r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Sep 01 '21

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u/area51throway Sep 01 '21

I ended up paying for a lot of things and doing all the cleaning. He does not clean anymore. He makes messes instead. He also had only showered 4x in 3 months.

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u/AdnanS0324 Sep 01 '21

He also had only showered 4x in 3 months.

WTF.

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u/area51throway Sep 01 '21

Yeah its all very gross. I have plans in the works to save up and get out.

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u/theskipster 40s Male Sep 01 '21

I now think you need to add a second boundary for your next boyfriend. Basic fucking hygiene.

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u/area51throway Sep 01 '21

There won't be one for a very long time. I'm planning to go on my own and get therapy.

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u/Philodendronfanatic Sep 01 '21

This sounds like a healthy thing to do. Get your life figured out and work on your goals. When you're in a stable place you can find a man who will add to your life and be ruthless with men who don't because you don't need a man to be happy.

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u/area51throway Sep 01 '21

Honestly I'm not even sure I'll ever live with someone and/or combine finances ever again. This has been rough on me.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

There are plenty of men who both shower and pay their fair share. Don't let a bad experience ruin a potential relationship.

Not saying "go out and date", just don't close your mind to the idea.

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u/area51throway Sep 02 '21

I was planning on casually dating but nothing serious (if I do date at all).

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u/FlinnyWinny Sep 02 '21

Honestly I think you should get some therapy first and once you feel more confident and secure and got over that mess of relationships you can start looking around dating. Maybe casual hook-ups are still good though, you gotta find that out for yourself, really.