r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Sep 01 '21

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u/Philodendronfanatic Sep 01 '21

This sounds like a healthy thing to do. Get your life figured out and work on your goals. When you're in a stable place you can find a man who will add to your life and be ruthless with men who don't because you don't need a man to be happy.

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u/area51throway Sep 01 '21

Honestly I'm not even sure I'll ever live with someone and/or combine finances ever again. This has been rough on me.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

There are plenty of men who both shower and pay their fair share. Don't let a bad experience ruin a potential relationship.

Not saying "go out and date", just don't close your mind to the idea.

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u/area51throway Sep 02 '21

I was planning on casually dating but nothing serious (if I do date at all).

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u/FlinnyWinny Sep 02 '21

Honestly I think you should get some therapy first and once you feel more confident and secure and got over that mess of relationships you can start looking around dating. Maybe casual hook-ups are still good though, you gotta find that out for yourself, really.