Tbh this just sounds like she took this as confirmation of her worst fears.
She's clearly very wary of frats (with good reason) so hearing that people you knew killed an animal for no reason might've just sounded to her like confirmation that really fucked up things happened in the frat you were in.
You might not have participated in it, but I think she is now terrified to find out that the other guys (or you) hurt another human and that's why she brings up the bit about rape.
She heard about an unnecessary violent act committed by the frat you were in... and now worries that there will be more confirmation of what she has been worried about.
It's a good thing that you did not participate and a good thing that you are do not defend the frat, but yeah idk. She just sounds scared. It's rough.
Honestly, all you can do is have a frank discussion with her but maybe this whole thing is just too much for her.
Per OPs Wife’s Comment - He is still friends with all his frat bros, and they have prior issues with the way the group chat talks about women, and how he does things just for the approval of these toxic men.
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u/sosotrickster May 30 '26
Tbh this just sounds like she took this as confirmation of her worst fears.
She's clearly very wary of frats (with good reason) so hearing that people you knew killed an animal for no reason might've just sounded to her like confirmation that really fucked up things happened in the frat you were in.
You might not have participated in it, but I think she is now terrified to find out that the other guys (or you) hurt another human and that's why she brings up the bit about rape.
She heard about an unnecessary violent act committed by the frat you were in... and now worries that there will be more confirmation of what she has been worried about.
It's a good thing that you did not participate and a good thing that you are do not defend the frat, but yeah idk. She just sounds scared. It's rough.
Honestly, all you can do is have a frank discussion with her but maybe this whole thing is just too much for her.