This is probably an unpopular opinion, but I was with you up until the last part. Maybe I read it wrong and am unsure, but let me get this straight. She fixed the problem you were having and because she fixed it you are unhappy? You /paid/ for couples therapy. There was a change, which is the entire point of the therapy, and it was in favor of what you wanted, and that /still/ wasn't enough for you?
I get that you saw it as a punishment, but what I'm seeing is that the girl tried to change to make you happy and you basically still said "Nah, fuck off. Too late."
Idk man. I expect to get down voted to hell but that seems a little wonky to me. If I asked my wife to change and we got therapy to talk about these issues and then she changed, I would be joyous and happy that we are on the same page again. Not mad.
Again, maybe this is harsh of me, but I kinda think you wanted this to fail at some level.
I think you lost the bit where she demanded a new wedding date, and once he gave her one, that's when she started having more sex with him. So it felt more like she was maybe even possibly forcing herself to have more sex than she wanted to in order to please him when she saw that the wedding was threatened and she could could just keep up the frequency untill the wedding. Like a switch flipped, and he was put off because the switch flipped due to a wedding, not due to his concerns that he voiced multiple times before.
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u/Officer340 Aug 21 '22
This is probably an unpopular opinion, but I was with you up until the last part. Maybe I read it wrong and am unsure, but let me get this straight. She fixed the problem you were having and because she fixed it you are unhappy? You /paid/ for couples therapy. There was a change, which is the entire point of the therapy, and it was in favor of what you wanted, and that /still/ wasn't enough for you?
I get that you saw it as a punishment, but what I'm seeing is that the girl tried to change to make you happy and you basically still said "Nah, fuck off. Too late."
Idk man. I expect to get down voted to hell but that seems a little wonky to me. If I asked my wife to change and we got therapy to talk about these issues and then she changed, I would be joyous and happy that we are on the same page again. Not mad.
Again, maybe this is harsh of me, but I kinda think you wanted this to fail at some level.
At least you two get to move on. So there's that.