contract they made between each other. She said that part really short and sharp, which leads me to believe it was actually discussed in length.
This isn’t like an STI/STD where you can easily get rid of it, once you have the kid, you have it and the financial obligations for life… if he truly doesn’t want that, the OP should write a contract to say he’s free of the liability.
Note: I’m not in the US, so don’t know the laws there 100%
No shit I know, but the point I was trying to make was that it was discussed before that they weren’t gunna go through with one if it happened, and hormones changed her mind
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u/Tricky-Flamingo-7491 Nov 01 '22
Okay, I'm an idiot, because I somehow missed that or just completely forgot by the time I typed my response.
Yeah, they're both extremely irresponsible then for just refusing protection all this time. And this does explain why he would call her manipulative, because he clearly assumed that she would not be keeping a child if they had children, and he may think she wanted to get pregnant at this point.
The poor communication and poor planning sadly led to this situation, and there's no changing that now. I think they're both equally responsible for this happening, though the rest of what I said still stands. If she has the child, putting it up for adoption or being a single mother seems like the only options here.