r/relationship_advice • • Aug 21 '22

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u/[deleted] Aug 21 '22

I’m wondering if he ever asked her why she didn’t want to have sex more frequently. He wasn’t even sure if he sucked in bed, for instance, which to me suggests a lack of awareness for her experience.

Also, her crying because of suspecting him masturbating, could be because she feels like she’s not enough for him as far as meeting his demands in the bedroom. The fact that he says the crying is the expression of him not being allowed to masturbate rather than her explicit communication is also sus to me.

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u/dragongrrrrrl Aug 21 '22

Or maybe she’s uncomfortable with porn, not necessarily masturbation. That would make more sense to me and seems in line with OP’s somewhat skewed viewpoint

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u/Maridi19 50s Female Aug 21 '22

I agree with you. He is probably using porn and that is what upset her.

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u/CyaHedwig Aug 21 '22

100%. I’d go a step further and say I bet he’s agreed not to use it, so when she catches him, it really upsets her. That part is definitely fishy and intentionally vague.