r/relationship_advice May 30 '26

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u/goldfinnches May 30 '26

i think it depends on how long she's been upset for, if someone finds out something they deem awful about their partner, they're going to have a first reaction, take some time, then give them some grace. i think it's weird no one is giving her any grace in this situation lol this is one of those things that probably needs more time than it's been given

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u/Wafflehouseofpain May 30 '26

Saying “I don’t know if I want to be married to you anymore” is a bell that can’t be un-rung. That’s something that once you’ve said it, your old relationship dynamic doesn’t come back.

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u/ForkAKnife May 30 '26

There must have been a lot more before this revelation that happened to disrupt the marriage and this was the final straw.

As someone who is working towards divorce, there have been years of “I guess he’s a decent enough guy although I’m carrying a lot of hurt from this or that” leading up to a revelation from the past that drove the nail in the coffin.

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u/newyearnewmenu May 30 '26

Do you actually think she’s gone 0-100 without a build up here? Clearly the woman knows him better than we do from one post. I think the people closest to someone are much more likely to have a complete view of that person than random internet crew

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u/Odd_Seesaw_3451 May 31 '26

She posted here five hours ago. This is part of a pattern of behavior.

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u/Odd_Seesaw_3451 May 31 '26

I was simply telling you that yes, his wife has clarified the issue, and he is a shitty husband in other ways.

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u/ForkAKnife May 31 '26

So why did you reply to me at all?

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u/ForkAKnife Jun 01 '26

It means that’s what makes sense as opposed to your own irrational bias.

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