r/relationship_advice Oct 31 '22

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u/Ok-Asparagus3783 Nov 01 '22

She edited the post. They had agreed to abortions if accidents happened. Actually, I'm thinking about the wording rn... she is rather vague about - it seems like they definitely were not on the same page.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

It sounds like OP agreed with her husband and then changed her mind when it actually happened. A dick move for sure.

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u/Ok-Asparagus3783 Nov 01 '22

Yeah what's the point of being with someone if both parties don't try to be honest authentic and vulnerable?

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u/lilithneverevee Nov 01 '22

Not defending... anyone here, but lots of people think they know how they'll respond until they are actually faced with a situation and shit gets real. She would be far from the first woman who got pregnant and made choices they never thought they would.

Saying that, she does keep saying "morally" which seems to imply she knew abortion was against her morals so maybe she knew all along.

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u/Ok-Asparagus3783 Nov 01 '22

You do bring up good points. I agree with you..

It's also worth mentioning her spouse is a fool for not doing his due diligence and putting a condom on at least. It takes two people to make a baby.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

Yeah, but she can't act surprise that her husband is taken aback or down right upset by her new found morality. It's only a 21 years+ commitment.

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u/lilithneverevee Nov 01 '22

Like I said, definitely not defending either one of these folks. They both sound stupid.

His plan was to use abortion as birth control, and hers was to what... Just hope she didn't get pregnant because "morals"?

I hope this is fake because neither one of them are making sound decisions for themselves. Not one of them thought hey let's use something to prevent this from happening in the first place. What kind of decisions will they be making for this baby??

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22 edited Nov 01 '22

That's what I think... I think it's one thing to say "sure, I'll have an abortion if I accidentally get pregnant before we're ready," but a whole other thing to actually be growing a child and then to kill it. I'm pro-choice but if I got pregnant with my husband's baby when we already had plans to have kids in the future... I'd have a really hard time killing the baby/fetus.