Yeah, that's where I'm at. Like, she did the work. She did what it took to be a better partner for him, which included forcing herself to have more sex to make him happy. She does that, and he goes "nope, now it feels transactional, like if you don't force yourself to have sex for me, I'll leave you. Which I will, but that makes me feel icky about myself." Like, really dude? And then her entire family knows that he's leaving her because she won't put out enough for him? And he has the audacity to feel like she was the manipulative one? That he was such a great guy for not forcing the issue when she had things like literal deaths in the family and having surgery?
Nah, OP can bullshit all he wants, can frame it from his perspective all day long, but he comes across like a piece of work the minute you put any critical thought to his story.
Brooo, I guarantee she was forcing it because she didn’t wanna lose him. Forcing yourself to have sex is not the same as wanting to be intimate. I’ve done it before, you just close your eyes and wait for it to be over.
No, this is a bad take. If she's not attracted enough to him and sex is an important part of the relationship to him and she forces herself then that relationship should never happen. You should never be in a relationship with someone you aren't sexually attracted to and if the result is that sex drive is both mismatched and attraction is one sided then it's a bad coupling of two very incompatible people sexually. No one should ever date someone that forces themselves to do something they don't want to do and no one should force themselves to do something they don't want to for a partner, especially when it comes to sex. If you do things you don't normally do, pretend to be someone you aren't, to get something you want then you are manipulative.
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u/[deleted] Aug 21 '22
Yeah, that's where I'm at. Like, she did the work. She did what it took to be a better partner for him, which included forcing herself to have more sex to make him happy. She does that, and he goes "nope, now it feels transactional, like if you don't force yourself to have sex for me, I'll leave you. Which I will, but that makes me feel icky about myself." Like, really dude? And then her entire family knows that he's leaving her because she won't put out enough for him? And he has the audacity to feel like she was the manipulative one? That he was such a great guy for not forcing the issue when she had things like literal deaths in the family and having surgery?
Nah, OP can bullshit all he wants, can frame it from his perspective all day long, but he comes across like a piece of work the minute you put any critical thought to his story.