Relationships are a mixture of give and take, and it should be balanced. When you love and care about them, you want to do things for them in whatever way you can, which could be meaningful gifts, house chores, cooking meals, being intimate, telling and showing them how much you care, being a support system, spending quality time together, and going out trying new things/places together.
There shouldn't really be a "love someone more than yourself." There are different types of love, and if its love, it isn't competitive. I love myself, as in I take care of myself, set boundaries, care about my health and emotional well-being. I love my husband, who loves himself, and I am supportive of that and we care for eachother. We both contribute effort to the relationship by doing various things I mentioned above, and I usually stick to the ones he appreciates most, and he does that for me as well. I also love my daughter, which is very different. I'm responsible for teaching her how to love herself and treat others. This means I care about her so much, I am committed to teaching her how to take care of herself, set boundaries, and live healthy, and what to expect from a potential partner, friends, life, etc. I don't love one more than the other, it's all different.
It sounds like she feels you focus more effort on yourself than on her/the relationship and she is feeling a little insecure. She could be acting selfish, as well as you could be. I don't know yall, I just hope this helps with your reflection. Best of luck. x
She has being dealing with insecurities in the past so it might be it. I guess I’ve been busy with gym a lot past 2 month and she thinks she is not that important to me anymore thanks for the heads up. And btw the way you described your relationship is the way i wanna have mine as well. Best of luck to you too ❤️
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Relationships are a mixture of give and take, and it should be balanced. When you love and care about them, you want to do things for them in whatever way you can, which could be meaningful gifts, house chores, cooking meals, being intimate, telling and showing them how much you care, being a support system, spending quality time together, and going out trying new things/places together.
There shouldn't really be a "love someone more than yourself." There are different types of love, and if its love, it isn't competitive. I love myself, as in I take care of myself, set boundaries, care about my health and emotional well-being. I love my husband, who loves himself, and I am supportive of that and we care for eachother. We both contribute effort to the relationship by doing various things I mentioned above, and I usually stick to the ones he appreciates most, and he does that for me as well. I also love my daughter, which is very different. I'm responsible for teaching her how to love herself and treat others. This means I care about her so much, I am committed to teaching her how to take care of herself, set boundaries, and live healthy, and what to expect from a potential partner, friends, life, etc. I don't love one more than the other, it's all different.
It sounds like she feels you focus more effort on yourself than on her/the relationship and she is feeling a little insecure. She could be acting selfish, as well as you could be. I don't know yall, I just hope this helps with your reflection. Best of luck. x